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post #21 of 53
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Hey first-timers, hope you all had a good weekend! DH and I went to Seattle for a homecoming party for some Marine friends... We had a good time, though I did not do well trying to stay awake late to drive everyone home. Normally I am a total night owl, and now I can't make it past midnight. All the hormones telling me to GO TO SLEEP had to be ignored, so I wound up a big blubbering mess trying to explain to DH that he hadn't done anything wrong, and I honestly wasn't even upset, I was just too tired and couldn't not cry! Poor guy, I felt so bad for him having do deal with me. :

Do any of you feel like you're growing/showing yet? I look normal in the morning, but by evening I feel like I stick out a lot I also can't stand having anything tight on my waist. I know most first-timers don't show until a bit later, but I have a feeling it will be earlier for me. I NEED new clothes - I'm about to ruin my last pair of jeans - so I don't know if I should buy stuff that fits now and hope it still fits post-partum, or if I should just go ahead and get maternity stuff I can grow into! I'm leaning toward the latter... mostly because it's sooo comfortable.
post #22 of 53
I definitely expand by nightfall. I've already bought a couple pairs of pants a size up and I am really happy about them! I slept more this weekend than I have ever slept in my life! It was great though, and apparently much needed. I felt pretty well rested when I got up this morning, which I couldn't say last week.
post #23 of 53
I feel much more bloated by night too. It's odd. lol

I'm thinking I will be getting maternity stuff soon with icky humid summer on the way, and I retain water then due to fibromyalgia anyway. I will need to be as comfortable as possible.
post #24 of 53
Saw this thread the first time I checked and then lost it. My name is Sarah, i'm 30 and pregnant for the first time due 1/21. My husband and I have been married for just over a year (looks like we might have conceived on the anniversary) and were figuring it might take a while to get pregnant (it didn't). I'm actually a CNM so will obviously be using midwives for my birth. Unfortunately risked out of HB because of hx of blood clot and risk for PPH. Looking forward to learning more about everyone.
post #25 of 53

hi

thanks for starting this thread. i'm so glad to have a place to talk to just 1st-timers.

i'm older than many of you - 37 - married 6/30/07 - living in the SF bay area (north bay), and planning a natural/waterbirth w/midwife @ home or at a birth ctr. i'm not sure yet and am still researching & interviewing midwives. sounds like i have til 11-12 wks to decide though. i'm 7 weeks today.

we haven't told many people - just a few friends. my parents are stress-y types and conventional (would expect hospital birth) so i don't want to tell 'em til i'm about 12 weeks AND we have a PLAN in place and i've got all the backup research, books, DVDs, etc. to refer 'em to.

i think they'll be most freaked if it's a home birth which is why i was thinking a birth ctr. might be a gd compromise but this week i am leaning towards trying the home birth thing 'cuz the closest ctr. - we can't meet the midwives before deciding. weird but true.

i'm glad to meet y'all.

it's so exciting to dialogue w/others due about the same time!

antonia

PS - pls. help: what are all the acronyms y'all are using and where do i find a legend to understand and start to use 'em?
post #26 of 53
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Originally Posted by laurelg View Post
I look normal in the morning, but by evening I feel like I stick out a lot I also can't stand having anything tight on my waist.
me too. in the a.m. i look _almost_ normal. but by the time i eat anything, i am huge. even my loose pants are too tight and i Really don't like anything binding at the waist.
post #27 of 53

5 weeks...

Hi everyone,
I am 5 weeks pregnant and a little nervous. This is my first and I am trying to read everything I can, but don't know what is normal. I have a doctor's appointment in 3 days. ( after waiting a week and a half, I am going crazy )
Is it normal to have some mild cramping during these first few weeks? I haven't had any bleeding but sometimes feel like my period could come at any second. What should I expect at my first prenatal visit? Will the doctor tell me anything that will make me feel more at ease about how things are progressing?Also, I would like to proceed with a midwife. When should I start that process??

I know a lot of questions, hopefully some of you are a little further along and can help me out.
Congratulations everyone
post #28 of 53
hi mamabearvc

cramping is normal; i had quite a few days of cramping. here's an article
http://www.babiesonline.com/articles...cycramping.asp

i've begun finding local midwives (i'm 7 wks) and from what i can tell, a 1st appt. can be at 10-12 wks and still be fine so that's sort of a timeline.

i think it's also normal to be nervous @ 1st that things will go awry. i've had some of that. as i read more & understand what to expect, i feel increasingly confident in nature, my body.

welcome!
antonia
post #29 of 53
Thread Starter 
Welcome to all the new mamas!

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Originally Posted by mommabearvcr View Post
Also, I would like to proceed with a midwife. When should I start that process??
Many midwives will meet with you for a meet-and-greet session before you actually begin prenatal care. I actually just met with one this morning and I'm 6w3d. She said she usually schedules the first actual prenatal visit for 10-12 weeks (same as the doctor I'll be seeing as a back-up). So, I'd say now is a great time to start looking - depending on your area, you might have a large selection and will need a little time to sort through them all! You'll also want to figure out if your insurance will cover midwifery/homebirth, if you'll need or want a certain type of midwife (CNM, CPM, DEM, etc.), whether you're looking for a birth center, etc... Be sure to check the "finding your tribe" area on MDC - a lot of times you'll find threads recommending care providers.
post #30 of 53
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by ommom View Post
PS - pls. help: what are all the acronyms y'all are using and where do i find a legend to understand and start to use 'em?
Here's the acronym bible! http://www.mothering.com/discussions...d.php?t=522590
post #31 of 53
mommabearvcr

I was pretty freaked during the first couple weeks when I felt crampy and like my period would show up any minute but then I figured that everything was getting settled into place.
post #32 of 53
Hi! I figured I'd introduce myself in here--my name is Libby, I'm 30 years old, and I found out on Friday that #1 is on the way! I have my first appointment with a CNM from my OB/GYN's office on June 10th, and then my first appointment with the homebirth midwives the next day. I'll probably be switching my OB/GYN care to someone a bit more homebirth-friendly--the midwives will hook me up with someone at the first appointment that I can go to for my ultrasound and any other prenatal testing I might need. But I'm pretty set on a homebirth--I went to visit a friend of mine who just gave birth in a hospital and it was horrifying.

Nice to meet you all!
post #33 of 53
THANK YOU for the acronym table laurelg!

& welcome buckeye!

xo
a.
post #34 of 53
How's everyone doing? I read today that my uterus is the size of a grapefruit and the baby is the size of a strawberry. One of my friends asked how I was today and I told her that I am apparently a fruit basket.

I am still going back and forth over what I think my real due date is. I should just decide on one and stop waffling (mmmm, waffles The chart I did on paper says I ovulated April 13th even though my LMP started on March 22nd. Fertility Friend says April 6th. It puts me a week off, one way or the other. But it was also my first chart so I have no past history to draw on, other than the fact the I have longer cycles (like 32days). So far I've been saying my due date is between 12/29 and 1/5. But I'd like to know for the purposes of keeping track in my journal and so on. No u/s for me til week "18" But when I saw my midwife last week, she said my uterus was just nearer to lemon sized, so no more than 7 weeks. So maybe I'm right, dammit : It would also make sense for me to be right given the amount of sleeping I did this past weekend--if things were doubling in size in there, no wonder I took 5 hour naps after a full night's sleep both nights!

ok, done rambling. I think I have a constant ramble going in my head--I don't know if that's a first time mom thing though. Maybe it happens no matter what.
post #35 of 53
Hi I'm 33 and DH is as well--we're expecting our first on 1/26/09! I'm cautiously very excited, but we have so much going on this year, the countdown has officially started: we have 8 months to get a house, get a better job for me, and get DH's business up and running...all before baby arrives!

I don't imagine I'm showing yet--no change as far as I can tell, but breasts are tender...
post #36 of 53

First Time and Terrified

Hi everyone
My sister pointed me towards this site as a place for support and good advice. I'm 22 and six weeks pregnant. I just found out on Monday. I was not planning or trying to have a baby at this point in my life, but am working on accepting this big change and really do see it as a positive. I don't really know what to expect. I've been having mild cramps as I saw others have but no bleeding. I'm not sure if I'm just paranoid about something going wrong or really should be this worried! Other than that, I just can't believe how hungry and tired I feel. My first prenatal visit is two weeks away, I'm just trying to hold it together until then!
post #37 of 53
Hi everyone! My husband and I (both mid-twenties) just found out on Wednesday that we are expecting our first on 1/29/09! I'm only about 4 weeks along, so it's still really early. We weren't really actively TTC, but it wasn't completely unexpected either. We are thrilled, to say the least. I've lurked on this site for 6 months or so since we've been talking about TTC, and I hope to get to know you all better in the coming months. So far I haven't really felt any symptoms, just some mild cramping. My husband is waiting on me hand and foot, even though I told him he could wait until/if I feel icky to do that, but he won't hear it. We haven't really discussed birthing plans yet, but I'm enjoying reading about everyone's stories here on MDC.
post #38 of 53


welcome just1day, Minerva, and beaglebaby!
post #39 of 53
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Originally Posted by mommabearvcr View Post
Hi everyone,
I am 5 weeks pregnant and a little nervous. This is my first and I am trying to read everything I can, but don't know what is normal. I have a doctor's appointment in 3 days. ( after waiting a week and a half, I am going crazy )
Is it normal to have some mild cramping during these first few weeks? I haven't had any bleeding but sometimes feel like my period could come at any second.
I'm right here with you. I didn't think I was pregnant because I was/am cramping like I usually do before my sometimes late period.

I'm going to see my doctor tomorrow to see what he says.

I don't know when we are going to start telling people. I'd like to wait until July really. But that means I can't ask questions of the women around me who have done it all before.

Anyway glad to be joining my fellow first-timers.
post #40 of 53
Hi all! Still figuring out all the abbreviations, etc. on this board. I'm looking forward to getting to know you!

I'm 8 weeks pregnant and very excited! I've been charting for 3 years & taking my basal temperature - we got pregnant the second month we really "tried"!!! That's even with the added challenge of trying out Shettles' gender selection techniques (hoping for a girl!). We met with our midwife two weeks before conception and she is wonderful! I am trained as a doula (though never practiced) and had (when I lived in Portland, Oregon) imagined giving birth in a birth center birth with the support of a midwife and doula. I was born in one in '77 with a whole crowd (staff who had gotten off work) watching and cheering my mom on, I'm told! However, in Costa Rica the only birth center is really a type of hospital and not what I want. I'm now planning a home birth with a birthing tub.

My boyfriend and I have told my parents and all of his family members we have seen. Still haven't told my extended fam. My parents are super supportive and very excited. We live in Costa Rica and his family is a bit more traditional, accustomed to hospital birth, etc... one aunt who is a obstetric nurse at a hospital just couldn't shut up about how "dangerous" a home birth and how I needed to have a surgeon, machines, blah blah blah...: I totally tuned out and let my partner handle it! Glad that most everyone else in my life is very willing to listen to my preferences and beliefs about natural childbirth and parenting!
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