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My twins dont look like twins

post #1 of 24
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I have not been on here for a long time and first wanted to say hi to all the twin mom's that had there babies last year in July and Aug. of 07. Along with me LOL.
any way my twins are so so different that people don't even know there twins until I tell them they are. We went to Walmart the other day and the lady that worked there asked me how much older my son was than my daughter. I told her they were twins and she told me that they couldn't be LOL.
They are almost 10 months and my son is 25 pound my girl is 17 pounds.
Any one else have twins like this? At birth they were only 1 pound apart.
Shawnii
post #2 of 24
My boy/girl twins barely look related, let alone like twins, but their weight difference has only been about 2-3 lbs difference. Ask 2+twins about her babies' weight differences.
post #3 of 24
i'm a twin and i look nothing like my brother. in fact i'm 5'7 and he is 6'6 i have brown/black eyes he has ice blue. i have golden brown hair and tan skin, he has jet black hair and pale skin. although i'm the older twin he has always been the bigger twin. i look more like my youngest brother and he looks like my little sister. so it's not too uncommon for twins not to look like siblings. congrats on your twins
post #4 of 24
You're not alone. When my twins were babies, they confused everyone. One of them was 2 lbs smaller at birth and looked like a premie, compared to my 6 lb 15 oz boy, who looked robust. They looked like they were about 4 months apart until they were about 8 months.

They're now 6 and just today, someone asked if one of my boys was 1 or 2 years younger than his brother. She was shocked when I told her they were twins. Ironically, the one who was tiny at birth is now 3 inches taller. Plus, one's got blonde hair/blue eyes and the other has olive skin, dark hair and big brown eyes. I think it's great for them that they're so different in looks and personality. It's got to be a challenge to be a twin sometimes.

Congrats on your babies!
post #5 of 24
People often assume my boys are just close in age. They don't look much alike, and one is bigger and has more advanced gross motor skills.

Generally strangers either assume they are a year apart or ask if they are identical.
post #6 of 24
You're not alone. When my twins were babies, they confused everyone. One of them was 2 lbs smaller at birth and looked like a premie, compared to my 6 lb 15 oz boy, who looked robust. They looked like they were about 4 months apart until they were about 8 months.

They're now 6 and just today, someone asked if one of my boys was 1 or 2 years younger than his brother. She was shocked when I told her they were twins. Ironically, the one who was tiny at birth is now 3 inches taller. Plus, one's got blonde hair/blue eyes and the other has olive skin, dark hair and big brown eyes. I think it's great for them that they're so different in looks and personality. It's got to be a challenge to be a twin sometimes.

Congrats on your babies!
post #7 of 24
Mine look nothing alike either. Very often people ask how far apart they are (as in months - they generally think there's about a year age difference) and sometimes they ask if they're even related (and then there are the strange people who insist that they're identical)! They started out with a 15 oz. weight difference but have been about 11 lbs. different for some time now (and 2-3 inches in height difference)! Here are some recent pics of them. You can really see the size difference when they're standing side by side.

Pic 1
Pic 2
Pic 3
post #8 of 24
Mine are so alike I can't even tell them apart sometimes, but that's not why I'm posting

Shawnii, I've thought about you since you were in the same DDC... I've wondered how you were managing twins with all of your other children!
post #9 of 24
That is almost the same weight as my girls. 24 pounds and 17 pounds at 10 months. One has dark hair and one has blondish. One has a fat round head and one has a long narrow face. One is quick to laugh and smile and one is very serious and detail oriented.

You can see a video of them here. It is hard to see the weight difference, but I think you can see their features well enough.

http://alessonincompromise.blogspot....-together.html

Or here is a still photo
http://alessonincompromise.blogspot....-together.html
post #10 of 24
people do this to me too-- think my twins aren't twins. one is brunette and one is blond and my little boy is taller (only by an inch or so, but still)

i think it is so silly that people do that especially at your babies ages-- if you subtracted 9-10 months from one of them, the other one would be a newborn. i mean come on. even mine who are 22mo- if you took 9-10mo away from one of them, there would be a huge developmental difference between them. i mean i get how people can ask this about 5 or 6yo twins, but babies and toddlers-- they must just not be thinking.

people also don't get the fact that fraternal twins can share as much as 75% of their DNA and as little as 25%-- just like any other siblings. so they can look very similar or very different.

i always waiver between being : about it and just at people's stupidity.
post #11 of 24
When our boy/girl twins were babies everyone knew they were twins. When they started to walk is when people started to ask. They have always been different in height. Their weight stays close; she is 4 pounds heavier and he is 1 1/2 inches taller. People ask how close they are in age and I tell them they are 12 minutes apart. Then of course most people just look at me with a blank lo on their face and I have to tell them they are twins, and then they get it.
post #12 of 24
My twins look nothing alike. He is blond - straight hair, blue-eyed and slight while she is very curly brown with brown eyes.
People, even when they were littler, would say - Oh? are they siblings? and then once I said that they were twins came the stupid question of "oh, are they identical?"
post #13 of 24

My sons look nothing alike either!

They both have reddish hair and denim-colored eyes. That is about it. One has a LOT of hair that is getting really long, the other has hair but it is very short.

Even their voices are different. They are definitely not fraternals like the Olsen twins, who look almost identical!

I love the fact that they look different. We never wanted them to be treated as anything other than separate individuals so it is great. We don't call them "the twins" but, "the boys". We dress them completely differently and always will. Friends gave me matching outfits for fun... and we refuse to dress them alike.

I am an identical who always struggled to maintain my own identity. So, I am very happy that these boys won't have to do that... when I was 6, I hacked off my butt-length hair so I would not look like my twin. I got sick of being called "hey twin" and not my name... just random stuff down the road of life that being an identical took its toll because everyone thought we were one and the same person just because the egg split and we looked and sounded alike.
post #14 of 24
Mine are nothing alike, either. They looked alike for about four days after they were born, although even then they were different sizes-- about 1 1/2 pounds apart at birth. Since then, they've been steadily getting more and more unlike in their looks and in their personalities, too. Right now DD2 is about 21 pounds at 15 months, and DS is 25 pounds.

They're about the same in height, though, so most people seem to clue in that they're twins, as long as they register that they're both my kids. A lot of people think that DS is someone else's child, like I'm babysitting or whatever, because he looks so different from his sisters. DD1 and DD2 look just like me, and DS looks like his daddy.

DD2 is dark-haired and brown-eyed and sallow like me, and DS is pink and blond and blue-eyed. He's stocky and chubby and round, and she's a delicate little thing like a bird. And he's easygoing and slow-moving and smiley and outgoing, while she's quick-witted and intense and serious and very suspicious of anyone she doesn't know. She's a talker, and he's a sit by himself and play with his feet kind of kid. Honestly, they don't even look like siblings, let alone what most people seem to think "twins" ought to look like.
post #15 of 24
SOmeone once told me about my twins,"They don't look alike enough to be neighbors!" I though that was hilarious.

Here are some pics:

http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e2...ngtrees023.jpg

http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e2...ngtrees038.jpg

http://i40.photobucket.com/albums/e2...ngtrees025.jpg
post #16 of 24
People used to say "Oh, they're identical aren't they?" Uh...no. Blond hair blue eyes, skinny and brown hair, brown eyes, chunky. So that used to annoy me. Now people say "Are they both yours? Oh, how far apart are they?" 24 min. "Oh they don't even look like brothers let alone twins." I try really hard to hide the "OMG not this question again" look on my face but I don't think I suceed most of the time!
post #17 of 24
Our twins were only 2 oz different in weight at birth and we've always thought they look quite different from each other. At nearly a year they are 22 and 19 lbs. I get asked all those same questions, but then there are some people who completely baffle me by asking how I tell them apart?! Or they'll insist that they must be identical (even though one's a girl and the other's a boy) LOL.
post #18 of 24
I'm so glad you started this thread! I could have written some of the pp. My DD has dark hair and eyes with olive skin and is lean. DS has light reddish brown hair, big blue eyes, very fair skin and is chubby. DH and I try to find similarities in their features.

I was at the store the other day and had DS in the cart and DD in the pouch and a woman was complementing DS and asked how old he was. I answered her in the plural, but it must not have registered because then she said "and how old is the baby", referring to DD. They are 11 months, so if I became pregnant immediately, she would be 2 months old?!
post #19 of 24
It's funny - I have two dd's that are 16 mos apart now 11 and 12 years old. My older dd was tiny and the second bigger. For years people have thought they are twins. When I was once traveling with them when they were younger I actually had a flight attendant make an announcement for people to clear the aisles for me to get through as they had a "mother traveling alone with twins". I felt compelled to go down the aisle saying "they aren't twins! Just close in age!" When they were young, I would get parents of multiples that would come up to me and say "don't worry, they'll get bigger and you'll survive." Moral is, unless they are identical, you can't assume either way.
post #20 of 24
People assumed my brother and I were twins all the time when we were kids, but in high school one of his friends thought I was his mom!! We're 20 months apart!
My friend has boy/girl twins (13 yo) and used to get asked if they were identical. Uhhh.... did I mention they are BOY/GIRL TWINS?
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