My mom is so scared of birthing (anywhere) that she does not attend my births. She intentionally tries to show up afterwards. I told her I was waterbirthing and she just sighed and said "Why did you have to tell me that?" It's not that she doesn't love me or care or approve of hbing (she's come to see things my way for various reasons), she just doesn't want to see/hear me in "pain." I understand - her birth experiences were less than great and she lets her anxiety take over sometimes.
I still love and adore her so therefore I am lying to her No one knows of my uc plans except my very open minded niece who may be in attendance. Everyone else believes the mw will be here. They don't really want to know what I'm doing and it's for the best. I haven't decided what I'll tell them after the baby is born. I know I'll be dying to say we did it by ourselves so I might just go with "The mw didn't get here fast enough." It's believable since my longest birth was 6 hrs.
Go ahead and lie. I don't see the problem with it. Ooo, have you read The Power of Pleasurable Childbirth? I keep recommending it and I know you guys have read it. I'm on my 3rd read. It's so good and reaffirms why I'm choosing uc. Even dh said it made him feel all fuzzy and that is NOT something I have ever heard him say!