Paranoid...

[D'sMama]

I just checked out the Dec. DDC and saw that, sadly, several mamas have just lost their babes or found out that they have an empty sac. I feel so terrible for them. That must be so frustrating and tragic. I wish I knew what to say.

This probably sounds selfish, but now I'm completely paranoid that it will happen to me... I also don't fully understand the blighted ovum/empty sac thing - I've been looking it up but it just doesn't make a lot of sense to me how it's possible to be pregnant but not have an embryo. :
Are there any signs of this happening besides having an u/s? The reason I'm worried is because I don't really have much in the way of pregnancy symptoms, except for frequent urination, constant hunger, mild fatigue, and mildly sore nipples (that have been getting less sore). It's freaking me out since these are only slight increases from my normal state (I'm always peeing a lot and hungry). I was thinking how lucky I was to not have m/s (yet), but now I'm convinced that my lack of symptoms is a sign that I'll m/c.

Is anyone else this paranoid? Am I off-base here about the pregnancy symptoms being related to m/c or an empty sac?
Has anyone not had many symptoms in early pg but gone on to have healthy babes? (I'm 6 wks, 4 days, btw)

*tearing hair out*

(sorry for the downer post...)

[laurelg]

Rachel, I have a lot of the same concerns. That said, my mom never got morning sickness - she had a lot of dizziness later in pregnancy, but never really any nausea. I just talked to a friend who is due in August and she said she never got morning sickness either. So yes, it's possible to have a healthy pregnancy without having all of the "typical" symptoms.

My symptoms sound a lot like yours, actually - sore nipples, increased breast size, hunger... but not really any ongoing nausea or morning sickness. I also don't really notice having to pee more frequently, though I have noticed when I have to pee, I have to pee RIGHT FREAKING NOW.

I'm only 5w3d, so there's still plenty of time for more symptoms to kick in, but I think I will always worry that I don't feel pregnant enough.

Something else to keep in mind, which I've had to remind myself of all along: A lot of the stories you'll find on MDC are from a self-selected sample of the population. How many people who don't struggle with infertility find themselves on TTC forums? I worried and worried that it would be so hard for DH and I to conceive, with all the stories I was reading... but it took us two months. Just keep in mind that many of the women who have found MDC are here for support because of ongoing issues - whereas women who conceive easily, have "perfect" pregnancies, etc. might not be so inclined to research or get involved in this type of forum.

I hope that makes sense and doesn't sound like I'm knocking anybody who has a hard time with TTC/pregnancy. I truly feel for all the women/families that struggle with this process.

[D'sMama]

Originally Posted by laurelg

Rachel, I have a lot of the same concerns. That said, my mom never got morning sickness - she had a lot of dizziness later in pregnancy, but never really any nausea. I just talked to a friend who is due in August and she said she never got morning sickness either. So yes, it's possible to have a healthy pregnancy without having all of the "typical" symptoms.

Thanks for that, Laurel! I'm glad to hear I'm not alone. I know I shouldn't be so worried, but it's hard not to be when I don't "feel" that pregnant!

Originally Posted by laurelg

Something else to keep in mind, which I've had to remind myself of all along: A lot of the stories you'll find on MDC are from a self-selected sample of the population. How many people who don't struggle with infertility find themselves on TTC forums? I worried and worried that it would be so hard for DH and I to conceive, with all the stories I was reading... but it took us two months. Just keep in mind that many of the women who have found MDC are here for support because of ongoing issues - whereas women who conceive easily, have "perfect" pregnancies, etc. might not be so inclined to research or get involved in this type of forum.

I hope that makes sense and doesn't sound like I'm knocking anybody who has a hard time with TTC/pregnancy. I truly feel for all the women/families that struggle with this process.

That's a really good point about the self-selection going on here - I see what you mean. You're so lucky you got pg right away! I was trolling other TTC boards before I found MDC and before I got pg, since we had been trying for 9 months before it finally worked. I was convinced something was wrong with us and we'd need infertility treatments, etc. Thankfully, it didn't come to that. And no, it doesn't sound like you're knocking anyone! No worries there.

[MrsSoup]

I have similar fears over here as well.

But I just spoke with my doctor yesterday, and she said that it isn't until 6 weeks that nausea tends to come for those that will get it. And here I was all excited because the only symptom I have is painful boobs/nipples and being so tired.

I also was freaking out about getting pregnant once we started trying. Then I read something that said only to start worrying after a year. And we got pregnant after the second cycle.

So I keep trying to breathe deep and remember that my body knows what it is doing and relax as much as possible.

[leogirl79]

I'm not going to be totally calm until this baby is in my arms

I can tell you that "symptoms" aren't everything. With the baby I lost at 16w I was still throwing up and she has passed away at 15w+. Hang in there. It's out of our control. All we can do is be happy that today we are pregnant!

[xakana]

Originally Posted by leogirl79

I'm not going to be totally calm until this baby is in my arms

Exactly. After two previous losses, I can't trust pregnancy at all. But even before loss--with Lilly, I was terrified. I called her a tumor for the first three months, then refused to share her name for fear that she'd die and I'd lose her name to pass onto a child... I was 7 months along before I could bond at all.

I didn't want it to be that way the next time, so my first miscarried pregnancy, I went all into it, happy as a clam and lost it at 6 weeks, 1 day. Now I'm afraid again.

I know I'm carrying a baby. I know it's a boy. I know these things in my heart. But until I'm holding him, I can't believe anything else.

[Phoenix~Mama]

Originally Posted by leogirl79

I'm not going to be totally calm until this baby is in my arms

I can tell you that "symptoms" aren't everything. With the baby I lost at 16w I was still throwing up and she has passed away at 15w+. Hang in there. It's out of our control. All we can do is be happy that today we are pregnant!

I am sorry for your loss. But I think you have most excellent advice. Thank you for sharing.