We knew this day was coming but last night was it. DS was asked not to come for the rest of kindergarten year at waldorf.
I have posted on here quite a bit lately about DS's problems with aggressiveness, hitting, sensory issues, etc. He was at waldorf on a special needs scholarship but his behavior has been escalating as he gets older and harder to manage. We still don't have a diagnosis or know the root of his problems in general.
Well with about two months of school left, we were asked to leave. We all agreed that because of his disruptions lately there really isn't a better option at this point. I guess what hurts the most is the stigma I've been dealing with lately. I mean, the teachers have been above and beyond trying to help and accommodate him but I feel like the parents haven't been understanding. I've been getting more and more self conscious when bringing him there about people thinking "oh, there's that bad kid" like I've done something to deserve it....and thus, I have even noticed up to this point other moms not being very chatty to me.
DS is very sweet and not a malicious child. He could be talking about how beautiful a flower is one minute and then go in a rage the next because he hears a noise that upsets him.
It is just so easy when you have a "normal" child to judge the other children. I feel like people don't care where your kid goes as long as they just go away. How is this going to affect him as he gets older? He is already starting to get low self esteem from being self aware of some of his shortcomings.
And now I have to explain to him that he can't go back to school Monday. The teacher told me to just tell him it is more important to be home right now but he isn't going to understand that. He will want to know why he can't see his friends. We didn't really get any closure either. We just found out last night after a school meeting and that was it.
His teacher said that if we find out what is going on and find some resolution over the summer we are welcome to contact the first grade teacher (when he or she is hired) and see if they will take him.
I'm just really broken hearted about this right now and the social stigma I'm feeling is starting to hit hard lately.
Your home, your heart really is best for him. Even Steiner himself wrote about the first seven years really needed to be home. I've never understood why Waldorf schools begin so early.
There are a lot of things I love about Waldorf and many, many things that are deeply wrong. I take the good and positive and turn away from the others. This may be a good time for your family to decide what is best for you.
Discipline. Also look at how you gently but firmly approach discipline with your son. I have no reason to suggest this other than its on my mind for some reason.
We homeschool and it works best for our family. Maybe it will be fruitful for yours as well with time.
Now, personally, I think it stinks that they asked him to leave.