I didn't mean to start a heated debate. I do think that there are folks out there that definitely know a thing or two about parenting.
My brother is farthest from that group however. I should clarify, that the trip is 2-3 hours each way, so 5-6 hours total. He also lives here, by me, it's just his wedding that's in a different state.
I just can't get his comments out of my head.
It sounds to me like he's expressing his hurt that you won't be attending an important life event for him in a way that is not as vulnerable for him. I'm sure you must be sorry to miss such a big day. Are you also not able to attend his wedding?