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post #41 of 109
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Originally Posted by puffnstuff View Post
Mara,

I hear you on hoping for some kind of nausea or throwing up or something else to prove to me that I am indeed pregnant and getting...more pregnant!
I know right? It's crazy to want to feel bad, but I need the verification that this one isn't like the last. It's very frustrating, because I can't help but compare each pregnancy to the ones before it, even though they ALL ended badly so what's the point?
post #42 of 109
I'm afraid that this pregnancy isn't going to stick and that it will take us another year+ to get pregnant again. I don't want to go back to the place where I was before this happened - I had given up almost all hope, really.

Edit: Hey, I just noticed we're pretty close together on the little weeks counter. What is your due date?
post #43 of 109
Mara and puffnstuff I don't have anything helpful to say so I'll just send sticky vibes Here's to some nausea and sore breasts soon!

everytime I voice my doubt about me being pregnant, a pregnant lady walks by in front of me. I had an all day seminar today and in the the hall next door, there was a MamaFest going on!!! So DH kept saying, SEE?!?!? That's the universe telling you something!

I have so many future worries right now... am I pregnant, what if I wasn't getting enough folic acid and now my baby is going to have spina bifida? Should I get the testing done for any abnormalties so that I can be prepared for it or do I just hope for the best? and on and on and on...

But.... on the bright side...I found some extra swimsuit fabric and decided I was going to sew my own pregnancy band!
post #44 of 109
Mara and puffnstuff, lack of symptoms doesn't mean that your pregnancy isn't going according to plan. I had basically no symptoms except fatigue until 8ish weeks when some very minor morning sickness set in. These days I'm thrilled to feel Baby move on a daily basis!
post #45 of 109
I've had plenty of friends with no symptom pregnancies. One of my friends didn't even know until she was already four months along (she was breast feeding at the time and her milk suddenly dried up, that was the ONLY signal).

I'm 29 weeks today and still feeling nauseaus. So I wouldn't wish that on anyone and would trade it for a symptom free pregnancy any day.
post #46 of 109
Puffnstuff, I'm due around Feb 24th. I know exactly what you mean about losing this one and how long will it take... again?

I know logically that symptoms aren't a requirement for a healthy pregnancy, it's just that this one feels exactly like the last one so far, and I lost that one at 5 1/2 weeks, just where I'm at right now. Hence the desire for something, anything, to distinguish this preg from the failed previous ones, YKIM?

Kssinca, spina bifida is really pretty rare. So many women get pregnant that weren't planning to, or don't even find out that they're pregnant until pretty far along (past 4 weeks)-- and are just fine. If you're waiting to find out, just pop a prenatal or any vitamin w/ folic acid-- you'll be fine.
post #47 of 109
Hey ladies! I see so many familiar names and I'm sending all of you lots of sticky vibes! :

We finally got pregnant after a year of ttc (I know that isn't nearly as long as some of you). It's kind of funny how it happened because the month we got pregnant we had decided to make an appointment to start fertility testing so we weren't really 'trying' that hard, I was hardly taking any of my supplements (except my prenatal), and the day I ovulated I had some ewcm, which I *never* get, so I thought we better dtd, and I guess it's a good thing we did. So we didn't end up needing the fertility testing appt we'd booked.

When we found out we were pregnant we were getting ready to move and were packing up the truck the day before af was due, and I thought that I better take a test just in case because of all the lifting I had to do. I did not think I was pregnant at all, so when 2 lines showed up I was in shock. It definitely took a few days for it to sink in. Now I'm just hoping and praying for a sticky healthy baby!

: Congratulations everyone!!! :
post #48 of 109
I wanted to add one more thing about the sticky and the sicky busines...

I had a miscarriage at around 6-8 weeks last August (didn't know I was preg until a couple months after the fact... read my story if that doesn't make sense) and I felt all sicky flu like with that one too. I was terrified of losing this baby even though it made me incredibly sick.

I know you want the symptoms to be different and maybe it will, maybe it won't. Maybe this is just the way your body reacts to pregnancy.

Anyway praying that your little peanuts stick this time around.
post #49 of 109
Mara - our dates are only 7 days apart, then!

I'm starting to feel a little bit better about not yet having symptoms. Tomorrow is five weeks for me, which, as I read more and more, seems to still be before many people have morning sickness or whatever else. I also talked to my mom yesterday and she told me she didn't feel sick with me (her first) until her period was 2 weeks late, and even then it was only in the form of motion sickness. And I'm here, so clearly that pregnancy worked out well!

Still, I woke up this morning feeling nervous. I have to consciously tell myself that things are okay, and to breathe slowly. Initially, I felt myself very strongly *not* wanting to get excited about this. But now I think I might have to indulge myself a little, and let myself think about this blob as a baby-to-be. If I lose it, it will hurt tremendously either way, so why not get attached? I already know, deep down, that I am incredibly attached, and have been before he or she was even conceived, so there's no point in fighting it. This is a baby who we tried for for so long and who I have dreamt of all my life - of course I will be sad if this doesn't work out. But right this second, there is something small growing inside of me and I want it to be loved every second of its existence: not denied, not held at an emotional distance, but loved, even if I never meet him or her the way I'd like to.
post #50 of 109
Gillian, yay!!!! I'm glad you made it to this thread!!!!
post #51 of 109
So is anyone else really enamored with the : smiley?

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I just love it, it looks so happy. Puffnstuff, gosh you are still REALLY early for symptoms; I'll be six weeks on Wednesday so yeah. Just to clarify one of the reasons I'm so obsessed with nausea and etc:

1st miscarriage: very few "symptoms": 9 week apt showed embryo already gone.
2nd m/c: This was the "good" pregnancy (even though it ended); tons of morning sickness, 8-week apt showed healthy embryo w/ good heartbeat. Only later did something go wrong.

3rd m/c: lost at 5 1/2 weeks, no symptoms at all.

So basically, I think I'm hoping for this to be most like that second pregnancy with the viable embryo and all that, except without the miscarriage-at-12-weeks part. And yes, I know I'm a little crazy. It's just that every time I *wasn't* sick, I lost the pregnancy before it even really got going, you know? But, I am trying to accept the fact that symptoms are meaningless, and take everything one day at a time.

P.S. I was complaining to my DH about the lack of nausea, and this is how he tries to make me feel better: "Well, at least your mood swings are all over the map and downright scary-- that's a symptom too, right?"
post #52 of 109
Hahahaha - Men have such a simple way of looking at things sometimes.

Try to remember that in full term pregnancies the experience changes from baby to baby for the same woman.
post #53 of 109
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Originally Posted by puffnstuff View Post
This is a baby who we tried for for so long and who I have dreamt of all my life - of course I will be sad if this doesn't work out. But right this second, there is something small growing inside of me and I want it to be loved every second of its existence: not denied, not held at an emotional distance, but loved, even if I never meet him or her the way I'd like to.
I think this is a really wonderful attitude. After spending a couple weeks worrying I've decided to do this as well. It's hard to shift my mind, but I've been doing my affirmations and singing to the baby to help me.

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Originally Posted by kssinca View Post
Gillian, yay!!!! I'm glad you made it to this thread!!!!
Thank you!! Congratulations to you too!!! :
post #54 of 109
I'm afraid I'm losing this one. Again.

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post #55 of 109
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Originally Posted by WeasleyMum View Post
I'm afraid I'm losing this one. Again.

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Oh no!
post #56 of 109
Oh, Mara. I wish I could give you a real-life hug!

post #57 of 109
Mara, I'm so sorry you're going through all of this . I'm sending you lots of sticky vibes and hoping everything turns out okay. :
post #58 of 109
Mara sending you lots of : and
post #59 of 109
I had my appointment to confirm my pregnancy and we saw the heartbeat!!! There is definately a baby in there!! My dr did warn me that it could be too early to see anything still, since I am not quite 6 weeks yet. But my baby was in there, beating her heart!!! Whheee!!! : : :
post #60 of 109
Just wondering how everyone is doing...
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