Originally Posted by meganeilis
Little jabs about ASSuming and "the most judgemental food post ever" etc were made that were not productive, just snarky. Of course it's kind of the members here to be worried about the OP's day care families, but she is a member here, she's one of us, and even if you don't love what's she saying, being kind and respectful to her would be nice too.
One of the reasons I would never use home day care is because many providers/mothers tend to be the most judgemental of all, as they are babysitting because they do not want to leave their own kids with babysitters. Over the years, the family day providers I''ve known are the ones at playgroup/library story hour etc who tend to talk about how they could never leave their kids, how lazy the parents are etc. 'They get off work at 4, but they don't bother to pick up until 5!" People tend to offer childcare in their homes so they can stay home. Most (not all, but flame me anyway) don't tend to think those women who work are good enough mothers. "I don't know *how* they could leave their own children!"
I've seen family day care poviders judge the most ridiculous things. From wanting the child to have only organic food to wanting the child to be changed more often. "Do they think their kid is the only kid I have?" or "They think their kid is *so* special!")
I also realize that too many people think some foods are healthy when they are aboslutely not! Non- fat prepared foods, fruit juice (even natural ones) , and non- organic fruits among them.
If I used child care, I would rather it be through a group of people with a variety of experiences and beliefts, over one mom who thinks her way is the only right way. There is nobody the home day parent can bounce ideas off of, or who witnesses (besides the children) her style. It's the day care providers judgement/beleif alone which determines the care, and if the parent disagrees, they are assumed wrong by the home day provider.