How do you handle ignorant comments - Page 2

[chfriend]

Originally Posted by sledg

"I'll keep that in mind. Oh, look! Would you like some bean dip?"

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Also, repeat after me,

"Thanks, we're fine."
"Thanks, she's fine."
"Thanks, he's fine."
"Thanks, I'm fine."

"No really, she's fine."

Until the conversation is over.

[smartair]

My MIL said, "a little pat on the butt is okay, you know when they don't listen?"

My response: No, in our house I want to be able to honestly say to my DS's that "hitting is not an option". I can look them in the eye and say "We don't hit other people, we use our words" It feels so good to be able to say it and mean it.

She has never brought it up again. HA HA small victories!

[allgirls]

I think we as a species have evolved past that now haven't we?

Or "do people still actually believe that?" with a perplexed look

"That's a lazy way to parent"

and now that I have two that are older "I've never spanked and I never will"

For me the reply has always depended upon the person making the comment.

Like when my ex mil suggested that the problems I had with my oldest not listening to me as a teen were related to the fact that nowadays we are not allowed to spank them to which I replied "Are you effin serious? Do you think she would listen to me if I hit her? How well did that work with her father?" (who was in prison at the time and she used to beat the crap out of him) But it was my ex mil and she had offered zero support to me right along with her deadbeat son with regard to raising them for 14 years so her advice was easy to knock down. I felt really justified in knocking her down a bit. She never offered parenting advice again.

I generally respond with shock that they suggest such a think and let them know that I am an anti-spanking advocate so don't even bother to make suggestions like that to me.

[That Is Nice]

Originally Posted by allgirls

Or "do people still actually believe that?" with a perplexed look.

[That Is Nice]

Originally Posted by allgirls

Like when my ex mil suggested that the problems I had with my oldest not listening to me as a teen were related to the fact that nowadays we are not allowed to spank them.

I've heard this one, too.