Still deadlocked on name

[Galatea]

Dh just confessed that he really isn't okay with Lydia and wants her name to be Juliet, and if we name her Lydia Juliet, will want to just call her Juliet.

I can't deal with this name issue anymore. I am beginning to hate all the names we have considered.

[NatureMama3]

I'm sorry!

[Luv2Skydive]

I understand your frustration......we have just now narrowed our list down to seven names. It's been MONTHS in the making just to get this far. I keep telling DH we need a name NOW because I'm scared not having a name will keep me from going into labor. We actually had a name about 3 weeks ago that I came up with and then I said I didn't like it as much as I thought I did so we basically started from scratch. I know it sounds awful, but maybe you should do the same? Sometimes you just need to take a fresh look at names to find THE one.

[bri276]

sorry, not in your ddc, but I also just wanted to remind you it's perfectly okay to not name baby until you have the one that feels right. meaning, it doesn't have to be the exact moment of birth, and baby will feel every bit as loved going around being called nicknames for the first few days or however long it takes. sometimes you just need to meet that little person first.

[Molck]

Sorry you're having to deal with this frustration.

[Galatea]

Well, dh had a long talk with his dad and his dad basically said that the baby and I have a bond that he doesn't have (her being inside me) and it might really mess me up to change her name now, so dh will let me have my name, BUT I don't like that one of us has to lose. So maybe we should just forget about it til she is here. But maybe we'll see her and still not know! Has that happened to anyone?

[Molck]

Originally Posted by Galatea

Well, dh had a long talk with his dad and his dad basically said that the baby and I have a bond that he doesn't have (her being inside me) and it might really mess me up to change her name now, so dh will let me have my name, BUT I don't like that one of us has to lose. So maybe we should just forget about it til she is here. But maybe we'll see her and still not know! Has that happened to anyone?

Hasn't happened to us yet, but I think DH and I both fully expect to not have a name for this little one for at least a week after he's born (if baby is a he, as we suspect).

At first, the idea of waiting totally stressed me out, but now I kind of like it. We're just making a list of names that we sort-of like, and we're going to wait and see. Maybe you could do the same-- keep Lydia and Juliet but add a few others and then use them as a starting point once you've met her.

Who knew naming was going to be so hard?!

[MarchWillow]

dh and i have always agreed way in advance. i, of course go by how i feel...like i loved the name cameron before pregnancy but once we knew gender...he doesn't feel like a cameron. I loved the name alexander, but dh just hated it, even though to me he "felt" like a baby Alex. Finally we found Oliver...and we both liked it, and it seems to fit the baby so we agreed and set it in stone. I can't really imagine him as anyone else now...we even call him baby Ollie and sing "lolly pop, lolly pop" to him lol...I know kinda cheesy. But my whole point is, yeah naming is HARD-but just keep at it.

Side note...I always loved watching the video's of Steve Irwin (the crocodile hunter) when his wife had babies. They'd have a couple names picked out that she liked, and then he would name the baby off the name list once they laid eyes on it. I thought that was pretty cool, and a neat way to include daddy a little bit more. If "he" gets to pick, he's less likely to reject it later, in my opinion. Although it always irks me a little bit that I come up with all these names to present to him and he just says "nope" "nope" "nope" argh!!!

I love both the names you have picked Lydia and Juliet...oh man how I wish I could name a baby girl, just once! Good luck to you guys-I am sure that no matter what name you pick she will love it...until she's a teenager then she'll hate it like they all do lol. You should write down in a baby book all the ones you considered...it's always fun to look back at.

[MrsSurplus]

DH and I still don't have a name...nor one on our "short list" that both of us really like. That happened with the last one too and when we had finally settled on a name we could both live with (though it didn't "grab" either one of us) when he was 3 days old, DH went to re-look up the name in the baby book and found one that we both liked...so, at 5 days old we finally named the last one - a name that neither of us had heard of until DH saw it in the baby name book 3 days postpartum!

It might be that when your daughter is born one of you says, "oh yeah...she's definitely a Juliet/Lydia/someone entirely different" Good luck!

[HerthElde]

Have you asked baby what she wants her name to be?

[Galatea]

No. How would I do that?

[cj'smommy]

I hope you can get it worked out and you're both happy.

[HerthElde]

Usually it comes to me in dreams - but, conscious guided meditation is a good way to "get in touch" with baby.

[newclementine]

maybe it's time to find a new name completely! I love the name Lydia - but there are so many great girls names! Don't get too frustrated, enjoy this time.