i felt similarly, but then i realized that when we combined both of our work friends, our good acquaintances (we don't count a lot of people among close friends, and most live across the country, in another state, or in another acountry!), and the friends who do live here. . .
our list went from 5 to 75. lol. no lie.
Ugh, and then there's family. Having my mom, dad, and stepmother together in a room is awkward at best, and adding DH's mom makes it worse because you can tell they're all really trying to get along, but none of them are comfortable at all--the wedding had some painful moments. : We're already trying to figure out how to make the baby's birthdays and everything go smoothly, but .... DH's dad died recently, his one sibling and her husband probably wouldn't be able to fly in, and I'm an only child with no close cousins or anything. This is why DH and I have solemnly vowed to stay together forever, and have at least 2-4 kids, and try to stay as close to his sister as we can--it sucks not having any kind of functional family to enjoy the good times with, although they'd always be there for us in the bad times if we needed it.
It was so sweet of this friend/acquaintance to offer to throw the shower (she loves that kind of stuff), but I almost wish she hadn't, especially because she didn't offer so much as insist. It makes me feel all odd and inadequate, and I'm not so much a party person anyway. I love people, but I guess I prefer them in small batches.