Originally Posted by lexbeach
If I were you, I would not be going into the embryo transfer thinking about "what will twins/triplets mean for my chances of a homebirth?" but rather focusing on what comes after the birth. I don't mean to downplay the importance of birth at all, and I do believe that a birth experience can have a very long lasting impact on a mother's life. But I think that most mothers of multiples, a couple weeks past birth, will be thinking more along the lines of "birth shmirth . . . OMG I have two (three, four, etc.) babies!"
I feel this cannot be emphasized enough.
The process of birth lasts at most for a week or two.
However, you will have two or more newborns for months. You will likely be pushed to the brink in a way that you cannot even begin to imagine by what that demand will do to your body, mind, and soul unless you are extremely fortunate.
I cannot imagine that someone would *try* to concieve triplets. Or that it would be their goal. I'm sorry, but when I see that...I am speechless because it really speaks to me of ignorance about what life with multiples is like.
You need to be putting plans into place about support system, finances, help, meal stockpiling, free/reduced cost resources in the community, saving for unanticipated medical and supply costs, if your "goal" is higher order multiples. You need to be shoring up your relationship (divorce/separation rate is high and gets higher as you move up the chain of higher order multiples). Getting into the habit of frugal living if you're not already. That seems to me to be just as important, if not more important from a long term survival standpoint, than worrying whether or not you can have the type of birth you envision. Most people can, some people can't. Regardless of how many children you birth at the same time. It's not totally in your control.
It's like when people focus on the wedding to the exclusion of preparing for a healthy long term partnership/marriage. There's nothing wrong with shooting for a dream wedding, but if that's your primary concern you're heading into dangerous territory when reality comes crashing in the next day or week.