Originally Posted by Ensemble
Channel your feelings productively. She did not pull out a knife and do this alone. A doctor and probably a hospital conspired to make her think this was her choice to make, when ethically it was not. Doctors have no ethical right to offer this surgery for no medical purpose, and hospitals have no ethical right to facilitate it. They are to blame at least as much as this 14-year old girl. Maybe more, since they have no possible excuse whatsoever for not knowing better.
I think its true that many parents are tricked into thinking this is a choice they need to make, and that circumcision is "no big deal", but we cant put blame on doctors all the time. The OP laid out the truth for them, they saw the realities of circumcision straight in the face, yet they still decided to do it anyway.
To the OP-
You cant help everyone. No matter how hard you try, some people are just too deeply dug into their culture to see facts. But she was young, and her mother was scared too, and when people are scared they trust in society. Doing something that is different takes a lot of courage, and that girl had very little spare. When she is older, when she has a clearer head, she will look back on this and see the mistake she made. And if she ever gives another go at parenting when she is older, you probably have saved future sons. At the very least, you planted seeds in two minds in this world. Be proud of that, know that every little action you make adds up. And change is often not about grand gestures, but lots of little actions made by many people. Remember that.