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post #41 of 49
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Originally Posted by janasmama View Post
This is exactly how I feel. Although I don't agree with circumcision, I don't want to be "haughty" (if that's even the right word) or appear that "my decision is better than yours" even if it really is.
I agree with you completely. But also, one way of defusing these situations (because it is completely true) Its not that your decision is better, because not circumcising is not about making a decision. What you are doing is saying "this is not a parental decision, its not my place." Your leaving the choice up to him.
post #42 of 49
Children are intelligent beings and if we lie to them, they will eventually figure out our lies. I don't think that is a good thing. I think we should tell our own children the truth. That is that all boys are born with a foreskin and some parents choose to cut it off but that we choose not to. Now it's a little trickier with other peoples children but they are also intelligent and should not be lied to.

I came from one of those areas where every male child was circumcised but I remember when I saw the first foreskin. I recognized the difference and somehow figured out that what I was seeing was normal and that I was not normal. However, it had been instilled in me that we didn't discuss sexual organs at all and it was some years later that I learned the "why" of the difference. I would have been quite upset if my parents had lied to me or if I had asked and they had not addressed my concerns with complete candor.


Frank
post #43 of 49
The original poster is in California - so am I and I have three intact sons. I don't make it a point to preach or flaunt intactness. We're in northern Cal and I know several middle class caucasian families who have gone the intact route. At least around here, it is an increasingly viable option and highly educated folks are often pro-intact.

I'd suggest just chilling out - over time you may find that your son is not alone.
post #44 of 49
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Originally Posted by MarnieMax View Post
The original poster is in California - so am I and I have three intact sons. I don't make it a point to preach or flaunt intactness. We're in northern Cal and I know several middle class caucasian families who have gone the intact route. At least around here, it is an increasingly viable option and highly educated folks are often pro-intact.

I'd suggest just chilling out - over time you may find that your son is not alone.
Once I was babysitting two different boys. One was intact, he was two. The other was 4 yrs old. He was circ'd.

I was changing the two yr old intact kid's diaper and the circ'd 4 yr old noticed he was different. He said, "What is that?".

I said, "Thats a foreskin. All boys are born with one, even you."

This was 6 yrs ago. I didn't have an intact ds at the time yet but I knew enough by that time to KNOW for sure it wasn't happening to another ds of mine.
post #45 of 49
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Originally Posted by A&A View Post
Answer: "That's the way all boys are born."

THEN if the kid has more questions, ya' send him back to his mom.
yep done that i also use "this is the way god made him" he is young and will not get any comments but if you hear them make a comment back even saying "thats his forskin". thats enought for them to go asking what it is. the down side of this is that they will then tell the child that it was something bad that they had taken off now he is better now that they took it of.
post #46 of 49
Here in Canada I would be more inclined to hide a cir'd son.
post #47 of 49
The only people who have ever said anything to me are adults (my step father actually did a few days ago in a "joking" manner when we visited. He said something about Andrew not being "fixed" to which i replied "just because your mother mutilated YOU and you mutilated your kids doesn't mean mine should be" which I've actually said to a few people, but not strangers). No kids or strangers have ever said anything though and I don't hide it. I don't know what I would say... definately not anything mean- i reserve mean for people who say things that are mean or knowingly ignorant.
Probably something like "that's how he is, I learned that while it used to thought to be neccessary, it isn't now"
post #48 of 49
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Originally Posted by A&A View Post
Answer: "That's the way all boys are born."

THEN if the kid has more questions, ya' send him back to his mom.
Good idea.
post #49 of 49
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Originally Posted by fruitful womb View Post
Once I was babysitting two different boys. One was intact, he was two. The other was 4 yrs old. He was circ'd.

I was changing the two yr old intact kid's diaper and the circ'd 4 yr old noticed he was different. He said, "What is that?".

I said, "Thats a foreskin. All boys are born with one, even you."

This was 6 yrs ago. I didn't have an intact ds at the time yet but I knew enough by that time to KNOW for sure it wasn't happening to another ds of mine.
laughup Oh, I just LOVE that answer! Love, love, love. It says it all.
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