Moms of MANY-I need some advice - Page 2

[Mama_Leah]

Originally Posted by transformed

I am working on decluttering. I have taken our outfits down to about 5 a piece. Except dh. His amount of clothes is astronomical. 50 T shirts. That doesnt count work shirts and polos. I feel bad about getting rid of his clothes though, like its within his rights to have the clothes he wants. He doesn't want to be mothered. He wants a wife. So I struggle with making him clean, kwim?

No, you're not his mother but you are the manager of the housekeeping and if he has a lot of stuff then he should get rid of some of it. Obviously he doesn't need that many t-shirts. Or if he thinks he does then he should keep them organized. There is a difference in making him clean the whole house and expecting him to be responsible for his own messes.

If you have cleaning help then what you need to concentrate on, IMHO, is neatness. De-cluttering will help a lot with that. It's tough at first but everything will become a habit if you work at it long enough. In the end you will find that cleaning up behind yourself (and making sure your husband does too) will save you time. I used to be horrible about just sitting stuff down wherever I happened to be. We were married just before I turned 19 and it took awhile for me to realize that if something was going to be cleaned up I had to do it!

[Jannah6]

You know that your DH must not know any SAHM:

My DC are 10,7,5,4, and 8 months. Truthfully, I was a vegetable for many years. I used to let my DC watch a lot of television. I probably would be considered a bad mom to some, but it's the way I coped. Especially since 7 yr old DD has ADHD.I grew up watching a lot of t.v, so I didn't see anything wrong with it. Now we are t.v free, except for DVD's.

We don't have a schedule, except for the ones that are in school. 4 yr old DD and 8 month old DS and I mostly just wing it. Park, coloring, playplaces,library, appointments, and ALOT of just walking.

My DH always has issues about cleanliness, but he's not a SAHD. So, I do what I can. As for the decluttering, my aunt helps with that because I'm AWEFUL at it. Do you have someone who could assist you for free?

You've probably heard this before, but it does get better.

[GuildJenn]

When I was a teenager one of our neighbours hired me to help her declutter. She swore me to secrecy about her stuff (which was NOT that bad) and I went after school for two hours for about two weeks until it was done. It was a great job.

I'm saying that because YOU said the house is an issue for you. Your DH just doesn't understand that people are PICKING UP for him.

[cappuccinosmom]

I feel kind of silly with only 3 and struggling like this.

Don't be. You are in a season of life which it difficult, your children are at ages where meeting all thier needs is tough. For me, even though my third baby was extraordinarily wonderful and mellow, the transition from 2 to 3 was the hardest yet, and I am still recovering a year after he was born. However, I am also seeing hope as my children get older and more independent and helpful.

I think the other's have addressed your other problems, and I only have three, so I won't comment more than that.