since a few of you were asking. It's a bit long, sorry.
I met my husband in 2005 when I was in San Diego for school. He was in the Navy (I had always wanted to be a military wife!) We hit it off instantly and wanted to spend every moment together. I slowly got pieces of information that SHOULD have been red flags....He was married (though he claimed to be in the middle of a divorce) and she was living in Oklahoma...he had a son who was 2. I learned a few weeks later that she was 8 months pregnant with their second son (he CLAIMED he didn't know). Why I didn't run for the hills at this point, I will never know.
So we got married and moved to TX to be near his family. His ex and I got along well. Everything was great. Then I started seeing things I didn't trust...finding girls numbers, inappropriate texts, condom wrappers (that wouldn't have been us cuz we were TTC). So I threw him out, then decided that I wanted to try to work it out. We got pregnant that month and things were great for a while! Then he lost his job (which would have allowed me to stay home with Jordan). He was unemployed for several months, so we had to borrow $5000 from my father just to make ends meet. Part of the agreement for the loan was that he go back to school to better himself. So he decided on flight school in Tulsa, OK. Well, i was 7 months pregnant, so I stayed behind and lived with his mother until Jordan was born. During this time I never saw ONE CENT from him! He was working as a waiter and making $600-$1000 every two weeks, and his ONLY expenses were gas and food. He was living rent free. Where all the money went is still a mystery to me.
He came down for 2 days when Jordan was born, and then left again before we even went home from the hospital. A couple days later he lost that job too.
I left to visit my mom in CA for a month when Jordan was 2 weeks old, and when I got back to TX was going to move to Tulsa. But, just as when I was pregnant, I was not a priority to him. He only called every 3 or 4 days, and even then only talked to me for a few minutes. I opted to go ahead and go to Tulsa to try. It lasted one week. He was unpleasant and made Jordan very uncomfortable. Once, I went to the store for ONE HOUR. I had already fed, burped and changed the baby. All he had to do was keep an eye on him. He calls me and tells me to get the F*** home. I told him never to speak to me that way, and he says that the baby hasn't stopped crying since I left. If he was talking to me that way, it scares me to think of how he was towards the baby!
So, I left. Packed up all my things and drove to CA.
I've been here since March 10 and I couldn't be happier! He never calls to see about his son, he only calls me to ask for money!!
So, that's my story. My divorce will be final June 12, and at that point I start counting the moments til I can legally have him out of my life forever, since I know I will never see a dime of child support!
I met my husband in 2005 when I was in San Diego for school. He was in the Navy (I had always wanted to be a military wife!) We hit it off instantly and wanted to spend every moment together. I slowly got pieces of information that SHOULD have been red flags....He was married (though he claimed to be in the middle of a divorce) and she was living in Oklahoma...he had a son who was 2. I learned a few weeks later that she was 8 months pregnant with their second son (he CLAIMED he didn't know). Why I didn't run for the hills at this point, I will never know.
So we got married and moved to TX to be near his family. His ex and I got along well. Everything was great. Then I started seeing things I didn't trust...finding girls numbers, inappropriate texts, condom wrappers (that wouldn't have been us cuz we were TTC). So I threw him out, then decided that I wanted to try to work it out. We got pregnant that month and things were great for a while! Then he lost his job (which would have allowed me to stay home with Jordan). He was unemployed for several months, so we had to borrow $5000 from my father just to make ends meet. Part of the agreement for the loan was that he go back to school to better himself. So he decided on flight school in Tulsa, OK. Well, i was 7 months pregnant, so I stayed behind and lived with his mother until Jordan was born. During this time I never saw ONE CENT from him! He was working as a waiter and making $600-$1000 every two weeks, and his ONLY expenses were gas and food. He was living rent free. Where all the money went is still a mystery to me.
He came down for 2 days when Jordan was born, and then left again before we even went home from the hospital. A couple days later he lost that job too.
I left to visit my mom in CA for a month when Jordan was 2 weeks old, and when I got back to TX was going to move to Tulsa. But, just as when I was pregnant, I was not a priority to him. He only called every 3 or 4 days, and even then only talked to me for a few minutes. I opted to go ahead and go to Tulsa to try. It lasted one week. He was unpleasant and made Jordan very uncomfortable. Once, I went to the store for ONE HOUR. I had already fed, burped and changed the baby. All he had to do was keep an eye on him. He calls me and tells me to get the F*** home. I told him never to speak to me that way, and he says that the baby hasn't stopped crying since I left. If he was talking to me that way, it scares me to think of how he was towards the baby!
So, I left. Packed up all my things and drove to CA.
I've been here since March 10 and I couldn't be happier! He never calls to see about his son, he only calls me to ask for money!!
So, that's my story. My divorce will be final June 12, and at that point I start counting the moments til I can legally have him out of my life forever, since I know I will never see a dime of child support!
Sounds like a royal pain in the arse! I can't believe the nerve of some people... asking for money from you, when he is supposed to be giving YOU money! Fortunately my kids' dad has never tried to pull that one on me, he knows way better than that!
