, how exhausting! I feel for you, mama. I'm sorry that they're not in synch with each other and even sorrier for you that dh is gone for so long! I don't know how you do it (though it sounds like you're struggling a lot). I can't give you any advice, just a virtual hug.
The best way to get your milk supply up is to nurse, nurse, nurse. Which it sounds like you're doing. Way to go on losing weight -- I've lost all but the last six pounds (scratch that -- 2 1/2 lbs!) and I'm not even two weeks out.
I hate to say this, but Eliza Jane is making things REALLY easy for me. She is a mellow baby, hardly ever fusses, and sleeps long stretches at night. I have been taking a late afternoon nap, and then staying up until 11 or so. She nurses to sleep then, goes for a three-hour stretch, nurses once during the night, sleeps four more hours, and then we are up for the day. So I only get interrupted once -- amazing! And although at first she wanted to be awake some during the night, now she is just going back to sleep. I am so thankful.
She seems to be getting plenty of milk; when the pediatrician weighed her on Wed. she was over 7 lbs, and had gained 11 oz in just five days. Dd1 is tandem nursing (not at the same time, yet) two or three times a day. My breasts are HUGE -- as I imagine yours are, too! If you can get a weight on your girls, it'll probably go a long way toward reassuring you that they are getting enough milk. I hope you don't worry too much about pumping for now -- you've got enough to do already!
My infection sucks. It is so painful. And the part that healed normally is pain-free now. It's only about a three-inch section that is infected but it seems like it's going to take a LONG time to heal. Blech.
On the up side, my neighbor dropped off her newborn diaper stash -- a ton of teeny prefolds and a LOT of tiny fitteds; at least a dozen covers and half of those are the tiny Prowraps that are the only ones that fit now. I am so happy! So long, 'sposies!