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post #21 of 118
Well, I think there is a time and place for everything, and at this time, I cannot see how any parent would think it was just "okay" to let your kid get severely burned. : Had it been me, I would have said sunscreen or we're leaving, period. Some things are non-negotiable.
post #22 of 118
I am sorry, but I am thinking of a not very nice "natural consequence" for that boy's parents.

Poor little guy. How painful.
post #23 of 118
I bet he's a miserable little boy. Is he o.k?

Did they forget he didn't put on sunscreen and stay out longer than they meant to? I can't imagine allowing that in good consience.

I think "fine, then stay here" would have been a better consequence.
post #24 of 118
I have to agree with previous posters that allowing your child to get second degree burns (which I'm guessing this was, since it required a trip to the ER) is a horrible parenting decision that does border on negligence.

If he wanted to run in the street would they have let him do that and just get hit by a car so he would learn? :
post #25 of 118
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Originally Posted by nextcommercial View Post
Did they forget he didn't put on sunscreen and stay out longer than they meant to? I can't imagine allowing that in good consience.
I know when I've been badly sunburned I've had no idea until I got in out of the strong light, and I know it's happened when I was a child under adult supervision who didn't see it either ... was it maybe something like that? I mean, totally bad decision to not slather the kid up, cover him up, or go home, but I just can't imagine a parent intentionally watching a child badly burn and doing nothing either ...
post #26 of 118
ya know I don't know the kid, how he does in the sun or anything so I won't judgethe parents for their descision. i would have likely said the same thing. But a day at the pool with no sunscreen just makes for a slightly uncomfortable burn. However i do try to watch them and make sure they aren't getting too red or over heated or whatever.

It was a bad descision no doubt abuot it but I doubt your SIl saw this coming. She probably expected a slight suburn with irritating itching.
post #27 of 118
intentionally allowing a child to receive a sunburn so bad that it required a visit to the emergency room is at the very least neglect and possibly abuse IMO. If the child would not wear sunscreen he should have been removed from the beach. THAT is a natural consequence. When I was a child at the lake if we did not wear a lifejacket and sunscreen we had to stay in the house.
post #28 of 118
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Originally Posted by Liquesce View Post
I know when I've been badly sunburned I've had no idea until I got in out of the strong light, and I know it's happened when I was a child under adult supervision who didn't see it either ... was it maybe something like that? I mean, totally bad decision to not slather the kid up, cover him up, or go home, but I just can't imagine a parent intentionally watching a child badly burn and doing nothing either ...

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Originally Posted by lilyka View Post
ya know I don't know the kid, how he does in the sun or anything so I won't judgethe parents for their descision. i would have likely said the same thing. But a day at the pool with no sunscreen just makes for a slightly uncomfortable burn. However i do try to watch them and make sure they aren't getting too red or over heated or whatever.

It was a bad descision no doubt abuot it but I doubt your SIl saw this coming. She probably expected a slight suburn with irritating itching.
Unfortunately that isn't the case according to the OP

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He doesn't have any issues. He's worn it tons of times. For whatever reason he didn't want to this time. Whether he was being stubborn or not, his parents could have dealt with it much better. I just feel bad for him.

To the pp who suggested I send him a sun shirt, his parents would probably trash it on principle. They don't feel bad. They actually think they taught him a lesson and that the consequence is fitting.
post #29 of 118
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Originally Posted by lilyka View Post
ya know I don't know the kid, how he does in the sun or anything so I won't judgethe parents for their descision. i would have likely said the same thing. But a day at the pool with no sunscreen just makes for a slightly uncomfortable burn.

Maybe for your kids, you have no idea what the child in the OP's skin is like. For my DH, the situation you describe would mean a trip to the ER.
post #30 of 118
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Originally Posted by dubfam View Post
Unfortunately that isn't the case according to the OP
I guess I can just imagine my own parents having said "well, that's what happens when you do X" and having it completely come off in a "we taught you a lesson" way without having really meant for it to have happened, you know? My mother is a champ of overprotection alongside a "those are the breaks" attitude when something does happen. But maybe I'm just overly playing devil's advocate ... I don't know what the parents actually said, just what the impression of it was.
post #31 of 118
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Originally Posted by Qestia View Post
Maybe for your kids, you have no idea what the child in the OP's skin is like. For my DH, the situation you describe would mean a trip to the ER.
I think that is what she meant
post #32 of 118
we're all pretty brown here. i would let DS stay out for a while but we'd definitely leave early if he wouldn't at least put on long clothes.
post #33 of 118
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Originally Posted by dubfam View Post
OT a little...
I bet that plane ride was HELL for your poor DH
I can't even imagine
It was awful for him. Before we went to the ER in the Bahamas, we spent the night putting towels soaked in ice water on his back. He described it as a very painful itch. We flew halfway across the US to get home, left the airport and went straight to the ER on the way home. I can't imagine what this poor boy is going through.
post #34 of 118
As a fair person who had 2nd degree burns throughout childhood, that sucks hardcore that the parents did that.

Every burn ups your chances for developing skin cancer. I am a very high risk due to the amount of burns and the scarring I have b/c my parents never once thought to use sunscreen.

Our job is to keep our kids as safe as possible and if they want to do something harmful we intervene. I would have said no beach w/o sunscreen.
post #35 of 118
OMG. That's just wrong. No sunscreen= no beach. That simple.
post #36 of 118
The consequence of not putting on sunscreen is to get burned, true enough. The child will never forget. But he will also remember that his parents who he trusts to take care of him and protect him (even if it requires force), didn't do their job just to teach him a lesson. A serious breech of trust.

Admittedly, I'm not the most GD parent around and the beach is almost 2 hrs. from here. Leaving is not an option--not after all that effort it would have taken to get there. My kids don't run the show like that--especially not an 8 year old. Dad would have been holding the tike down while I slather on the sunscreen.
post #37 of 118
I get that your in laws might have thought "a little bit of sunburn might show him", even if I think that's really unwise and neglectful when it comes to something serious like sun protection. Perhaps they didn't think that he would sunburn so badly.

The thing that I really can't understand is how they aren't feeling awful now. If my actions (especially if deliberate) had caused my son to burn like that, I would feel unbelievably dreadful and ashamed.
post #38 of 118
I can see why they did that, honestly -- I've never had a bad sunburn, and honestly the thought of them being any more than pink and a little peely would never have occurred to me in that situation.

I've got a lot of natural melanin, though, despite being very light-skinned and blue-eyed, and I've never experienced a bad sunburn. I can absolutely understand why they just didn't think it through to that particular conclusion.
post #39 of 118
That is SERIOUSLY messed up. GAWD, this makes me upset that they let that happen!
post #40 of 118
I'm just jealous of anyone who lives in a place where it's sunny enough for a burn right now. We haven't seen a day like that yet this year!

Mind you, up here in Kanadia you'd have to be out *all day* in July or August to get a burn that bad. I remember being shocked at how fast I got sunburned in the Southern USA. Normally I don't burn, ever. I think that if you live in Florida you're bound to get a sunburn sooner or later. It sucks that it was so bad he had to go to the hospital though, poor kid.

DD is the worrying type, so no worries about her suffering the consequences of no sunscreen. She even wanted me to sunscreen her armpits last year.
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