Originally Posted by 2shy2post
My personal testimony as to hating cooking (dishwashing, laundry, etc.) with my kids:
Maybe I can blame it on being an only child, A-type, personality. I like things to just be "done" and as fast as possible. It has taken me a great deal of time to just relax and enjoy the process. Which, honestly, I have to FORCE myself to do. Ultimately, I don't really enjoy cooking withOUT the kids (really, for me it is a means to an end), so I'm sure that contributes to it as well...
anyway, just thought I would comisserate.
I feel the same, exact way. I tried to bake cookies with the kids at christmas time and spent the entire time freaking out. My DH pointed out that I needed to chill out, b/c I was scaring the kids, but being the type A personality I am, it drives me bonkers when my kids paw everything up and spill flour EVERYWHERE, b/c that means that *I* get to clean it. They don't listen, when I tell them not to touch something, they will stick their entire hand into it. I ended up having my DH take over, since it seems like he is generally the, "fun" one and I am the "un-fun" one when it comes to these kinds of things.
I have friends who love cooking with their kids, but unfortunately that's just not me, and I feel kind of guilty about it. When it's time for me to cook, I shoo everyone out of the kitchen, b/c I need my space and I want to do things as quickly as possible. I think I adopted my attitude from my mom, who is a wonderful cook, but cooking with her was never fun, b/c I didn't like being stuck in a kitchen (she would force me to help her in the kitchen while my brothers didn't have to help). For me, I cook, b/c I have to, and it's not b/c I'm not good at it, I'm actually a decent cook, I just don't think it's relaxing and I hate that cooking means that there will be a mess that needs to be cleaned up. I might enjoy it more if I had my own personal dishwasher person! If I was filthy rich, the first person I would hire, would be a personal chef. I love to eat, but just don't enjoy cooking that much. My DH loves to cook, but he leaves a disaster after he cooks, so when he cooks, all that means is that I have to pick up after his huge mess.