I was at a playground last week near a neighborhood middle school with my nearly three year old. There were eight or so middle schoolers there and they weren't just swearing (mostly *very* violent name calling), they were speaking exclusively in swear. I swear. Well, after a couple minutes, I asked them to stop. No, I told them to stop and to leave. I don't feel badly that I was interfering with their right to express themselves.
My older daughter I think would rather die than swear. Last year, she was really upset one day getting off the bus. When I asked her what was wrong, she said that she heard one kid call another the *J* word. As I was racking my brain trying to figure out what she meant (Jew, Jesus, J-Frick?) she said,
"You know mommy. JERK
Needless to say, we're not big swearers around here. I do think, however, that there's a HUGE difference between name calling and a reaction to a stubbed toe or a computer meltdown. I also think it's a respect thing. I wouldn't swear in front of my kids and I don't want them swearing in front of me. To me it's crass and bad manners - kinda like chewing with one's mouth open. Who wants to see that all day?