Finley Thelma Kate was born May 4th @ 7:34 p.m. She was 6 lbs & 19 inches.
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It wasn't the best experience but we made it through!
For those who don't wish to read a pretty neg. birth story I wouldn't read further.
My water broke at 2 p.m. on May 3rd (1 hour after my shower!) and DH and I decided to head in to the hospital since I was so dilated and blah blah blah. Well, BIG mistake. As soon as we got there they started talking pitocin. My nurse said "If we don't have contractions by 6 p.m (!) Christa (Midwife on call) wants to start pitocin."
So, the whole thing got started very badly for me... emotionally. I started feeling a lot of pressure from the staff and sort of panicked at the thought of pit. I realized right than that I'd made a big mistake by heading in so soon. Well, no ctx. by 6 but I told them I didn't want pitocin yet and that I thought it was rushing things. They said they were fine with that and my nurse was very supportive. I did everything I could think of to get ctx. started. I stayed on my feet, showered, bathed, danced, rocked, stim. my nipples, bounced on the ball, walk walk walked.
They gave me something to sleep at 10 and said if no ctx. by 6 a.m. we'd start pit. Well, no ctx. at all by 6 a.m. so I got hooked up to pit. Stayed on my feet ALL DAY. The dose kept going up and up and up. Nothing was happening. Midwife wanted to start an internal monitor... I said no. They upped my pit to the max dose that they will do w/o an internal monitor and F.I.N.A.L.L.Y they started up. It must've been around 4 p.m. I was so exhausted at this point but really relieved at the same time. My ctx. were very manageable, especially in the shower/jacuzzi.
They asked me about an epidural and I said I wanted it. I thought I was going to be strong & go without it but I was just so tired and emotionally spent from A. worrying about not going into labor & being made to feel like my body is not good enough to do this and B. Feeling like watched pot because we had so much family there waiting & friends calling calling calling.
(OH hindsight!!) I just felt I couldn't handle a manual placenta removal w/o pain management after all that went on the night & day before labor.
Got my epidural & I started bleeding quite a bit. I had a few people in the room with me so I was sort of stressing about that. I felt a gush as they were setting things up and I looked under my blanket to see a medium sized pool of blood. I asked my midwife "is that bad?" and she just looked at me and said "well, I think it's time we get her out". I just lost it right there. I was so worried about the placenta and have worried about the baby so much more than I have worried during other pregnancies. It all just hit me and I couldn't stop crying. I felt like I wasn't in my own body because nurses were asking me questions and my midwife asked what the baby's name was going to be and I just kept silently crying and starred at the wall.
I pushed Finley out at 7:34... took about 3 minutes but it felt really long to me because my other kids came quicker and I didn't feel I was pushing as well as usual. I actually had a really "good" epidural and could still feel a lot, including pressure and could hold my body weight in a "bridge" type position but I wasn't getting her out as fast as I thought I would. She came out and I was relieved to see she was okay. I held her and my midwife put some medicine in my butt (to help the placenta?) and we waited waited waited. Long story short she went after it and it was once again in tons of chunks. Just... gross. I don't know why this is how my placentas are. I've never gotten a good explanation. I was so so thankful for my epidural at that point. Anyway, no tears or cuts which is a plus.
I am usually very thrilled to be in the hospital but this time since she was 3 weeks early they were treating her like she is SO early and SO small and I just didn't think she was that fragile. I had at least 2 LCs tell me that babies this age/size can SEEM like they're nursing well but really they're not. One of them kept telling me all these horror stories of 37 weekers failing to thrive. Formula Formula Formula... heard it from the nurses & the 2 LCs that I didn't get along with. They told me that if she had lost more than 3% of her body weight we would HAVE to supplement with formula. (Even though I told them over and OVER again that she is nursing & latching GREAT)
The LC that I LOVE came in and worked with her, mauled my boob which was fine with me as long as she got her on good & said Finley was doing AWESOME. She had so many poops but that still wasn't good enough for some of these people. They came in, weighed her and she had only lost 2.8% of her body weight. I was like "oh GOOD!" and the nurse looks at me and says "well, we don't actually know if 3% is a firm number". She left and I just cried telling DH that I can't STAND these people. They are so negative blah blah blah. The LC that I love came in and said "Darcy, 2.8 is AWESOME! Do NOT pump and we do not need to supplement." She made me feel so much better.
The whole time I was having trouble with these annoying nurses. I usually love nurses but I had a slew of them that were at least 3 years younger than me and they acted like I had a pea sized brain and couldn't possibly manage without them. One picked up the digital thermometer out of Finley's bassi and said "do you know how to use this?" My DH said that I just never looked at the annoying ones and would barely answer their questions. One of the them got mad because I wouldn't let her look at my anus to check for hemorrhoids.
Anyway, we're sprung now. She's 5lbs 11 oz. and we're supposed to get a weight/bili check tomorrow and I'm nursing up a storm so I can get these people out of my life.
Sorry this whole post is a rant & negative, I just realized I have been holding that all in!
Good Luck to everybody who has yet to deliver, I am SO rooting for & thinking about you. I know it's going to go awesome! My baby is so sweet & snuggly. She sure knows what she wants & that's to cuddly & eat.
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It wasn't the best experience but we made it through!
For those who don't wish to read a pretty neg. birth story I wouldn't read further.
My water broke at 2 p.m. on May 3rd (1 hour after my shower!) and DH and I decided to head in to the hospital since I was so dilated and blah blah blah. Well, BIG mistake. As soon as we got there they started talking pitocin. My nurse said "If we don't have contractions by 6 p.m (!) Christa (Midwife on call) wants to start pitocin."
So, the whole thing got started very badly for me... emotionally. I started feeling a lot of pressure from the staff and sort of panicked at the thought of pit. I realized right than that I'd made a big mistake by heading in so soon. Well, no ctx. by 6 but I told them I didn't want pitocin yet and that I thought it was rushing things. They said they were fine with that and my nurse was very supportive. I did everything I could think of to get ctx. started. I stayed on my feet, showered, bathed, danced, rocked, stim. my nipples, bounced on the ball, walk walk walked.
They gave me something to sleep at 10 and said if no ctx. by 6 a.m. we'd start pit. Well, no ctx. at all by 6 a.m. so I got hooked up to pit. Stayed on my feet ALL DAY. The dose kept going up and up and up. Nothing was happening. Midwife wanted to start an internal monitor... I said no. They upped my pit to the max dose that they will do w/o an internal monitor and F.I.N.A.L.L.Y they started up. It must've been around 4 p.m. I was so exhausted at this point but really relieved at the same time. My ctx. were very manageable, especially in the shower/jacuzzi.
They asked me about an epidural and I said I wanted it. I thought I was going to be strong & go without it but I was just so tired and emotionally spent from A. worrying about not going into labor & being made to feel like my body is not good enough to do this and B. Feeling like watched pot because we had so much family there waiting & friends calling calling calling.
(OH hindsight!!) I just felt I couldn't handle a manual placenta removal w/o pain management after all that went on the night & day before labor.Got my epidural & I started bleeding quite a bit. I had a few people in the room with me so I was sort of stressing about that. I felt a gush as they were setting things up and I looked under my blanket to see a medium sized pool of blood. I asked my midwife "is that bad?" and she just looked at me and said "well, I think it's time we get her out". I just lost it right there. I was so worried about the placenta and have worried about the baby so much more than I have worried during other pregnancies. It all just hit me and I couldn't stop crying. I felt like I wasn't in my own body because nurses were asking me questions and my midwife asked what the baby's name was going to be and I just kept silently crying and starred at the wall.
I pushed Finley out at 7:34... took about 3 minutes but it felt really long to me because my other kids came quicker and I didn't feel I was pushing as well as usual. I actually had a really "good" epidural and could still feel a lot, including pressure and could hold my body weight in a "bridge" type position but I wasn't getting her out as fast as I thought I would. She came out and I was relieved to see she was okay. I held her and my midwife put some medicine in my butt (to help the placenta?) and we waited waited waited. Long story short she went after it and it was once again in tons of chunks. Just... gross. I don't know why this is how my placentas are. I've never gotten a good explanation. I was so so thankful for my epidural at that point. Anyway, no tears or cuts which is a plus.
I am usually very thrilled to be in the hospital but this time since she was 3 weeks early they were treating her like she is SO early and SO small and I just didn't think she was that fragile. I had at least 2 LCs tell me that babies this age/size can SEEM like they're nursing well but really they're not. One of them kept telling me all these horror stories of 37 weekers failing to thrive. Formula Formula Formula... heard it from the nurses & the 2 LCs that I didn't get along with. They told me that if she had lost more than 3% of her body weight we would HAVE to supplement with formula. (Even though I told them over and OVER again that she is nursing & latching GREAT)
The LC that I LOVE came in and worked with her, mauled my boob which was fine with me as long as she got her on good & said Finley was doing AWESOME. She had so many poops but that still wasn't good enough for some of these people. They came in, weighed her and she had only lost 2.8% of her body weight. I was like "oh GOOD!" and the nurse looks at me and says "well, we don't actually know if 3% is a firm number". She left and I just cried telling DH that I can't STAND these people. They are so negative blah blah blah. The LC that I love came in and said "Darcy, 2.8 is AWESOME! Do NOT pump and we do not need to supplement." She made me feel so much better.
The whole time I was having trouble with these annoying nurses. I usually love nurses but I had a slew of them that were at least 3 years younger than me and they acted like I had a pea sized brain and couldn't possibly manage without them. One picked up the digital thermometer out of Finley's bassi and said "do you know how to use this?"
My DH said that I just never looked at the annoying ones and would barely answer their questions. One of the them got mad because I wouldn't let her look at my anus to check for hemorrhoids.Anyway, we're sprung now. She's 5lbs 11 oz. and we're supposed to get a weight/bili check tomorrow and I'm nursing up a storm so I can get these people out of my life.
Sorry this whole post is a rant & negative, I just realized I have been holding that all in!
Good Luck to everybody who has yet to deliver, I am SO rooting for & thinking about you. I know it's going to go awesome! My baby is so sweet & snuggly. She sure knows what she wants & that's to cuddly & eat.
I'm so excited for you!!!
sorry things were so rough for you, it shouldn't have to be that way. I'm glad you're finally home, enjoy your babymoon!!!
For funny! Thanks for letting me spread the word! 
I don't mind at all that you went hunting, I would've totally done the same thing. Her brothers just LOVE her. Especially my 3 year old. He would hold her 24/7 if he could & just tells her how much he loves her. 
that her birth was not what you had wanted or expected. Glad you were comfortable sharing that here, its good to talk about a negative birth because, IMO, it can be really healing. Get as much rest as possible.
