You lost me, Kim.
But, then again, I'm half asleep. What are you saying exactly? I meant everyone's experiences are relative. Like for one person being told masturbation is a sin tares them up for life whereas for another it means something else. Hopefully I am making some sense here....
But I was reading the "moral relativity" argument into it. Like, hmm, according to this culture X is OK, although we in our culture think it is terrible, we can't say that X is necessarily immoral. It is relative, what might be wrong for us might be fine for them.
Still not sure if I am explaining it right.
Ok it just took me a minute but I found the post (I almost thought I had accidently credited a phrase to you). OK, here:
|Well this is all well and good in your life because it is your opinion and personal beliefs but there are those of us who don't feel this way. We should be allowed our faith and our practices in peace, should we not? Force is a whole other issue. If it is forced then yes something should be done but in general it's a "to each their own" thing.
Now I hear people say "oh but it does so much inner harm" ok well yes to some maybe but so does teaching it's A OK. What if a child is taught this and grows up to believe that it's not? What sort of inner turmoil awaits him/her then?
There just isn't a 100% right or wrong answer with that. It's all so relative.
Baggage-ing a child with that kind of guilt, and fear, I guess I just don't think it is ever right.
I don't want my kids to be crazy sexually active before they are ready, but I would only warn them with real reasons. This is what can happen (disease, pregnancy, regret, etc). I mean those are actual things. And I know that people really believe their god beliefs, the feel very real to people. I guess I will never get anywhere with this because there is no way you would understand my POV (general you, the religious you), and I could never understand yours.
But masturbation, a human being touching their own body in a way that is doing no physical/mental damage that anyone has ever shown to be true (except ONLY in the case of guilt from religious conditioning, not any natural guilt or regret), I can't see how any adult, ANY ADULT EVER, has any right to ask a child questions like that. As Brig has pointed out, take the religion out of the equation, if any adult asked a kid about touching himself? Um???? That is seriously messed up and abusive. Or at least perverted. If I found out my kid's teacher was asking that sort of thing at school??? Or a coach at soccer practice, or the guy next door? I would be so not cool with that. If my husband even asked that, I would be seriously confused unless my kid was ejaculating on his clean work shirts or something.
I don't see any relative area for an adult to ask such a private question of a child. I can not see how it is "all relative"
Hope you don't think I am attacking you, I am just trying to explain the problem I am having with this idea. It is foreign to me. If my dad asked me something like that ever ... : Or anyone, that would have been so exploitive. Even though I wasn't doing any such thing as a kid, still, the asking about it. Oh, my, god. It blows my mind.