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post #41 of 57
hugs, mama. and I know it's too soon to be thinking of this right now, but I wanted to second the adoption suggestion -- adoption isn't for everyone, but if you really want your little guy to have a sibling, there is no reason why he can't.

And if adoption isn't for you, being an only child has many, many benefits as well. You did what was best for your family, try to remember that when it gets really hard...

mostly just hugs and healing to you mama
post #42 of 57
I am so sorry for your loss of everything you grieve for now. One thing I have found to help me move on from my losses (m/c) is to talk to the babies I lost and tell them I am sorry. To imagine holding them and telling them I loved them. This also helped me get past a large part of my grief over my first C-section and what my babies went through as a result.
Hang in there. ((hugs))
post #43 of 57
Oh, mama....

You did what you had to do. Please, please know that you are not judged here, only loved. You are still alive and I hope you can find some peace somewhere... your family needed you sane and whole and you did what was necessary to accomplish that. Keep in mind they STILL need you sane and whole... and you must find a way to continue accomplishing that. Please seek some counseling or therapy in person, and find that inner core of strength we all know you have.

Above all, mama, let yourself grieve. Don't be afraid to hurt for the child lost. You acted out of love, for yourself, your family and even for the baby that was not to be.

Peace, healing and strength to you...
post #44 of 57
That is so hard. I'm sorry. Please find someone to talk to in real life.
post #45 of 57
Oh mama. I am so so sorry for what you've been through. I suffer from depression, so I know a portion of what you have been dealing with. I really don't have any answers for you... I'm only 5 months into this journey myself....and it kind of feels like everyone finds their own ways to heal. I hope you find something. Your story just breaks my heart for you. What an aweful decision to have to make, but you did what you had to for yourself. I really fear what would have happened to you had you continued without your meds. I'm so sorry, mama. So sorry.
post #46 of 57
OP, your username says speaks to the amount of grief you are experiencing. Please give yourself and your family time and space to heal! As women and mothers, we are sometimes faced with impossibly difficult decisions that still need to be made. You and your DH made the best decision you could at the time and place you were in when you made it. Mourn, process, heal, but don't second-guess yourselves.

. Peace to you!
post #47 of 57
OP, your username says speaks to the amount of grief you are experiencing. Please give yourself and your family time and space to heal! As women and mothers, we are sometimes faced with impossibly difficult decisions that still need to be made. You and your DH made the best decision you could at the time and place you were in when you made it. Mourn, process, heal, but don't second-guess yourselves.

. Peace to you!
post #48 of 57
I wish I could give you words of comfort. But whoever you are, we love you here and will keep you in our thoughts and prayers.
post #49 of 57
I'm so sorry for your pain . . .

Please find someone in real life (a counselor?) you can talk to face to face. This is too much grief to hold inside.
post #50 of 57
post #51 of 57
no one judges here, especially when you come with an open heart. s You will find peace. Enjoy your daughter and your DH.
post #52 of 57
You did the best you were able to at the time. With your illness, your life was in danger and you must be a momma to your dd. She needs you

hugs to you
post #53 of 57
((hugs))
post #54 of 57
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post #55 of 57
Oh mama. I'm so sad for you right now

I too suffer with Bipolar disorder with pronouced episodes of severe depression. While I've never terminated I've suffered losses aplenty (8 m/c's). I've lost a great deal this year and the truth is tha tthe ONLY thing that got me through it all was to find a partial inpatient hospitalization program. It sounds worse than it is. IT's a day program where you are in a group setting with others that are dealign with mental health issues - many probably far worse than your own. There isa a world of praise for how much beign in a room with others that are at the very least dealgin with similar mental health issues. It literally saved my life and my sanity, taught me some incredible coping skills and turned my life from suicidal to living fully. It CAN help immensely.

your pain is so real, so valid, and so very very deep try to find something and someone that can help.

many many hugs to you.
post #56 of 57
I have a dear friend who recently described her BP to me... and by that, I have some understanding of your decision.

In other ways I also (almost) understand your situation & pain.

Yet truly, I don't know. There is so much to your story here. I feel so sad for you. I hope you are coming to terms with it all slowly.

You are not alone in this experience.
post #57 of 57
you know, usually i'm pro-life... but all that comes to mind right now is you did the best you knew how to do and my heart truely holds no judgement, only sorrow. i'm so sorry mama, i'm sorry for your loss, i'm sorry for your pain, i'm sorry for your battle with depression. i've had severe PPD in the past and i've also dealt with chronic depression and anxiety (it's been years now).. and in the process, i've done some things i'm not proud of, but i also need to remind myself that i wasn't in the right state of mind. you need to remind yourself too. i wish you a gentle healing..
many, many hugs to you and your little angel.
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