It's going to be hard to teach our sons not to hate/disrespect women if we don't stop playing into the notion that it's somehow bad or wrong to be a girl, or to be associated with anything girly. It's going to be hard to teach our daughters to love themselves and expect to be respected by themselves, each other, and boys if we don't stop playing into the notion that it's somehow bad or wrong to be a girl, or for boys to associate with anything girly.
Seriously, can we stop with the girl-hating? Teaching boys or allowing other people to teach them that it's shameful or embarrassing or bad to be associated with anything girly, and by extension teaching our daughters this, is girl-hatred. Plain and simple. It hurts all of us, and the cycle feeds on itself and is continued on through the generations...unless we stop being a part of it, and stop making a big deal out of boys only being able to act a certain way, look a certain way, and do certain things, and girls only being able to act a certain way, look a certain way, and do certain things.
Gotta say, I'm not sure how people not wanting their son to be taken for a girl, or for *thinking* about it, is "girl hating".
From my son's experiences with long hair (before an ill-fated trip to trim his bangs at the hair place, ugh) it's the GIRLS being rude about it to him. It's the girls asking their parents why a boy looks like them, it's the parents of girls asking about my daughter and giving weird looks when I said he's a boy.
And it was my son's feelings that were getting hurt when excluded from girls playing, b/c he was a boy, and that he was weird b/c he had long hair.
But then we managed to get the former kid's hair stylist cutting DH's hair while the "I have three boys and they have SHORT hair and I don't understand how you want me to trim his hair" stylist got DS, and by the time I saw what she was doing it was toooooo late, and my time as a long-haired-boy's mama was done (no one had interest in growing it out).
To the posters wondering how to trim the hair...that's exactly what my question was at the time. His bangs were straight and the rest of his hair was curly, and I find that an odd look in adults, and it was bugging me on him and he wasn't sitting still for me. That's why I took him to the above stylist, for ideas. OOPS. If you do that, and if the stylist makes comments like "mine" did, get your boy out of the chair. Quickly.