a little bit sad it's over.

[2xshy]

This was my first and last baby, while i didn't really like pregnancy at all I am sad i will never give birth again. I don't want more kids ( i don't think) and i don't want to ever be pregnant again but i would really love to experience birth again.
I guess i'm just mourning it. Also I guess I'm a bit sad that i didn't end up having the kind of birth i had hoped for. I look at my daughter and see this amazing experience we got to go through together and wish i could go back and feel it all over again. I always thought of birth as something *I* would go through not something *WE* got to go through together.

Anyhow i just thought i'd share in case any other mamas out there are mourning part of their pregnancy or birth.

[BensMom]

I totally understand. This is our 3rd and last child. And after 3 births, I finaly "got it right" and had a fabulous experience. I would love to do taht again (although the pain part does sound a bit daunting this soon LOL) but I dont think we could handle any more kids and I dont want to be pregnant again. So I just have to put some closure on it and move on. Its hard.

[Telle Bear]

I am soo sad that I will never be pregnant again. I actually cried when I went into labor knowing it was coming to an end.

I keep saying things like....this is the last time i will have a two week old...a three week old...etc...

[Jennisee]

As difficult as my pregnancy was for me, I've had some of the same thoughts, too.

[Incubator]

We plan on having at least one more, and I'm sad anyway. I wish I'd been smart enough to do the right thing with my son, sou I could experience pregnancy, labor and birth fully at least three times. I'm not entirely in your shoes, but it makes me sad to know I'll may only be able to do this one more time.
Have any of you considered being a surrogate? I told my husband I think I'd like to do that, I love being pregnant and giving birth, but I don't know if we really want a ton more kids.

[krizzanne]

Originally Posted by BensMom

I totally understand. This is our 3rd and last child. And after 3 births, I finaly "got it right" and had a fabulous experience. I would love to do taht again (although the pain part does sound a bit daunting this soon LOL) but I dont think we could handle any more kids and I dont want to be pregnant again. So I just have to put some closure on it and move on. Its hard.

I could have written that post...me too. (sigh - I guess we have to cherish the memories!)!

[eastkygal]

I totally understand. This birth was my last too and my final chance at a vaginal homebirth. It just couldn't happen that way. My c-section was medically necessary this time - clearly, and I experience every part of labor up to pushing. I just grieve it ending up in surgery again. My "born at home" birth certificate still sits in the bottom of my birthkit in my livingroom. I so wanted to use that. Yes, I'm happy for my healthy baby and my own health, but sad that I won't get another do over.

[GISDiva]

Yep, probably first and last here too. We only wanted one, so this is it. There are definitely things I miss, although definitely things I won't miss either, like not being able to sleep comfortably and the digestive issues - not that I had a bad pregnancy or anything.

It's funny though, after almost four weeks with LO on the outside, it's hard to even remember what it felt like having him in on the inside!

[Ironica]

Yeah, I hear that. As much as I NEVER want to put myself through pregnancy again, the thought "I'll never [blank] again" is kinda sad.

DH and I both wanted two kids from the get-go (before we ever even met each other!), so this is definitely it... and pregnancy sucks enough for me that I wouldn't want to surrogate (not to mention that after two c-sections, and how difficult labor was for me this time, and with me approaching "advanced maternal age," it just doesn't seem like a good idea). But yeah, it's a melancholy thought.

[milosmomma]

Oh yeah, I'm definitely missing being pregnant and giving birth. Everything went so smoothly that it seemed to go SO FAST.

A good friend just found out that she's pregnant this week and I'm so jealous of the beginning of pregnancy excitement when there are so many possibilities (boy, girl, twins....)