Now, I'm sad...

[snazzy_mom]

I got so upset today. I was sitting on the floor, playing with ds#2 (16mths) and I started to cry. I feel like we're somehow going to be "jipping" him on his time to be the "baby".

There is such a gap between my 2 now that it wasn't really an issue for me when Keagan was born because they required different things from me but with these 2 being 16 months apart, I am scared to death all of the sudden. This might sound really horrible but I just can't imagine myself loving this little one as much as I do my other 2. I know I will once I see him, I don't doubt that. I just feel guilty.

Is this normal?? Have any other mamas with babies this close that have gone through these feelings??

[diobolic_derbygirl]

my oldest was 3 when his younger brother was born and though this isn't nearly as close as yours will be, I can completely empathize with your feeling. I felt guilty at times, feeling as though my firstborn had to grow up especially quick and mature in ways he wasn't ready for.....but his love for his brother came hard and quick and it was a good pay-off.

Now that my youngest is 6 and the gap between my older boys and this little girl is rather large, I worry about how SHE will feel. I actually have the opposite, that she will never have close siblings to play with or relate to because of the age gap.

as parents, I think we worry no matter what. The kids however....always find their own places and ways of loving each other.

fear not mama, I'm sure things will be wonderful. think of the importantance your little guy will feel now that he's moving into a whole new role.

[girlygirls3]

My girls are 18 months apart and I completely felt that way with my first before the baby came... so sad because I felt like she didn't get to be my "only baby" for longer. But... when my second dd got here there really weren't jealousy issues or anything, not sure if it's because of how young she was, and now looking at them they are such buddies and seem to love each other so much, it makes me thrilled to watch them together. The closeness in age I think is nice because they're sort of on the same "level" developmentally where they can play with the same toys and such It's nice

[NatureMama3]

definitely normal.

I was getting all weepy the other night because we're going to have to move my youngest to a toddler mattress beside the bed. DH gently reminded me he's had FIVE AND A HALF years there by himself. it's not going to harm him to share!

[kalisage]

I've felt similar this pregnancy for the complete opposite reason. My first 2 are 19 months apart & very close. DD is 4 yrs younger, but gets right in the mix and this baby is gonna be 5 - 10 yrs younger than his/her siblings. I feel sad this LO won't have that same connection the others did.

[joyfilledmomma]

my two will be almost 2 1/2 years apart and i go back and forth between being thrilled for her because she will have a sibling and feeling guilty and like i will miss her being my baby. this is only compounded by the fact that she's still nursing and will have to share me that way too. it's so so hard...hugs momma!