Originally Posted by kristen1978
Women are not MEANT to do this alone. We are not meant to have such a difficult job and yet be so socially isolated and devalued. Even under the best of circumstances (happy baby, supportive partner, friends) a woman in our culture is still living in a reality that other mothers in the world do not.
I've done quite a bit of traveling and have noticed some major cultural differences in motherhood and what it entails. Of course mothering is hard everywhere, but with extended family and close-knit communities, the burden is usually shared in other parts of the world -- babies are passed around and nursed by others, children are entertained and watched over. Women have more space, more freedom, more room to breathe. Unlike here where we are all supposed to be supermom and love every minute of it.
I have been feeling that way nearly the entire time I've had my son. Not just in regards to women, but also with parents - having to raise the child alone with no outside support.
And I've also felt it in regards to all of the controversy behind NIP. Like a mother is just supposed to sit at home to breastfeed each and every time as though that is really feasible.
And one can only nurse in the car for so long before the warm weather hits and makes it impossible. I've felt so many times that if I were lucky enough to live in a culture where breastfeeding anywhere/anytime is normal that I would not feel so discouraged, trapped, shunned, and so many other things. It's not bothered me as much lately, but for a long time I felt it constantly.