With regard to parents who "look" like they could afford to have one parent stay at home if only they didn't have an SUV, big tv, implants, or X luxurious or high priced possessions, I had this thought earlier today.
...A husband and a wife (or two domestic partners) might NOT have the same financial habits or material desires in a marriage.
I was thinking specifically of WOHMs who say they can't afford to SAH, but from outside appearances, it appears they have enough money because of their possessions.
Maybe it's the husbands spending the money?
I'm just thinking of my own situation. I am a SAHM, but it's not because my DH can afford it on just his salary. We are using savings from when I worked, and I'll probably have to go back to work soon.
My husband would love a big tv, etc. So, I can totally see the possibility that I could return to work out of necessity, and while the majority of my income would be going for living expenses and day care, the little extra DH and I make with both of us working might allow him to buy that tv, etc.
So, I'd look like a mom who wanted to SAH but couldn't afford it due to consumer decisions (even though they weren't my decisions).
Sometimes a husband and a wife have different priorities.