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post #1 of 54
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How is everyone doing?

We are doing really well, even with Sophie having a cold. It bothered her a lot last night so I didn't get much sleep, but dh took her this morning and I was able to sleep for a little bit (until dd1 parked herself outside my bedroom door and yelled, "I'M POOPING!" ). We're on day 4 of the cold, so I'm hoping it clears out soon. I have a slight sore throat, so I know I'm passing antibodies to her.

She is also having some digestive issues ... not pooping often and clearly uncomfortable as a result. Lots of bearing down and periods of fussing in the hours before the poop comes. She is also a little gassy. We went through the same thing with dd1. They come by it honestly, as I don't have the best digestion either . Anyway, we have an appointment with the homeopath on Wed, and it can't come fast enough (even though it will be dh's first day back at work -- a thought that makes me weak in the knees). Homeopathy is the only thing that helped dd1 (even a total elimination diet on my part did nothing), so I am expecting it will help Sophie too.

So mostly she has been a little fussy and wiggly at night, due to the stuffy nose and digestive stuff. But other than that, she is doing awesome. I think once we get those things in hand we'll be in really good shape.

Oh, and I think it was Killick who asked if all their baby does is eat and sleep. Yep, that's what we've got going on here too. She does have alert periods, but it blows me away how much (and how easily) this child sleeps. SO DIFFERENT from dd1 (thank goodness ). By this age, dd1 was screaming for hours on end every evening (I think it was birth trauma plus digestive stuff); we were never in bed before midnight, and often up until 2 or 4 AM, wearing a groove in our floor with the constant walking walking walking. I could hardly ever put dd1 down, and certainly not while she was asleep. I was exhausted and frazzled, and dh and I working together couldn't even cope. I just can't believe how different things are this time around. So much better !

Oh, and I had the woman who did my maternity pics out yesterday for a session with me and Sophie. She has one pic up on her flickr site; you can see it here. I'm so glad I had her out (and I took lots of mental notes about her techniques ). She got pictures of us nursing, too; stuff I never could have done by myself. It's such a special time, I'm thrilled to have it "on film" so to speak.

Oops, babe is waking ... gotta run.
post #2 of 54
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Real quick ... incontinence anyone? I switched to mama cloth a few days ago and quickly realized I was peeing my pants ... a lot . The sposie pads just soaked it up so I didn't notice. My mw said it's likely my body will "bounce back" in a few weeks. I'm pretty bummed about it, though. I had some during the pregnancy, but nothing like this. And none at all with dd1. Sigh.
post #3 of 54
We're doing good. I'm having a lot of vaginal pressure today which has me worried since I had a retained placenta. Hoping it isn't a bad sign...

Baby is sleeping pretty much 23 hours a day and nursing for the other hour. She is so sweet & tiny. I can't get enough of her. Big brothers are loving her and we're not having any adjustment problems as of now.

DH goes back to work tomorrow so it'll be my first week with the kids solo. I'm nervous!

Sorry you guys are sick Shanana! I hope it clears up soon, that is such a bummer when you're taking care of a new one.
post #4 of 54
Hi mamas! I'm doing good... up right now nak... well seems like she is going back to sleep. Things are well, babe is nursing and peeing a lot and I think her weight will be on the upswing at the midwife visit tomorrow. She sometimes cries in the middle of the night and has trouble latching... I wonder if it is gas and burp her as much as I can but although it's getting better it's still not entirely gone... she cried for about 15 mins before latching tonight. The first few days it was hours so this is much better.

My 4 year old is LOVING the baby and super interested in helping take care of her which is nice. She is also clingy with me and having tantrums etc... we are trying to be super coddly with her and hoping she settles soon.

I am feeling the desire to go out and be in the world each day, but have to temper that with the need for rest. Yesterday I did too much, today I will lay low. I am expecting a couple of visitors and my housemate is around so I might just walk around the block or something and not go further than that.

I need more easy to get on/off sleepers. I have a whole drawerful of clothes but a lot of them are less practical than I thought they would be. How easy to forget what newborns are like!

My head is slightly achy and I hope I'm not getting a cold. We shall see...
post #5 of 54
Yeah, it was me that asked about the sleeping stuff. Kate is getting more alert these days, but nothing too active. Her umbilical cord fell off on Thursday, so we are officially in all cloth, but I am somewhat bummed that it is leaking. I just bought 6 more bum genius smalls, so I hope those fit a good while. My kids tend to grow on the small side, and things fit longer so that makes it nice.

We made a big decision last night. We already have 3 kids, and DO NOT want anymore. So while I had planned on getting the mirena installed (?) inserted (?) at my 6 week appt, we are going to go ahead with the tubal instead. It was not something that I had previously wanted to consider, especially in my late 20's when I had William (our middle kid), but I honestly can say that I don't feel like there are any other souls floating out there trying to be part of our family. I feel complete now. And it feels good. Kate was the perfect final addition to our family.

I am going in search of button down shirts today. I need to have some that i can easily nurse in when out in public, and right now I only have 1. I am determined to find them, but so far, have had no luck.

Does anyone remember the poll that was done a while back on where/what we are going to do next in terms of this group? Are we all moving to a site off Mothering or just over to Life with a Babe? I don't remember seeing the results.

Off to make lunches for the school bound kids.
post #6 of 54
Doing pretty good here... I hemmoraged pretty good the other day and passed a pretty good (dollar bill- not the coin) sized piece of retained placenta. I am still bleeding bright red blood too- but it is alot less and I am not soaking any pads...just normal bleeding amount now. Does anyone know if bleeding bright red still at 2 weeks postpartum is still within normal limits..I know the hemmorage was not, but I am not hemmoraging anymore, just still have the bright red blood. I feel a bit weaker...but nothing too awful. Madilynn is doing well, she grunts and groans more than any baby I have ever met...lol! Nursing is still going great.. little discomfort upon latch on but that goes away quickly. She is 8lbs 6 oz now- gained a whole pound in 6 days of breastmilk! She is now 21.25 inches long so she is growing well. Everyone raves over her thick black hair...and the blonde spot in front! I figure she will probably go bald in the next couple of months..all my others did. lol! Anyhoo- life with my newborn princess is going so awesome... I love every minute with her... Dh was even commenting last night how he would like to do this again in a year or so...hehe! :-)
post #7 of 54
well, let's see. My man went back to work today and I really want a shower but baby is only 4 days old and her big brother is at school so I will just have to smell like sour milk andbo for a bit longer. At least we got a wireless card for the old laptop and I can use it in the bedroom.
Baby sleeps like all the time!! She wakes up every 2 or 3 hours to nurse- has a bit of fuss fess before latching on but once she does she gobbles up milk like a greedy little animal! Then she falls asleep again. She is definately a gassy baby, which I am not used to. Guess it's time to try the elimination diet... she's so sweet and cute, I can't stop staring at her.
oh, she's awake!
post #8 of 54
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LMH, I hope there are no issues with the placenta .

thismama, we had burping problems too. I always know when she needs to burp because she will mouth at the breast and mess with it, but won't latch on. But sometimes it is just a bear to get those burps out. It seems to get better every day, though, so hopefully your LO will master those burps soon. And yes, I had totally forgotten how darn hard it is to dress a newborn .

Killick, I don't think a decision was ever made on where we would go. We have at least until the end of June to decide, though. Good luck on the button down shirts. I wore some of dh's with dd1 but quickly decided I didn't like nursing that way. I switched to nursing tanks with snug fitting tops (loose tops would fall over her face) and am doing the same this time.

Kellina, not sure on the bleeding. I will be 2 weeks out on Th and am hardly bleeding at all anymore. But a pound in 6 days!!! Wow!

We had another bad night last night between the congestion and gassiness. Poor thing pulls her legs in tight and squirms, and then I can feel her letting teeny little toots out. But it goes on for hours and mama doesn't get any sleep! We see the homeopath on Wed, but I couldn't wait -- I called her today and am waiting for her to call me back. Hopefully she can recommend something I already have on hand, just to get us through the next two nights. At least the cold is improving; still congested, but it's getting better. I think I'm also going to try putting her in the co-sleeper for part of the night. She can squirm all she wants in there and it won't bother me . I still want to resolve the real issue, though. Crossing my fingers that the homeopath can help.

Other than that, we're doing great . I see the mw tomorrow and am eager to see how much Sophie weighs. She nurses and nurses and nurses!
post #9 of 54
Kierah is growing like crazy. She weighed her the other day and she was 8 lbs, 11 oz. That's a pound a week. She, too, grunts like crazy, but hardly ever cries. It's hard to really take her seriously sometimes, because there isn't the urgency that goes along with a cry. We're dealing with some yeast issues. She's had a little diaper rash. I woke up with some nipple pain yesterday. We've upped the probiotics, so hopefully that will be enough. I need to measure her again, to see how much she's grown in length. Does anyone else's little one have a bigger belly than head? I guess her head is just small - 14 inches. Belly is about 15 1/2. She seems pretty average otherwise. My older DD has a small head too. They get it from their daddy, which is fine, cause I'd rather push out a little noggin than a huge one like my side of the family tend to have. Haha...
post #10 of 54
Were doing good. Nipple soreness starting to go away (phew!) We had a one week check up together at the BC, ds is up 3 oz from birth and is now 9 pounds 3 ounces at one week old.

We had a ped appt on Friday, one that's OK with no vaxxing. It was SO SO refreshing to not have anyone try scare tactics on me when I said I didn't want to vax him. They asked, I said "no" and they said "OK" and moved onto the next question.
post #11 of 54
Well, day one down of being on my own. DH went back to work for full days today. It was quiet, but I was able to get some stuff done that otherwise I wouldn't have. I enjoyed it.

Kate has been quiet a calm little person. She really only fusses when she is dirty or wet. She has definite ideas about that one. She only erfs a bit when she is hungry. She nurses so fast sometimes and I hope that she is getting enough.

Speaking of which, I always get a bit freaked about now when the milk is in and has been basically regulated to meet demand. I don't feel so bloody full and engorged. I do feel the let down, but it worries me that she isn't getting enough. She seems satisfied and well hydrated and is eating basically every 2-3 hours, so I guess she must be getting enough. I do wish the sore nipples would go away, but I guess that will happen with time.
post #12 of 54
We are doing well here, too, although we've got gas issues as well. Dd never had any problems with that, so I'm trying to feel my way through figuring out what is bothering his tummy. And of course, it seems to be worst in the middle of the night, so we're not sleeping much.

I can't believe how quickly time is passing. It's hard to believe that Sam is 3 weeks old already! And today I was pretty startled to realize that I'm going back to work in only 2 weeks. Thankfully, it will only be for 5 days until the end of the school year, but it's time for me to start thinking about pumping and introducing a bottle. Ack! I was really hoping that I wouldn't have to go back at all, but with me being out for so long before he was born, I really need to squeeze a few more days in. At least I don't really have to worry about lessons or papers to grade, since it will be time for final exams. But it still stinks.
post #13 of 54
Mornings are fine.....nights are another story. Last night I had a really really bad panic attack where I basically was regretting having this baby. I so miss having uninterrupted time with my toddler. I woke up my husband crying in hysterics. It's been my lowest point so far. This morning I called the OB who did my C-section and scheduled an appointment for Friday. Hopefully he'll prescribe something that will calm my panic attacks. I know that eventually I will love this baby as much as I do Jeremy, but I would rather get to that point sooner than later. If drugs help me get there, than so be it.

KingsDaughter, I had bright red PP bleeding with my first for about 3 weeks, and so far I still have it with this one at 10 days PP.
post #14 of 54
Isaac has gained back the weight he lost after birth. Hooray!

He's certainly NOT in the sleep/eat-all-the-time category, although he has his stretches where that's all he wants to do. He's bright-eyed and bushy-tailed quite a bit of the time, which is kind of difficult, because what can you DO, really, to entertain a week-old baby? I wouldn't classify him as "high-needs," (not yet, anyway, let's see if I change my tune in a few weeks ), he's just... awake a lot.

I'm healing quite nicely, I think. We're heading back to the village tomorrow, which will be nice. It's been great having a place to stay here, but I'm SOOOOO ready to be in my own home where I don't have to freak out and make DH start laundry at 4am if a little poo gets on the sheets.
post #15 of 54
I love these check in threads cause I always see people having the same questions as me, so I know I'm not alone!!

Re: bright red bleeding. Timely question cause this afternoon I was lying down for a nap with the kids and felt a couple of little gushes...I wasn't even wearing a panty liner, that's how scant my bleeding has been lately! Maybe TMI but I soaked a big spot on my panties and my pjs and sopped up more in the bathroom. Not enough to worry me (it's no worse than right after the birth, and the midwife said my bleeding then was quite good), but enough to make me wonder should I call the midwife just to check in with her. She did tell me that she finds around day 10 or 11 that moms tend to see a pickup in bleeding that lasts for only a short time, I am wondering if I'm having that a couple of days late...?

Also, my boobs have now softened up and it is freaking me out, too! It didn't happen so soon last time, I guess. Plus Declan is nursing really frequently right now so that keeps them from getting firm. He seems to be getting lots and currently is pooping for the third time in in half an hour (poor DH, he gets him all changed and clean and then he poops again!) so I am trying to stay rational about it, but I can't help but worry just a little!
post #16 of 54
We're muddling along. Really, things are going pretty well, though I'm very grateful that DH is around to help.

Maddy is a very calm baby, though she's definitely got her days and nights mixed up. She has a few periods each day where she will be awake and alert for up to two hours, though inevitably at least one of those periods will be during the wee hours of the morning. DH has been really good about taking care of DS or even both kiddos if I need a nap, though. In fact, he took DS with him today to go pick up his dry cleaning and left me with strict instructions to be in bed by the time they got back.

We had an appointment with our ped's LC yesterday and Maddy did AWESOME. When she was born, she weighed 6lbs7oz. She was 5lbs13oz when we left the hospital on Wednesday, and she's already back up to 6lbs4oz. And she nursed 3oz out of me in less than 2o minutes during our appointment! LC says she has a beautiful latch and she's not worried about our nursing relationship at all. I didn't anticipate any problems, as DS was just as awesome of a nurser, but it's always nice to hear it from someone else.

We also stopped in to see my OB because I have one spot at the very end of my incision that didn't close up right, so they wanted me to stop in so they could make sure it wasn't getting infected or anything. I guess I had a LOT of scar tissue from my first c/s (yet another reason I'm glad I didn't go back to the same practice I used while I was pregnant with DS), so it was a pretty difficult job to stitch me back up. But the open area seems to be doing well, and they simply instructed me to keep cleaning it with peroxide.

And other than being tired, I'm doing pretty well. My incision isn't bothering me much, and I'm able to go about my normal business. I thought I'd be overwhelmed with trying to care for the kiddos and keep the house clean and making dinner and still take care of myself as well, but it's been fairly easy for me to keep on top of things so far. I've already lost 20 pounds of the weight I gained, so that makes me happy as well.

The only real rough spot is that sometimes DS gets a little jealous of his baby sister when I'm nursing her and can't cuddle him right in my lap. I've been trying to spend as much one on one time with him as I can, though, and I'm hopeful that his jealous periods won't last too much longer, because when he gets in that mood he throws all out tantrums and it kills me to know he's hurting and I can't make it better right away.
post #17 of 54
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Sophie was weighed today and came in at 9 lbs and change, so she's gained about a pound in the last week . MW checked my tears too, and said they're looking good. I was mostly worried about the 2nd degree because I haven't been too good about keeping my legs together . I keep forgetting! She said it's healing but it's still possible to pull it apart, so I need to be careful. But she's happy with how it looks.

My engorgement has also gone down faster than with dd1. I don't think my milk has fully regulated yet, though. There is still a LOT and still a really strong letdown. But I know Sophie is getting enough. I often feel 3-4 or more letdowns during a nursing session! So different than with dd1.

I'm beginning to wonder if some of the gassiness / stomach upset is due to mucous in her tummy from her cold. She spit up a ton of mucous today, and that made me realize she is sucking it in and swallowing it, poor thing. The gassiness has only been the last few nights, and she has been sick since Thursday, so I'm wondering if they're related. I know I had a cold towards the end of my pg with lots of drainage, and it actually made me nauseous. I'm still looking forward to our appt with the homeopath tomorrow, though.

Kelly, the gas is the worst in the middle of the night for us too. I got in a fight with dh because he kept trying to say it wasn't gas because it "didn't make sense" that she would be gassy at night and not during the day (actually, I think she is gassy during the day but not as bad, and it's not as noticeable because it's easier to soothe her when I'm not trying to sleep!). I had told him over and over that I could feel her passing gas after she squirmed / fussed ... how much clearer could it be?!?! So it was nice to tell him someone else said it was worse at night too!

I am bone tired, though. As soon as we get dd1 to bed tonight, I'm handing Sophie off to dh and then going to bed to try to get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep.

Dalila, I'm so sorry to hear about the panic attacks . I hope you are able to find something that helps you, and soon.

Stacy, we are having some jealousy issues too. DD1 was getting pretty agressive today in her attempts to "kiss" the baby. Leaning on her too hard, and poking her. It can be a challenge because I'm so protective of Sophie. I found myself poking dd1 back and asking her belligerently if she liked it . I realized that was not productive, and handed Sophie off to dh and held dd1 in my lap for a while. I have to keep reminding myself of the feelings behind the behavior, because if I just focus on the behavior I lose my temper too easily. It didn't help that dd1 had no nap today and was really manic.

DH was supposed to go back to work tomorrow, but I think he's going to take the rest of this week off. I'm relieved. I'm still not supposed to lift dd1 because of my tear, and I'm also just so tired. It will be nice to have him around for a few extra days.

Oh, and here's a picture of me with Sophie in a wrap that a good friend made for me. Sophie LOVES it (and is sleeping in it right now ).

Oh yeah, and I'm down 20+ lbs already. I don't know my final pregnancy weight ... last weighed myself around 37 weeks, I think. I'm down 20 lbs from that weight, so I know I've lost even more. Only about 40 more to go ...
post #18 of 54
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Real quick ... incontinence anyone? I switched to mama cloth a few days ago and quickly realized I was peeing my pants ... a lot . The sposie pads just soaked it up so I didn't notice. My mw said it's likely my body will "bounce back" in a few weeks. I'm pretty bummed about it, though. I had some during the pregnancy, but nothing like this. And none at all with dd1. Sigh.
Keegels/keegles! (however it's spelled)
post #19 of 54
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Yeah, I know. But I hate them ! At least, I hate doing them properly (elevator-style). My mw showed me some other exercises I could do, but recommended I wait until my nether-regions have finished healing ...
post #20 of 54
I just started getting a little sad and overwhelmed tonight (36 hours after she was born.) I am so very tired, as she didn't sleep last night, and I am having some down feelings. She doesn't look like what I expected, and I didn't have time to get used to her name (dh's choice) before she was born, and I miss my boys, and I miss my freedom, and ability to do things for myself. I know these all are transient, but it helps to get them out. It also helps that dh is also feeling out of sorts, so I know it is normal.

Do blood clots form a skin over them? I passed a clot today about the size of an egg yolk, and it had a skin over it, and when I tore into it, nothing gushed out. I would know if it were placenta, right?

I also got very cold and shivery and weak and I know it is my milk coming in, but it was a weird feeling.
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