Originally Posted by lillydilly
The most helpful thing of all for me was the change in attitude. I really did go from resenting all the housework to seeing it as blessing my home and my family. Even if I gained nothing more from her than that, it was worth it.
I will look at it again (I think I did the first 3 days and then I got real busy with something and forgot to pick it up again). But I do not resent housework, and feel it is a blessing for my family. My problem is just that I feel so overwhelmed.
I understand FL helps with the overwhelm by just having you do a little at a time, but the part that gets me down every time is that it takes exactly 2 days for my house to fall COMPLETELY apart. Only 2 days. So I feel like I have no margin for error. If I'm sick or if I spend my energy for a day or two on another project (outdoors or something), then boom, I have to start from the very beginning again.
I hate that, and it saps my energy. It's like, why bother.
If it took a week to fall apart, that might be ok. But, god, 2 days??
And I don't even mean that 1 day of letting it go is still close to good, it's already close to terrible after 1 day, but 2 days is all it takes for the house to get to the WORST it gets.
And if you think I'm a perfectionist, and the worst is not bad, that is not the case. I'm talking dishes everywhere, mountains of laundry all over the floor, food spills on the floor from DD, EVERYTHING.
So I feel like even with FL, if the routine is disturbed for a mere 2 days, I have to spend enormous amounts of energy to get it back (either all at once, or just by starting all over again with FL and spending weeks or months).
Any thoughts on the above? Is that just the reality, that you just HAVE to stick with it at ALL costs?