Need everyones help on cs

[circle vortex]

Well, I just got back from my 2nd ob appt this week. I had an US and a non-stress test. I am 40 + 4 days past and am trying for vbac.

The ob came in and said to me “you know the saying poop or get off the pot, well, that’s what I am telling you” He wants me to have another c-section tomorrow. Then he keep saying to me, do you hear what I am saying to you, can you hear me. ( like I am ****** imbecile) sorry vent

Here are the reasons: 1) past edd, 2) fluid level is 10 > 7 is cut of, 3) U/S didn’t get good reading on breathing, 4) baby hasn’t grown since last U/S, 5) non stress score was 8/10 6) baby is still high and cervix up and closed.

I don’t know what to do? I do not want him to win however; I am concerned about baby’s health. I hate making such decisions.

I am very upset mentally over idea of c-section. Why isn’t my body working right. How can I accept the decision for a c-s?

All opinions and advice is welcome.

thanks
sue

[NatureMama3]

I'm sorry. He sounds like a real jerk. :

I'm guessing he won't do anything to induce?

[smeisnotapirate]

Far be it from me to speak ill of someone I don't know, but he sounds like a total @ss. I would remind him (or his boss, if necessary) that he's working for you. "Sh*t or get off the pot" sentiments are neither professional nor are they necessary.

For his reasons: 1) could be anything from a miscalculated EDD to you just need more time to cook your babies 2) fluid levels don't become oligohydraminos until 5cm 3) could be a tech who didn't know what (s)he was doing, and who cares? breathing? 4) baby's growth has slowed down anyways in the past few weeks 5) as far as I've heard 8/10 is still good on a NST 6) could be again, that you just need more time.

What a butthead! You're only 40 & 4. I'm assuming there's no other way to get a different OB at this point, but if there is, do that first. Then, give yourself some more time and relax. You're 40 & 4, not 43 weeks. If you feel the need to get things moving because you're nervous, go the induction route. Then at least you can tell yourself you tried if you end up with a c-sec. You may feel better about doing it that way.

[MarchWillow]

My personal opinion...if there was not a medical emergency that looked like baby would be in a really scary condition within 24 hours...I would not opt c-sec. I would start with some herbal induction/coaxing and then request a medical induction before just planning a c-sec. JMO...hope you find a solution that YOU can be at peace with.

And for what it's worth...I think you should say something about his comment. That is horribly unprofessional and downright rude. Not acceptable!

PS....Can we have his address? I know a great lady that could mail him a heap of barf... *grin*

[kalisage]

Originally Posted by MarchWillow

PS....Can we have his address? I know a great lady that could mail him a heap of barf... *grin*

: I've definitely got some to contribute.

I could understand *if* other options were exhausted, are they willing to try any of those first? And that comment is just beyond. Seriously horrible & unprofessional.

I'm sorry you're having to go thru this.

[Breeder]

I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. Your OB sounds very harsh. I wouldn't go for the c/s if there wasn't immediate danger to the babe.

Your body does work! It's sustaining a human. Just because your body isn't working on this guy's time table doesn't mean it's not working. Take heart, keep trying natural methods to induce. I'll be thinking of you and wishing you a successful VBAC despite your doc's nay-saying.

[Galatea]

My ds1 had 4 cm of water and got an 8/10 on his NST, and all they told me was to drink more water. No one induced me or sectioned me.

[amyaebi]

I just learned at my midwife appointment this week that baby's growth dramatically SLOWS down after 38 weeks, as opposed to gaining the pound a week that my doctors always told me. Are they implying that something is wrong with your placenta that the baby isn't growing?

So sorry you are having to go through this. As if you don't feel enough pressure to go into labor!

Amy

[Nate'sMama]

You are only 40 & 4. It doesn't seem like an emergency to me.

Please breathe and my DH just said you should tell the doc to f*%^* off. Funny boy. Didn't even skip a beat when I told him what he said to you.

As one VBAC mama to another I am so sorry that you have to go through this. You are only 4 days past your DD for pete's sake!

How do you feel about?? Disregarding what he said...

I joked with my OB that if I went to 42 I would chug some castor oil beofre she got a chance to section me. She didn't even flinch.
How about some accupunture?

Stay strong mama! Trust yourself.

[Luv2Skydive]

All I see are are things to *keep an eye on*, nothing that warrants cutting you open again! Trust yourself and your instinct and don't let his belittling attitude be the deciding factor.

[alegna]

In your description I hear nothing that would make me feel that it was at all imperative to get the baby out now. So there is NO way I would agree to an elective section at this point.

-Angela

[RootBeerFloat]

My SIL went I think to 42 weeks and was under alot of pressure to have a second c-section. Until she went into labor (she saw her OB less than a day before), she had no progress in terms of dialation, and her baby was flipping into and out of breach presentation every 2 days. Then she went into labor on her own and had a VBAC. She just kept pushing the scheduled section back and back and back.

[Traceyky]

Why isn’t my body working right. How can I accept the decision for a c-s?

Your body is working FINE - you are just not done yet. It is an ESTIMATED due date - give or take 2 weeks - IF you ovulated on day 14. You are NOT overdue untill 42 weeks!!!!!!! Everything else sounds FINE - drink a little more, and relax. ((((HUGS)))))

[K's Mom!]

I agree with all the other PP's ^^. But I also wanted to offer you a huge . I'm sorry you're dealing with this type of mentality.

[happyfrog]

((hugs))

go with your gut. if you feel you and baby are fine. then don't screw with c/s.

i CAN tell you if you get cut open again, you're gonna have one he!! of a hard time finding a care provider who will 'allow' you to have a vaginal birth.

and some moms take longer to cook babies. i'm expecting to go 42-44weeks myself. ..

also dates can be off.

babies know when babies are ready to be born. trust your baby!

and the ob can't 'fire' you from his/her practice at this point. it's some legal thing they need 30 days. .. well, it's REAL unlikely you're gonna be pregnant in a month. and truly, i'd show up to the hospital as late as i possibly could to avoid dealing with the ob who sounds real cut happy. . .

he's not the one who has to deal with the complications that may occur in your body and doesn't have to take care of 2 young children. ..

((hugs))

bettyann
hba2c when the lilies bloom . ..

[MrsSurplus]

I'm so sorry. Your OB sounds awful. I agree with the PPs - trust yourself and your body!