Silly question

[SumnerRain]

I hear people mentioning that they talk to their baby....

How do I do that? Do you talk out loud? Do you get into a meditative state and just talk in your mind or what? I would really like to have a little pep talk with this LO, but I don't want to do it wrong.

How do you talk to your LO??

[pdxmomazon]

There's no wrong way to do it! I find myself having actual out-loud one sided conversations with her, as well as silent prayer-type talks. I figure she's pretty connected to me at this point, so it'll all work the same!

[SumnerRain]

Good to know, I feel kind of silly talking out loud. But I was worried if I talked to her in my head she would not "hear" me. Guess I need to get over it and chat with this little girl a little more and tell her mama wants to meet her before grandma comes.

[MarchWillow]

I always like to talk outloud. He can hear my voice, and babies really pick up alot of cues from tone and pitch. If you yell around a newborn, they will cry...if you talk mellow and calm and have that calm presence, they will calm down if they are screaming. I like him to hear that I am calm and ready and it helps me to calm down too when I am feeling stressed and pressured and anxious. I think there is also a mental/emotional connection that goes with out words. I am just the vocal type :P Sometimes I just pat his lil butt when it sticks up or rub his back even though he can probably barely feel it. I guess sometimes it's more for me lol. There's no wrong way-just start connecting with baby however feels comfy to you, it's probably comfy for baby too

[Breeder]

Originally Posted by MarchWillow

Sometimes I just pat his lil butt when it sticks up or rub his back even though he can probably barely feel it.

I do this too and I generally talk out loud.... except at work. I get enough stares as it is (they are all convinced the baby's going to just drop out on my way to the break room I suppose).

[Galatea]

I talk out loud.

[Molck]

I do both, but my favorite way is to get DH to put his face right up close to my belly and transmit messages for me. I'll say something like, "tell him how much room there is out here," and then DH will put it into his own words and say it out loud to my belly in his deep wonderful voice .

I find the baby gets most active when I do the meditative state way of talking to him/her, though maybe I just notice it more when I'm that relaxed. The one-sided conversation thing, while I do it, always feels silly to me.

[smeisnotapirate]

I'm the one-sided convo person. I'll just walk around, talking to this baby like a total loon.

Hmm... maybe that's why I get those weird stares from my students....

[Nate'sMama]

Originally Posted by Molck

I do both, but my favorite way is to get DH to put his face right up close to my belly and transmit messages for me. I'll say something like, "tell him how much room there is out here," and then DH will put it into his own words and say it out loud to my belly in his deep wonderful voice .

That made me a little misty.

It's true that deeper registers are easier and more soothing to hear. And it's Daddy - how sweet!

I talk out loud and in my head to my LO. I rub her little bum and tell her she's wonderful.

No wrong way. Not silly!