I'm with Ziggysmama (as usual
I don't care if anyone thinks my son is a girl because he has long hair (and many do), both him and his hair are gorgeous. What's wrong with being a girl?
I put his hair up in cute buns, ponytails, braids, whatever (depending on the squirmy toddler factor that day). I won't cut his hair or allow his hair to be cut unless *he* wants it to be. His hair, his choice. As of this moment, he'd run screaming from anyone who tried to make him sit still long enough to lop it off.
It's going to be hard to teach our sons not to hate/disrespect women if we don't stop playing into the notion that it's somehow bad or wrong to be a girl, or to be associated with anything girly. It's going to be hard to teach our daughters to love themselves and expect to be respected by themselves, each other, and boys if we don't stop playing into the notion that it's somehow bad or wrong to be a girl, or for boys to associate with anything girly.
Seriously, can we stop with the girl-hating? Teaching boys or allowing other people to teach them that it's shameful or embarrassing or bad to be associated with anything girly, and by extension teaching our daughters this, is girl-hatred. Plain and simple. It hurts all of us, and the cycle feeds on itself and is continued on through the generations...unless we stop being a part of it, and stop making a big deal out of boys only being able to act a certain way, look a certain way, and do certain things, and girls only being able to act a certain way, look a certain way, and do certain things.
There's nothing wrong with being a girl, or a boy. There's nothing wrong with girls wearing blue and suspenders or boys wearing pink and ponytails. Do we have
to gender-code everything
, right down to hairstyles for freak's sake? I mean, my son looks *adorable* in pig-tails...what's wrong with that?