Okay, babe sleeping in sling, so let's give this a go.
First, I want to preface this by saying everything I'm about to write is pretty much based on my own personal experience. Secondly, yeah, yeah, I know I just will not shut up
about craniosacral therapy
! It's just that it has been such a tremendous help to both me and dd1. I don't think it's a panacea ... just one of many modalities that can help. It just happens to be the one we stumbled upon. I think anything you do that respects the body-mind connection will be useful.
So, to give a little background to help you understand why I think the things I do:
Read this post
I wrote about a CST session where I revisited my own birth. This was the thing that really made me realize that babies are indeed affected by their birth experience (or what happens directly after, a week after, whatever). It made me understand that babies are sentient, emotional beings, even though they can't communicate the way we can, and maybe don't even remember things the way we as adults do. They are still affected by stuff (hence, the reason not to do things like CIO, etc.). I have actually revisited my own birth on a number of occasions during CST sessions, and find it to be powerfully healing work.
And I got started down this line of thinking because of the trauma dd1 suffered after her birth (deep suctioning for mec staining). It caused all sorts of nursing nightmares, although it took me a while to truly believe it was due to her being emotionally traumatized by what she had been through. Wrote more about that here
So that will give you some understanding of how I've gotten to where I am today, which is that I believe babies tend to be profoundly affected by their birth experience or any sort of trauma (even something that we might not think of as trauma). My own personal theory is that high needs / colicky babies are frequently babies that have been through some sort of trauma, and are trying to process it and heal (barring any physical explanation like reflux, etc.). And there are things that can be done to help with that.
Okay, so specific to Blizzard Babe's situation ...
My first thought when you said ds was high needs was "induction". I know it was medically indicated and what I'm saying is in no way meant to be a criticism of your choices. But I think when babies are induced it can traumatize them because they simply weren't ready to come out (or else they would have already!). They aren't physically ready. Emotionally ready. Just not ready. So I happen to believe that being forcibly evicted MIGHT cause emotional trauma that manifests itself as high needs / colicky behavior. Doesn't mean it shouldn't have been done, but it might mean you have some work ahead of you to help him heal from the experience.
Or it could be something else that happened, or something else in addition to the induction. The induction is just the most obvious thing.
So what do you do? Well, my first recommendation is CST
. I know you live in the boonies, but there is a CS therapist qualified to work on babies in Anchorage (http://www.iahp.com/JamesLarsen/
). Not sure if he's practicing, but if not he might be able to point you to someone who is. (If you want to search yourself, go here
, and look for someone who has CSI, CSII, SERI and CSP at a bare minimum - CSP being the pediatrics class that is necessary in order to work on babies/children). And not all therapists are created equal either, unfortunately. It would be good to find someone who has experience doing this sort of work. Upledger isn't the only certifying school either, just one of the best known. Thismama, I think you're in Canada, right? The listing has therapists in other countries too, so you can look for someone near you if you're interested.
Another thing you can do is crying in arms
. This is hard, hard work, as I mention in the post about dd1's trauma. It was emotionally very difficult for me, because I worried maybe she was crying about something else, and it was also incredibly painful for me to see the rage and anger she was experiencing. I felt like I was being accused, and often felt defensive. But it can be a very healing practice, especially if you don't have other options available to you. It has been discussed at length here on MDC -- here are two threads
I know of.
The thing I like about CST is that the cranial rhythm stops when an emotionally significant event is occurring (I've taken the CSI training and have felt this firsthand ... it is an unmistakable sensation). So that takes away the worries of, "is my baby crying because s/he is releasing emotion, or because s/he is gassy, wet, hungry, etc.?" I really felt confident with my CS therapist, and never worried that dd1 was crying unnecessarily.
Okay, dd1 is up from her nap, so I'm going to wrap this up. In short, my first thought when I hear high needs or colic is, "Did this baby experience some kind of trauma?" (With a very
broad definition of "trauma" -- including things like baby's position during labor / birth, which might cause discomfort / pain -- since it's impossible for us to know what a baby's experience is.) And if so, then it's time to start looking for ways to help the baby process and release that trauma.
If you are interested in better understanding CST, at least how it works with adults (obviously different with babies, because they can't talk!), you can read some more posts I wrote about my sessions here
Okay, crying baby, toddler in need of diaper change. Gotta run!!!