In our 40s and due in January - Page 5

[juneau]

Caffeine is the only thing that really seems to work for me. And I'm finding that if I have it ASAP after the headache comes on -- which is almost like a clock at 11 a.m. or noon -- the faster it goes away (and doesn't come back till the next day).

Enjoy your ice cream! I still can only eat a little bit of sweets. I guess that's a good thing! Normally I'm all over desserts and chocolate; can't have enough. My dd has been telling me for the past couple of months that she will "eat all the chocolate chips out of my [cookie, ice cream, scone, whatever] for me." Such a thoughtful child!

Do you have a chart that tells you how much weight to gain by a certain time in order to reach your target at the end? I remember seeing those last time around but can't find one this time. I'd really like to know, for example if I've gained 10 lbs by week 20, say, whether that'd be too much or not. I want to pace myself so I don't gain too much. You have the opposite problem, I guess! I am just so thankful that I can : again. For a while I couldn't even look at that smilie without feeling nauseated.

I think I remember Veganmama saying she was going on vacation, so that's why we haven't heard from her. I hope she's having fun -- but getting sick, too!

[juneau]

P.S. I'm changing my mood again, to "relaxed." : I'm finally not so darn tired all the time, although I do have to sleep about 10 hours at night.

[hockeylover]

Caffeine is definitely the trick for my headaches too. Not Tylenol. And normally (non-preggo times) that's definitely not the case. I had a headache this afternoon, went to dinner with some friends and drank a Coke. Not my first choice of sodas but it definitely helped. I'm really hoping my doctor is right and that they subside by week 18. That's about 3 weeks of torture to go.

I'm not exactly charting my weight gain. I know where I started and I know that I need to be about 10 pounds heavier in the next 8 weeks. I'm keeping a pregnancy journal and about once a week they have me chart my weight so I keep up with it there. I need to do some belly measurements though.

I know Veganmama is back. I saw her post on the TTC thread. Hope she stops by here soon since she's got a sticky bean too. YAY! VM, where are you? We missed you. How was your trip??

[juneau]

Must vent about dh's cooking!!! He is a hit-or-miss cook at best, chooses not to use a recipe -- or when he does, doesn't follow it. Once in a while he will hit on something totally delicious, but he won't be able to repeat it because he doesn't remember what he's done.

Anyhow, I probably shouldn't complain, because at least he is cooking, and I certainly am not... but I think he knows by now that onions are giving me terrible heartburn these days and spaghetti sauce and I are not getting along very well either. But for dinner tonight he served pasta with tomato sauce, and a side of overcooked zucchini smothered in onions, and another side of ridiculously undercooked beets. I ate plain pasta and made him cook the beets a lot more before I would touch them. I couldn't even stand the smell of the cooked onions. Now I am hungry, with nothing proteinaceous to nosh on, but think I will just take my heartburn meds and go to bed.

Actually, this really should be a complaint about my MIL, because she was too busy waiting on everyone in the household to bother to teach her sons how to cook, do laundry, or clean. GRRRR...!!! The last two have been rectified to a certain extent though dh will only clean if really pushed to do so and does not ever see dirt.

In my household, on the other hand, my brothers and I were all expected to pull our own weight. We all learned to cook, etc., and I also became quite handy with gardening, engine repair, electrical wiring, and general fix-it stuff.

OK, end of vent. Back to our regularly scheduled programming...

Veganmama, please check in and tell us about your vacation!

[wvmommy]

Originally Posted by juneau

Must vent about dh's cooking!!! He is a hit-or-miss cook at best

o, you poor thing! i lived with a cook like that. sometimes it was great and sometimes it was just nasty. maybe keep protein snacks around like cheese or boiled eggs. grill some chicken breasts and slice them up and then stick them in the freezer to grab down a quick snack. some of that with some cheese wrapped in a tortilla would be great.... jeez, i wish i was eating that right now.

erik and arthur's mommy
erika

41, 8wks5days via home insemination with known donor
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[wvmommy]

junior!!

my appointment was GREAT! i saw the baby and i got some GREAT pictures! and the little heart was just pounding away at 165 beats per minute. i was thrilled. what a relief!!!! i feel like everything just might be ok....


erik and arthur's mommy
erika

41, 8wks5days via home insemination with known donor
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[juneau]

Yay, Erika!!! : I am so happy for you. I know that must be a huge relief!

[wvmommy]

yes, HUGE!!!!! i'm starting to think it just might be ok...

erik and arthur's mommy
erika

41, 8wks6days via home insemination with known donor
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[veganmama719]

Hi guys, thanks for thinking of me. I am just soooooooooooooooooo exchausted and starting to feel a little yucky (which is probably a good sign).

I don't get a u/s until Spet 8th though (I'll be 12w3d) so I remain unconvinced that this is a sticky bean thus far. I do have the sore BBS and the incredibly vivid dreams of my first 2 PGs though and I didn't get that far in Jan/Feb.

I am so glad you guys are all doing so well!!!

Sunrise m/c this week, she was about a week ahead of me. She seems to be doing well but I know it has to be tough.

[juneau]

Veganmama, thanks for checking in on this thread! I had about given up on you since you started your own 40+ thread in the March DDC. But this thread is all TTC-over-40 grads, so I hope you will stick with us! It'll be great to keep up the conversation.

Thanks for letting me know about Sara, though I'm sorry to hear the news. I hadn't read that thread in a few days.

I'm feeling great these days, hallelujah!! : I am back to swimming and riding my bike, activities I had given up entirely these past couple of months. I felt terribly guilty driving everywhere since we live in a small town and most things I need to do are at least bikeable, if not walkable, but I just.couldn't.summon the energy to do either of those things.

I know it's hard to wait for your u/s but I consider your exhaustion and m/s a very good sign!

[wvmommy]

Originally Posted by juneau

[B]I'm feeling great these days, hallelujah!! : I am back to swimming and riding my bike, activities I had given up entirely these past couple of months. I felt terribly guilty driving everywhere since we live in a small town and most things I need to do are at least bikeable, if not walkable, but I just.couldn't.summon the energy to do either of those things.

you give me hope! i've been so listless and sick that i don't want to do anything. and on top of it i've been depressed. the grief is all over me these days and everything is getting on my nerves. i live with my sister who is perpetually hot and keeps the thermostat on 64°. i never leave my room because it's just too damned cold in the rest of the house to be comfortable. i came here when i found out i was pregnant with twins and my grief has anchored me here. and now i'm expecting a new baby. not a good time to move. when i move it will be far away from here as i don't like this area and i have no idea where i even want to go this time... my sister is wonderful, really wonderful, but this little issue with living on the polar ice cap is driving me insane. and there is no compromise. she is walking around in a sleeveless gown and sitting in front of a fan with the air conditioning on 64 while i'm wearing flannel pajamas, a jacket and sitting under a blanket.

i'm cranky!!!! can you tell???

erik and arthur's mommy
erika

41, 9 weeks 2 days via home insemination with known donor
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[juneau]

Erika. You will feel better in a few weeks, I am confident. About the cold, well, soon it will be fall...

[wvmommy]

Originally Posted by juneau

Erika. You will feel better in a few weeks, I am confident. About the cold, well, soon it will be fall...

i'm sure you're right about me feeling better. thank you. but as for the cold, forget it. the air conditioner here runs well into the fall and then the heat is kept very low in the winter. speak of the devil... i just heard her turn the air conditioner up just now. :

erik and arthur's mommy
erika

41, 9 weeks 3 days via home insemination with known donor
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[veganmama719]

Erika that does not sound fun. I suppose I'd rather be too cold than too hot though. At least you can always put on more clothes! I have th eopposite problem, I am always boiling hot now.

Looks like you are all busy too! We had a crazy weekend and I had to hold it together even though I was feeling really blah!

[veganmama719]

No symptoms today.

Really considering moving my u/s up even though i know it won't change anything........

[juneau]

Veganmama. It's nerve-wracking, I know...

[veganmama719]

Thanks Juneau. I think in some ways I am scared to move the u/s up too.

[wvmommy]

Originally Posted by veganmama719

Thanks Juneau. I think in some ways I am scared to move the u/s up too.

if it were me, i would move it up. i wouldn't be able to take the wait that long. they should be able to see something by 8 or 9 weeks and then you would have a month less to be tormented.

and you know, in the meantime you might as well be positive and celebrate this! i struggled with that as well having had a blighted ovum before becoming pregnant with my sons. i was afraid to be too happy or get too excited because what if it was a blighted ovum again... my breasts were not as sore as my last pregnancy or even the blighted ovum one and i wondered if it was because my hormone levels were not what they should be (indicating another blighted ovum).

and then i just told myself that if it *was* another blighted ovum that no amount of worrying would change it and if it *wasn't* another blighted ovum then i was missing the whole first part of my pregnancy! seeing as this is probably my last i didn't want to miss it. i decided i might as well enjoy it, be positive and let myself feel some joy. which i did. while i also worried. feeling positive was definitely work!

my u/s was at 8wks5days and everything was great. so maybe move it up so you don't have to spend so much time worrying. you achieved your goal!! you're pregnant!! and that is pretty great.

xoxo
erik and arthur's mommy
erika

41, 10 weeks via home insemination with known donor
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[juneau]

Wise words, Erika!

I caught up on the TTC thread last night and saw the newbie who lost her baby at 19 weeks due to severe chromosomal abnormalities. Now that is my current worst nightmare! I think I just need to calm down and enjoy being 16 weeks pregnant and past the first trimester.

[hockeylover]

Hi all. I'm back to the land of our DDC as well.

Juneau, I had the exact same reaction when I read Halifax's story losing her baby at 19 weeks. I guess we're never really out of the woods with worry until we hear those cries in real life. Scary as sh*t if you ask me. But at least there was a legitimate reason (chromosomal abnormalities) which doesn't make it any easier. Knowing that we're all getting to that milestone, it's simply scary.

VM, move up that ultrasound if you can. I'm sure everything is fine but it's got to be so stressful with anticipation. You'll rest much easier and enjoy your pregnancy much sooner once you know all that all is right on track.

Erika, YAY! I'm glad it's all happy and sticky in there for you too. Where do you live that it's arctic conditions inside? For me, I'm always cold so 64 degrees would kill me. I'm comfortable these days but it's also in the upper 90's here in So. Cal so the air doesn't bother me, but it's also not set in the 60's. And I take it as a good sign that you feel listless and icky. Those hormones are raging girlfriend. All good signs. I hope you feel better but relax as much as you can.

AFM, I'm doing well. I go see my doctor next week. I'll be at about 16 weeks so we'll be up to scheduling those 20 week ultrasounds and then I think I'll be on a plan of every two weeks between OB and Perinatologist. I'm feeling good. Still getting headaches but only a few days a week instead of constant. Heartburn has definitely kicked in. Even some constipatation (sorry to be graphic) which makes me feel much more huge than I really am. Fun stuff!