OMG, I TOTALLY understand!
I remember reading Dr. Sears Baby Book baby wearing section and wondering what planet they were on. They showed all this stuff that could be done with baby in sling and even had a story about going to a black tie affair with one. I was like, riiiighhht. I wore mine on walks and such, but back and shoulders always hurt unless I wore it just right. But no cooking, cleaning, gardening with the darn thing, I had two extra little hands with a mind of their own trying to grab knives, dirt, cleaning products, etc.
When we arrived in Africa, everyone wears the baby on the back and I envy this as it IS possible to do all sorts of things without worrying as much about the grabby baby. But when I went out, kids tried to stick things in his mouth and he cried when he couldn't see what I was doing. So back to the ring sling it was...when such was needed.
BUT, I think we've gotten our baby wearing wardrobe figured out a bit more now. Its taken a bunch of practice and becomes more of a moot point as DS wants to not be held as much, but it does work. The back carrier at home, the ring sling for quick outings and a Kelty backpack for longer outings and excursions. Its STILL not perfect, but with a lot of practice and trial and error, we do have a system. I went to a baby wearing group meeting and learned some interesting things and tried on a sling i ended up buying, but it wasn't as helpful as i had hoped, but that was no ones fault.