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post #41 of 534
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Originally Posted by frog View Post
smarty, if you move closer to us, turtle can nanny your dog. She's an animal whisperer of the highest order. I kid you not.
I stand corrected. I talked with turtle last night who said to tell you that if you're serious, she'll make the drive.
post #42 of 534
So I had my positive OPK at noon yesterday. The RE scheduled me to come in this morning at 10 for the IUI. She said she usually schedules the first IUI on the day of the surge and the second IUI 24 hours later. My first one is going to be almost 24 hours after my first positive though, so I'm wondering if it's even worth it to do another one?

I wish I could rely on my temps to see when I actually ovulate, but I've been so sick that they're way elevated and doing me no good whatsoever.

Anyone else experienced some pretty bad cramping and pain in the ovaries from Clomid? It was so bad yesterday it felt like my worst AF cramps, but it was a steady pain, and not an ebb and flow like those cramps usually are. I'm still sore today, but not as bad as yesterday, so I wonder if the egg was released already last night. That would be pretty decent timing right?

Sorry, I'm in full freak out/analyzing everything mode right now. I'm so thrown by these temps being out of whack, I feel like there's no way I'm going to be able to tell if this cycle was timed well or not.
post #43 of 534
Kate, breathe in and breathe out and let go of the worry, it does nothing for your situation to worry about timing right now. I know it's so hard not to feel like you have control of the process (believe me, I'm the queen of control) but you have the eggies, the sperm and the timing will happen as it should. At this point there's little you can do about it and I'm sure the timing was/will be perfect. For me I'd certainly do the second IUI, just in case, if I had the sperm and appointment already set up. If I were you I'd just beleve that it was timed right, you never know. : for you!
post #44 of 534
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Originally Posted by astraphell View Post
So I had my positive OPK at noon yesterday. The RE scheduled me to come in this morning at 10 for the IUI. She said she usually schedules the first IUI on the day of the surge and the second IUI 24 hours later. My first one is going to be almost 24 hours after my first positive though, so I'm wondering if it's even worth it to do another one?
Absolutely. You might have caught the very beginning of the surge - Do you know how soon you O after you surge?

I've read it's between 24 and 36 hours. Assuming you caught the beginning of the surge, and that you O 36 hours later, you'll have perfect timing. If you O 24 hours later, you've still got perfect timing.

Good luck!
post #45 of 534
Thanks guys for the words of encouragement. I'm just having an emotional, freak out day.

Blake has been sick right along with me this week, but today it's settled into her lungs and she can't breathe without coughing. Her doctor wants her to head to the ER for some lung X-rays right away. My appointment is at 10am, and she's on her way over to the ER right now. Needless to say she's going to miss the IUI.

Don't they say that the cycle where everything is crazy and you're sure it won't work is the one that usually takes? Here's hoping....
post #46 of 534
Didn't one of our Queer mammas get pregnant last month with an insemination that happened after the temp spike? It seems to me there are a lot of stories where it happens the month you swear you were too late. I would definitely do the 2nd one.

And it does seem the crazier the story behind it, the better the outcome. I can't imagine what crazy story is coming for us as we have had some crazy ones already!!

Frog: Now if Turtle will drive here, we will definitely make it worth her while... we have 5 dogs (a chihuahua, a Pomeranian, a Schnauzer, a Basset Hound and a German Shepherd) plus 4 cats and 2 fish tanks. But I am sure she will be busy helping take care of your baby, so I won't get my hopes up
post #47 of 534
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Originally Posted by astraphell View Post
Anyone else experienced some pretty bad cramping and pain in the ovaries from Clomid? It was so bad yesterday it felt like my worst AF cramps, but it was a steady pain, and not an ebb and flow like those cramps usually are. I'm still sore today, but not as bad as yesterday, so I wonder if the egg was released already last night. That would be pretty decent timing right?
I definitley felt like my little eggies were going to explode any mintue while on clomid!! And yes, it seems like your timing is great either way. They say the best timing is within 12 hrs either side of O...so sounds like you're right on. And if you O later today...the one for tomorrow would be good timing too. I would definitley go through with it...you have the swimmers...the appt...why not??
post #48 of 534
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astraphell- I had really bad cramps for about 4 to 5 hours when I ovulated this time. Never happened before, so I assume it was from Clomid. Also, remember that you could have more than one egg and have released one yesterday and one later today. An insem after O worked for 2happymamas last month! Good Luck!
post #49 of 534
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Originally Posted by smartycat View Post
Didn't one of our Queer mammas get pregnant last month with an insemination that happened after the temp spike? It seems to me there are a lot of stories where it happens the month you swear you were too late. I would definitely do the 2nd one.
Yep. 2happymamas!


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Frog: Now if Turtle will drive here, we will definitely make it worth her while... we have 5 dogs (a chihuahua, a Pomeranian, a Schnauzer, a Basset Hound and a German Shepherd) plus 4 cats and 2 fish tanks. But I am sure she will be busy helping take care of your baby, so I won't get my hopes up
Oh, you might be surprised. If you do find yourself in need of pet assistance, shoot me a PM. She'd LOVE it.
post #50 of 534
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Oh, you might be surprised. If you do find yourself in need of pet assistance, shoot me a PM. She'd LOVE it.
well, when Quasar and I both get pregnant (with multiples), I will definitely shoot you that PM right quick!!
post #51 of 534
I just realized that today is the day that my parents are closing on selling my childhood home in Saline. I was going to say to Frog that we should meet up next time I am Ann Arbor way... but alas.. no more.

I shouldn't cry. It took my parents 2.5 years to sell the house and got $65,000 less than what they wanted. Michigan's real estate market sucks. But still, that is where I grew up.
post #52 of 534
Oh, smarty. I hear you. My parents sold my childhood home a few years back. It was complicated.
post #53 of 534
I'm so glad I have you all here to keep me sane!

IUI #1 is over. A little bit of cramping, but the doctor said everything looked great. We'll still go in for #2 tomorrow morning as well. She didn't seem to worried about the timing either, so I feel a bit silly now.

Blake showed up at the office after all. We were quite the mess, coughing and blowing our noses all over the place, but she said she just felt too awful about missing it. She's on her way to the doctor herself now.

Could I please be moved to Waiting to Know?!!
post #54 of 534
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Originally Posted by smartycat View Post
I just realized that today is the day that my parents are closing on selling my childhood home in Saline. I was going to say to Frog that we should meet up next time I am Ann Arbor way... but alas.. no more.

I shouldn't cry. It took my parents 2.5 years to sell the house and got $65,000 less than what they wanted. Michigan's real estate market sucks. But still, that is where I grew up.
Yes, the market around here definitely sucks. My mom is in the process of selling both my childhood home and my grandma's house at the same time. I don't even want to think about how much she's going to get screwed over on them.

I forget, what part of Michigan are you two in again? Are you over on the West side with me?
post #55 of 534
Kate, you're in Michigan, too?
post #56 of 534
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Kate, you're in Michigan, too?
Yup! We're in GR now, but I grew up about 45 min. east. And went to college in East Lansing for a couple of years. :nana:
post #57 of 534
Good luck, astraphell. And smarty, I am so thrilled for your doggie news. We have two cats, and I cannot imagine how I'd cope if either of them became ill.

Also, I have to say that coming home last night and reading the day's discussion here made me feel so much better. My "impending AF" headache was starting up, I was feeling weepy and desperate for chocolate, and I was coming home from a kicker of a work dinner (highlight: where one guy looked me in the eye and said "I don't believe in transgendered people." What, now?!). Hearing other (queer) people's thoughts as we all go through this process just helped immensely. Thanks.

Now I'm waiting for my temp to fall, and for the next cycle to begin. I think we IUI'd about 24 hours late this go 'round, so I have little remaining hope. I bought some fancy-pants digital OPK for next time, so here's hoping. (Anyone have any thoughts on the Clearblue digital? Also, does it really make a difference to use a special basal thermometer, vs. a regular digital one? As a scientist, I'm skeptical; it seems like a ploy from the fertility industry to make us all drop $10 on a "special" thermometer.)

Oh, and because someone came out as an editor, I should 'fess up that I was a proofreader for years and years. The dictionary, standardized tests, you name it. And I don't care one whit about y'all's grammar.
post #58 of 534
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Also, does it really make a difference to use a special basal thermometer, vs. a regular digital one? As a scientist, I'm skeptical; it seems like a ploy from the fertility industry to make us all drop $10 on a "special" thermometer.)
Thanks for the well wishes! Here's hoping your temps stay nice and high.

The biggest thing I've noticed with the basal thermometer is that you get the temp in two decimal places instead of one. Seems like it wouldn't matter much, but the difference is noticeable.

If you take a look at my first two cycles, where I was using just a regular thermometer (and not temping very religiously either ) you can really see the difference.
post #59 of 534
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I forget, what part of Michigan are you two in again? Are you over on the West side with me?
Nope, exact opposite... we are on the East side of Detroit, near the beautiful, E. Coli infested shores of Lake St. Clair.
post #60 of 534
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Originally Posted by pigirl View Post
I bought some fancy-pants digital OPK for next time, so here's hoping. (Anyone have any thoughts on the Clearblue digital? Also, does it really make a difference to use a special basal thermometer, vs. a regular digital one? As a scientist, I'm skeptical; it seems like a ploy from the fertility industry to make us all drop $10 on a "special" thermometer.)
The other thing the basal thermometers do is they don't go off until your temp stops climbing which makes for a more accurate reading. The "regular" thermometers tend to be the fast reading kind to get you a basic idea of your temp and don't catch the subtle changes you need for charting. I think it was well worth the $9 we spent on ours.

Also, Quasar takes her temp vaginally and that seems to also provide more consistent temps. Oral temps can vary depending on if you open mouth breathe at night.

As far a CBE digital OPKs... I think they work fine. I think the cheap OPKs on line work just as well too and you can take lots of them to increase the chance of catching your surge and not spend a fortune. The digital takes the guesswork out of it. But I don't think the regular OPKs are that hard to read. Some people really overthink the regular OPKs so in that case, the digitals can give you peace of mind. We get our on-line cheapie OPKs from www.early-pregnancy-tests.com and so far, Target has had the best price on the digital OPKs
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