Originally Posted by fireant
Seriously, why do these things have to be such a big deal? If you know what is being served (or you have doubts) and it's not what you want, why not take the stress off of the parents (who are most likely worried about making it a great day for all anyways) and bring your own food?
I agree people shouldn't make such a big deal about it. But I disagree about suggesting someone bring their own food.
I'd say remember that we are talking about a few bites of cake (have you never cleared after a kid party - more cake is thrown away on plates than is ever eaten). Pick and choose from what is available during that 90 minutes
of your kid's month. Is bringing your own food really necessary? Really? You gave them breakfast at 8:00, lunch at noon, snack in the car on the way, party is at 3:00, dinner will be at 6:00. Snacks/food available at the party. A handful of non-organic fishie crackers and a glass of fruit punch is the end of the world? I swear to you it isn't.
Say you think I'm a neglectful, mainstream mom, and bring your own food to the kid's friend's party anyway. Just off the top -
*your kid feels odd as he is the only one not having the party food
*host mom feels judged/like she didn't offer food good enough for you
*Cheetos are now your kid's forbidden fruit and will be the thing they request from gramma, auntie, neighbors, etc
*kid gets an untrue and worried view of the "evils" of snack food
*topic of the day - with kids and parents - is why you won't let your kid eat cake and ice cream
What is so terrible with providing healthy meals and snacks at home, and letting the kid have a few bites (honestly, they are running off to play) of party food on that one or two days per month? Kids are smart; they can understand that we choose the food that is good for our bodies, that helps us grow, that gives us energy to play and work, etc. AND once in a while we have a treat.
You can control to an extreme degree what your child is not allowed to eat. And the minute they are old enough to go to the store or a friend's house without you, what do you think they'll be eating?
My college fiance's mom was a over the top with healthy eating ideas when he was a kid. A decade later, and he was still talking about how his mom made Kool-Aid with honey instead of sugar. Geez, once a month let the kid have a glass of Kool-Aid. It doesn't have to be a daily habit. Is that what the moms who think bringing their own food to a party believe would happen?
I am honestly wondering what the harm is in letting the kid be a kid and have a few bites of party food.