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post #1 of 30
5/4/08 at 12:37am
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Where do I begin............ I thought I had this all figured out, I mean I read all the books went to all the meetings and this whole new parenting endeavor has still managed to take me by surprise. When he cries I feel horrible, when he vomits I feel worse when he is fussy I'm so unsure of my self ..... I feel so bad about his reflux and the fact that he has been using disposables ( I was so siked about cd'ing, but I must not have done something right b/c when he pees once it goes through the diaper), I know it will get better but I just have to vent every now and then
post #2 of 30
5/4/08 at 4:21am
Yep, you're a mom all right ;-). Isn't it AMAZING how stressful it is to hear your baby cry? That's biology, working to keep your infant healthy. Powerful stuff!

As for CDing... if you're not using covers, one pee does soak through. We don't use covers for that reason; we don't want to leave our son wet. Yes, it means we're probably going to run out of our stash before the service gets here on Tuesday (we started at 120/week... our max with DS1 was 130; we figured we could do a tiny bit better this time, but DS2 hates the classic potty position so we're getting a slow start on EC again), but we'd rather not leave him in his pee, you know?

If you're using wool covers and those are soaking through, they may need to be lanolized. If you're using some other kind of cover, you may have a wicking problem due to how things are arranged, or that particular cover may just not be a good fit for your LO and your diapering style.
post #3 of 30
5/4/08 at 11:23am
Let me know what kind of diapers you're using and I'll help.

Motherhood hit me like a mack truck too. Its getting easier.
post #4 of 30
5/4/08 at 11:49am
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Originally Posted by Ironica View Post
Yep, you're a mom all right ;-). Isn't it AMAZING how stressful it is to hear your baby cry? That's biology, working to keep your infant healthy. Powerful stuff!
No to mention the guilt!! I feel guilty about EVERYTHING!! If i have a cup of coffee...will it effect him through my milk??....I let him sleep for a couple of hours and didn't change his diaper..will he get a rash?? It's kinda cold out should I have put a heavier outfit/hat??


AHHHHH!!!!
post #5 of 30
5/4/08 at 1:02pm
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Originally Posted by Telle Bear View Post
No to mention the guilt!! I feel guilty about EVERYTHING!! If i have a cup of coffee...will it effect him through my milk??....I let him sleep for a couple of hours and didn't change his diaper..will he get a rash?? It's kinda cold out should I have put a heavier outfit/hat??


AHHHHH!!!!
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Not to mention I feel guilty passing him off to anyone. Especially DH.
post #6 of 30
5/4/08 at 1:17pm
Well, remember this: if you feel guilty, it's because you care, you're thinking about these things, you're considering your child. And if you're doing that... chances are, it means you're a GREAT mom who's doing everything she can.

And the daddies need their bonding time too! Don't feel *too* guilty about passing the baby to them. ;-)
post #7 of 30
5/4/08 at 1:55pm
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Not to mention I feel guilty passing him off to anyone. Especially DH.
Aw I remember that. Now I am just a jaded 3rd time mama, ready to pass her off to DH every chance I get.
post #8 of 30
5/4/08 at 1:59pm
Guilt=motherhood

'Nuff said on that one!

I'm sorry for hijaking the thread, but Ironica-what do you do about clothes? doesn't the pee always soak into his clothes?
post #9 of 30
5/4/08 at 3:29pm
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And the daddies need their bonding time too! Don't feel *too* guilty about passing the baby to them. ;-)
indeed!! zero guilt here about that
post #10 of 30
5/4/08 at 4:20pm
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Originally Posted by Alpaca Wacka View Post
I'm sorry for hijaking the thread, but Ironica-what do you do about clothes? doesn't the pee always soak into his clothes?
If we are dumb enough to put clothes over his crotch, yeah ;-). But he lives in gowns, long shirts, onesies with the crotch unsnapped, and that sort of thing. When he gets just a little bit chunkier in the legs, Babylegs will fit him too.

If he does manage to dampen his clothes, though, no biggie. It dries. And with an exclusively breastfed newborn, seriously, I challenge you to find where the pee was after it dries. ;-) The stuff is like water. No smell, no stain. Really innocuous stuff!
post #11 of 30
5/4/08 at 6:55pm
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Originally Posted by ORLY? View Post
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Not to mention I feel guilty passing him off to anyone. Especially DH.
Let me clarify... Usually, I probably wouldn't feel guilty BUT it's Finals week, and he works all day and has actually been getting less sleep than me.
post #12 of 30
5/4/08 at 7:28pm
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Originally Posted by Ironica View Post
Yep, you're a mom all right ;-). Isn't it AMAZING how stressful it is to hear your baby cry? That's biology, working to keep your infant healthy. Powerful stuff!

As for CDing... if you're not using covers, one pee does soak through. We don't use covers for that reason; we don't want to leave our son wet. Yes, it means we're probably going to run out of our stash before the service gets here on Tuesday (we started at 120/week... our max with DS1 was 130; we figured we could do a tiny bit better this time, but DS2 hates the classic potty position so we're getting a slow start on EC again), but we'd rather not leave him in his pee, you know?

If you're using wool covers and those are soaking through, they may need to be lanolized. If you're using some other kind of cover, you may have a wicking problem due to how things are arranged, or that particular cover may just not be a good fit for your LO and your diapering style.
Where do I get soakers ????
post #13 of 30
5/4/08 at 7:31pm
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Originally Posted by Telle Bear View Post
No to mention the guilt!! I feel guilty about EVERYTHING!! If i have a cup of coffee...will it effect him through my milk??....I let him sleep for a couple of hours and didn't change his diaper..will he get a rash?? It's kinda cold out should I have put a heavier outfit/hat??


AHHHHH!!!!
OMG THIS IS SO ME, we dosed off with out me changing his diaper and in the middle of my sleep I was thinking OW SH%T his penis is going to fall off !!!!!!!!!!!! I am so critical of myself .......
post #14 of 30
5/4/08 at 7:32pm
Have you checked out the Cloth Diapering forum here? That might be a good place to start.
post #15 of 30
5/4/08 at 7:32pm
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Originally Posted by Alpaca Wacka View Post
Guilt=motherhood

'Nuff said on that one!

I'm sorry for hijaking the thread, but Ironica-what do you do about clothes? doesn't the pee always soak into his clothes?
No problem !!!
post #16 of 30
5/4/08 at 7:37pm
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So I had to give my LO some medicine for his silent reflux and OMG the stuff taste like electricity, he yelled and cried and threw the stuff up, I CAN NOT FOR THE LIFE OF ME WITH GOOD CONSCIOUS GIVE HIM THAT MEDICINE ANYMORE (SAY WHAT U WANT) ......
post #17 of 30
5/4/08 at 7:47pm
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So I had to give my LO some medicine for his silent reflux and OMG the stuff taste like electricity, he yelled and cried and threw the stuff up, I CAN NOT FOR THE LIFE OF ME WITH GOOD CONSCIOUS GIVE HIM THAT MEDICINE ANYMORE (SAY WHAT U WANT) ......
I say mom's instinct is often worth a lot more than a prescription. ;-) The medicine is to make him more comfortable. If it doesn't do that, well, what good is it? Reflux is nasty and unpleasant, but it sounds like the medicine is worse. (And in some cases, while it helps in the short-term, it makes the issues worse in the long-term... especially if the reflux is food-related, lowering the stomach acid can *increase* the gut's exposure to protein chains that irritate it.)

And I love the image of tasting like electricity... although that to me implies a pretty interesting taste, kind of like pop rocks only metallic. Like licking a 9-volt battery... not that I've, you know, *done* that or anything...
post #18 of 30
5/4/08 at 8:31pm
nak
If it's Zantac, you can get the pharmacy to flavor it grape. That's the only flavor that's possible w/ that nasty stuff though. It's still not the greatest flavor in the world but an improvement nonetheless.
post #19 of 30
5/4/08 at 8:46pm
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Originally Posted by elleystar View Post
nak
If it's Zantac, you can get the pharmacy to flavor it grape. That's the only flavor that's possible w/ that nasty stuff though. It's still not the greatest flavor in the world but an improvement nonetheless.
It starts with an R (rantinde sp?).
post #20 of 30
5/4/08 at 9:04pm
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It starts with an R (rantinde sp?).
That's the generic of Zantac and my 2.5 year old loves it Both my kids were on it long term due to family stomach issues although ds is finally doing well weaning off it. They didn't like it at first, but within 2-3 days they got the idea that it made them feel better and loved it. I think doctors give Zantac out far too quickly and most kids don't really need it, but it's a great thing for those that really do.

btw the taste is a very strong pepermint taste the only time my dd had grape flavor added to it she fought me over it until I went back for the regular flavor of it
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