Really Didn't Mean to do That....

[kalisage]

Apparently it's a very bad idea to ask me when I'm due, or how I'm feeling, and especially bad to ask me when we will induce.....

Yesterday I was standing in line with my DS when a woman approached me and asked when I was due (I think she may also have been pregnant). I was in the middle of explaining something to ds, turned looked at her and very rudely said, "I'm overdue" and walked away. As we left I looked at ds & even said, wow that was horribly nasty of me.

Today my mom called to ask how long we would wait before we do "something", and WOW did I lay into her. Basically the conversation was a lot of me yelling that I'm sick of stupid people calling and asking me stupid questions. Which to an extent is true; I'm not about to sit and inform you because you don't know anything about HB or UC, but I certainly don't need to yell and scream at people.

I'm really oh so ready NOW. I feel so guilty now for biting everyone's heads off.

[MarchWillow]

DO NOT FEEL GUILTY!!! or then I'll have to feel guilty too.

I think people just forget how rude it is, and how sensitive we are at the end. I can totally relate to not wanting to educate people about hb/uc and then when I wasn't pregnant, or in early pregnancy, that's all I wanted to talk about. argh! I think it just sucks because we get all the questions in high concentration at the end. I wish I could just put people on pause and discuss HB in length...later...after I am not pregnant anymore lol. I really want to be an advocate for it, just...not anytime in the next 2 weeks

[Shanana]

[cj'smommy]

[Molck]

[SumnerRain]

I hate the "when are you due" question, I always say May or June and they look at me like "well, which one?"

Anytime I go overdue, I avoid the general public like the plague, I get too crabby.

[SumnerRain]

LOL I just thought of something... maybe you should put one of those "Open letters" on Craig's List

"To the woman who asked me when I was due, I am sorry that I snapped at you, but..."

[Luv2Skydive]

I am SO right there with you! I know I'll go ballistic on people so I'm basically laying low and not going out except to drop off/pick up sons from school and activities. I've e-mailed everyone saying I'll go over my EDD (Thursday!), am not doing anything about it, and it could very well go another two weeks and to call DH if they need anything. I think I've gotten my point across since no one has been calling. My sister even drove 4 hours to be here for my EDD......no, she doesn't have any children or she would know better! But she isn't staying with me, so I can be glad about that at least.

[kalisage]

Originally Posted by SumnerRain

"To the woman who asked me when I was due, I am sorry that I snapped at you, but..."

: Yes!

[alegna]

My initial reaction (which I've been able to squelch so far... ) is a snarl and a sneer....

-Angela

[N8'sMom]

[bubs8]

I'm with you. Its very hard to smile and be polite as perfect strangers are telling me how to "get things moving".

I feel a little guilty because I called my friend (who calls 2-4 times a day) and told her I was in labor -- just so I could say "kidding".

[trinimommy]

I can totally relate. I have not answered my phone in over a week and everyone is pissed but I don't care...my text messages are over oaded and I still don't care. I try to respond to some and the piss me off just as much so now that's cut off too. A friend of mine called me the other day and I didn't answer so she text me saying "What's your deal?". I responded My deal is that I am not speaking to anyone right now I am tired of answering the same questions over and over. She got offended and said she does not appreciate being grouped with everyone else. Hellloooooo...does she realize everyone also includes my FAMILY???? Oh geez give me a break. It's bad enough I came to stay with my mom and she watches my belly every time I have a contraction and asks me if I want to go to the birth center...lol.

People outside would really really get it because my family alone is all that is helping me to retain my little patience. People in the outside world would really get it.

[alegna]

Oh I only answer the phone for a few select people now. And no one who would ask if there's a baby yet.

Come on people- I'm good with email- if there's a baby, you'll know. So either there's no baby yet, or I'm working on it- either way, I'm in no mood to be asked if there's a baby yet...

-Angela

[kalisage]

Originally Posted by alegna

Come on people- I'm good with email- if there's a baby, you'll know. So either there's no baby yet, or I'm working on it- either way, I'm in no mood to be asked if there's a baby yet...

Yea, that's what I going to do.... NOW....

I just need to stop worrying that everyone will get mad I'm not talking to them

[BroodyWoodsgal]

I too have stopped answering the phone...I really wish I could avoid all people, entirely...but I guess that's not really an option.

Honestly...I'm so beastly at this point, my gut reaction to the strangers who feel it's their business when I have my baby is to hiss, snarl and bark at them...I just want to roar and look furious...but instead I shrug and say "who knows, really?" - to which they look puzzled.

Why do people ask? I mean, the girl at the checkout counter...I understand why she asks, she is trying to make conversation. I get that, it annoys me, but that's just because I'm a hormonal mess. The checkout girl is okay. It's the COMPLETE stranger, who walks across the produce section just to say "You look like you're really about to blow up! When is that baby going to come" - it's like...ummm, I don't freaking know you! Mind your own damn business.

I went to the mall (my least favorite place on the planet) because I wanted to walk and walk and DH won't "permit" me to walk outside while he's at work because he's convinced that I will fall to the ground in some sort of distress and be abducted by, oh who knows, anyway.....I'm walking around the malll and I'm sure I looked like a homocidal maniac, and one of those STUPID boys working the cell phone kioske calls out to me "Hey, do you want a great deal on a cell phone?!" - without thinking I yelled back at him (with a voice filld with firey rage) "DO I LOOK LIKE I NEED A GREAT DEAL ON A NEW CELL PHONE RIGHT NOW, DO YOU THINK THAT'S WHY I'M HEREEE???!!!" - the look on his face was sheer terror...if I hadn't been walking away from him, he probably would have run. And with good reason!!

I just wish people would leave me alone. I know I don't look friendly right now...I look miserable and mean....I FEEL miserable and mean.

Oh....and the next person who says to me "My gosh, you look terrible, I bet you can't wait for that baby to get the hck out of you, huh?" is going to get a fist to the gut...I'm totally done with strangers telling me how bad and fat and tired I look...it's just rude. Oh....and...if I am obviously hugely pregnant...why do so may people say "Whoa, so you STILL haven't had that baby, huh?" - obviously freakin not you butt head!!!