Originally Posted by zinemama
However. There are so many people who work harder than dh or I ever did and still don't make enough to allow one parent to be at home. I really take exception to the idea (not that anyone on this thread has said this) that having a sah parent is as easy as cancelling the cable, giving up one car, and not taking expensive vacations.
I consider myself privileged to have been born into a family that valued education and was able to provide it for me, enabling me to get a good job where I could save money. It was luck and timing that allowed dh and I to get into the housing market when we did, at a time when we could get a house that one modest income could pay for. And he is certainly fortunate to have a job. Plenty of qualified people in his field can't find work.
So when I look around at the current economic climate, the millions of hard-working parents out there who have so much less than I do, yeah, being able to be a sahm feels like a luxury to me.
I understand what you are saying and certainly I know a handful of people that fit that profile, but that's not the majority of them. And honestly--I don't begrudge anyone material things being important to them, but don't look at me like it was so easy... kwim?
I DIDN'T come from a family that valued education or even HAD any education. I DIDN'T come from a good place. As piss poor as we are, I can guarantee you that the less than $10k we have in savings is more than both my parents have combined. It took me 15 years to finish my bachelor's degree... but I did it. I was one of those people who lost their job (and 2/3 of our income) and couldn't get a job with a gun for quite a while. We bought our house and were without that income within 8 months of moving in. There was NEVER a thought that I'd be a SAHM--I made too much of our income. I "get" what you're talking about.
So while I agree that it's not always as easy as cutting the cable, giving up a car and vacations for many people; I also think that to say it's a matter of where you come from is equally inaccurate. I don't think it's as easy as either of those opinions. And it's not EASY... which is kinda my point. But it's not hopeless or impossible, either. It took us YEEEEARS to get to where we don't NEED my income. But it happened. With a lot of work that had WAY less to do with the cable bill. If it were as easy as that, more people would be doing it.
I don't mean to sound angry. I'm re-reading and I can see where someone might take it that way--but I'm not saying it in anger. Enthusiasm for the topic, yes. Anger, no.