once dilated to 10cm...PUSH??? - Page 2

[spu]

I had no coached pushing this time around, just lots of reassurance.

With DS#3, I couldn't stand the coaching method the nurse was using, and I swore I'd never have her again if I got pg. I actually complained about her to the practice. With no coaching, you're free to do as your body tells you - and there's no guessing - it just feels right.

[the elyse]

i did what my body told me to, and i pushed for 3.5 hours! i don't know if i was 10cm or not, but i felt the urge to do those little grunts with every contraction for a while, and then later into it, i had to push harder and longer. slow process, but definitely what my body needed. coached pushing is silly.

[llamalluv]

Originally Posted by meowee

The time I had an epidural the baby came out on her own! Once they realized she was coming out they started saying "push!!!" but there was no need to. She would have come out all the way on her own.

That happened to my mother when she had my baby sister! The doc kept telling her "Stop pushing! Don't push!" and my mother was grunting "I'm not pushing!" and she almost fell on the floor! No "pushing" at all! (But she was tiny - about 7 pounds, and us other three were all 8 pounds to 9.5 pounders)

[ZoshaMosha]

At the hospital where I delivered my babies, the CNM's and nurses basically leave you alone and tell you to call them when you feel you need to push. They check in occasionally, but are not invasive. Pretty awesome

[sapphire_chan]

Anyone else think "No!!!" every time you read the thread title?

[Sioko]

I've never been "told" to push. I always get told not to. With both DD's I was in hospital, had refused and thusly didn't get epi or pain meds, and when my body was ready it got right down to pushing and I had no choice but to help it. It was always right after they checked and said I was 7cm, then they'd leave for a minute or two and I'd start arguing with my mom, "I'm pushing!" "Don't push! You're only at 7!" "I can't stop!" Then the nurses, "Don't push!" as they rush to check me again. I push anyway."She's complete." "Don't push!" Doctor finally comes in. "Ok push." I'm halfway crowning by now anyway. I've only ever needed to push for about 5min. I do what my body says, not them. Even in a hospital I still have my free will.

[Lauren82]

I hate coached pushing. With my last dd, I told the midwives I would not be happy if anyone tried to tell me how and when to push.

[Belia]

Maybe a dumb question.... can you ever lose any dialation if you wait too long to push? Like, you're at 10.... waiting for the pushing urge... you think you're just resting... and you're checked again for some reason and you're down to a 7?

[janasmama]

this might be a little off topic but it is about pushing...an example of coaching.

In the hospital my sister had IV drugs and when she was ready (or at least told to push) the ob was telling her to push, my mother was telling her to push and so was her husband. At this point my one and only birth was a homebirth so I felt so akward there because I had never seen anything like it. I was the only one whispering quietly that she was doing very good.

Finally, my sister firmly said, "Can just one person tell me to push." Complete silence fell over the room until her husband finally said, "okay, who do you want to tell you to push." I thought that was kind of a funny question since I guess it should have been the ob if anyone was going to do it but she just pointed to the ob and me. Of course I never told her to push...I just think that she like my few and soft words of encouragement and was signaling for me to continue with it.

Anyways...I just thought that was a funny example of coaching.

[spu]

Originally Posted by Belia

Maybe a dumb question.... can you ever lose any dialation if you wait too long to push? Like, you're at 10.... waiting for the pushing urge... you think you're just resting... and you're checked again for some reason and you're down to a 7?

absolutely. If you look at animals in the wild, the 'fight or flight' experience is a true phenomenon that happens naturally to every living creature. An animal could be in the birthing process, and suddenly feel threatened, and in order to save it and it's offspring's life, the birth process halts or regresses. The same principle applies to humans.

There are many reasons why labor 'progress' could go 'backwards' for lack of better wording, but if it does, there could be a sound reason why this might be happening. Often times, it's caused by too many interruptions, or a general feeling of 'unsafeness' or 'lack of support'. If the baby is checking out fine, and mom and baby are tolerating everything well, there should be no need for alarm or alternative interventions.

If you are in the hospital, and not progressing as fast as you (or the staff) likes, ask to be left completely alone - even hang a sign on the door, and turn out the lights, get comfy, or if allowed to - leave the premises and go for a walk outside, or to the cafeteria or coffee shop - anything you would like to do that would take your mind off the 'worry' and stop the nurses from looking at the clock.

If you have a doula or mw, they should be respectful of this, and even encourage ways to ease your mind and help you turn inward and 'let go'.

[sapphire_chan]

Originally Posted by janasmama

Of course I never told her to push...I just think that she like my few and soft words of encouragement and was signaling for me to continue with it.

I bet you doing that made a huge difference.

[cottonwood]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

Anyone else think "No!!!" every time you read the thread title?

Yes, me. Actually, my response was: NO! No no no no no no no.



OP, do a search for "pushing" in this forum. There have been many great discussions about this.

[JessicaS]

Originally Posted by sapphire_chan

Anyone else think "No!!!" every time you read the thread title?

Yes