My youngest brother (DB) still at home, who is 14, confessed out of guilt to his church leader that he had masturbated on a few occassions. My DB immediately stopped masturbating and began to go through the church's repentance process.
DB cannot participate in some of the church activities that other "worthy" boys his age can, which makes him stick out like a sore thumb at church. He has to meet with the church leader once a week to discuss his urges and his progress. He is expected to be completley open and forthright about whats going on in is sex life.
Every morning on the way to school my DB gets a lecture from my father, checking in, asking him if he had the urge to masturbate, and telling him how disappointed in him he is. My father has never masturbated once in is entire life and reminds him this constantly. DB has been grounded from the phone, the internet, and from any activity where girls might be present, for 4 months now. My parents have forbid him to sit with girls at lunch. (There's one girl in particular who was kinda his "girlfriend" before all this.)
DB is miserable. He feels his parents don't love him. He hates going to church. He hates talking to the church leader. My parents force him to do these things anyway. He also doesn't agree with the rules/doctrine of the church, and hasn't for 2 years. But he wouldn't dare tell this to anyone but me, who left the church several years ago.
MY BOTTOM LINE?? I think this is sexual abuse, sexual harassment in the very least.
No child should be repeatedly asked private sexual questions and be admonished about them, whether it's alone with a man in a church office, or in a car with dad on the way to school.
What do you think? This has all come to my attention just today. I'm heartbroken and struggling to decide how to be there for my brother. I'm also very, very angry.
DB cannot participate in some of the church activities that other "worthy" boys his age can, which makes him stick out like a sore thumb at church. He has to meet with the church leader once a week to discuss his urges and his progress. He is expected to be completley open and forthright about whats going on in is sex life.
Every morning on the way to school my DB gets a lecture from my father, checking in, asking him if he had the urge to masturbate, and telling him how disappointed in him he is. My father has never masturbated once in is entire life and reminds him this constantly. DB has been grounded from the phone, the internet, and from any activity where girls might be present, for 4 months now. My parents have forbid him to sit with girls at lunch. (There's one girl in particular who was kinda his "girlfriend" before all this.)
DB is miserable. He feels his parents don't love him. He hates going to church. He hates talking to the church leader. My parents force him to do these things anyway. He also doesn't agree with the rules/doctrine of the church, and hasn't for 2 years. But he wouldn't dare tell this to anyone but me, who left the church several years ago.
MY BOTTOM LINE?? I think this is sexual abuse, sexual harassment in the very least.
No child should be repeatedly asked private sexual questions and be admonished about them, whether it's alone with a man in a church office, or in a car with dad on the way to school.
What do you think? This has all come to my attention just today. I'm heartbroken and struggling to decide how to be there for my brother. I'm also very, very angry.
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: I dont like lying but in this case they are invaiding his privacy in the worst way. What he does alone is between him and God and no one elses bussiness. 
by Steve Brown.
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