I've posted about my mother's situation before, but let me sum up. 4 years ago my drug addict cousin died and left my mom with 3 of her 5 kids. fast forward to today and they are 16, 10 and 9 all with various issues but for the most part settled in to life with my mom.
well last friday my mother found out that the 10 yo go in trouble at school for a game of tag that went a little too far. I guess he and a friend were chasing one girl in particular my cousin held the girl down while the other boy "decided what to do with her". I guess a lot of very disturbing things were said, and eventually the recess attendant came over and broke things up. Now, my poor mother is beside herself. She feels like at her age (56) she can't deal with behavior of this nature (sexual). So my question is, how much of this talk is "normal" for this age group. How far would this actually have gone if the recess lady hadn't come over we don't know thankfully. But these kids are in therapy and all the therapist says is that they are fine. In addition to his mom dying when he was so young, he was also the victim of an older boy forcing him to do things of a sexual nature when he was still with his mom. Not sure if that is relevant, but it would seem so to me. Any advice is greatly appreciated. My kids are still small and I have no idea what to tell my mom.
well last friday my mother found out that the 10 yo go in trouble at school for a game of tag that went a little too far. I guess he and a friend were chasing one girl in particular my cousin held the girl down while the other boy "decided what to do with her". I guess a lot of very disturbing things were said, and eventually the recess attendant came over and broke things up. Now, my poor mother is beside herself. She feels like at her age (56) she can't deal with behavior of this nature (sexual). So my question is, how much of this talk is "normal" for this age group. How far would this actually have gone if the recess lady hadn't come over we don't know thankfully. But these kids are in therapy and all the therapist says is that they are fine. In addition to his mom dying when he was so young, he was also the victim of an older boy forcing him to do things of a sexual nature when he was still with his mom. Not sure if that is relevant, but it would seem so to me. Any advice is greatly appreciated. My kids are still small and I have no idea what to tell my mom.
