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Poll Results: Should the dog poop have been cleaned before returning the shoes?

 
  • 84% (75)
    House B should have cleaned the shoes before returning them.
  • 12% (11)
    House A should have cleaned the shoes without complaint when they were returned.
  • 3% (3)
    Obligatory other...
89 Total Votes  
post #21 of 46
As a person who gags about dog poop, here are my feelings. The second household should have cleaned the shoes, but since they didn't, suck it up and clean the shoes. Have the child help so they will watch where they step. By age 7 I watched out for dog poop as did my kids and sometimes just cleaning it will make them begin to watch out for it. If the shoes were just a cheap pair, I would throw them away, but I would mention to Dh to tell the ex to please return shoes and all belongings clean.There's another picture here to me, about a pet owner's irresponsibility in cleaning up after their dog. I own dogs and board dogs and keep them immaculant and there is no excuse for dog poop where a child could play or step in it.
post #22 of 46
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by angilyn View Post
There's another picture here to me, about a pet owner's irresponsibility in cleaning up after their dog. I own dogs and board dogs and keep them immaculant and there is no excuse for dog poop where a child could play or step in it.
I completely agree. That's a pet peeve of mine, too. To bad we can't get the dog owner to clean it up, but, even though it's the law here ($250 fine, first offense, $500 fine second), but unfortunately, almost nobody here cleans up after their dogs.
post #23 of 46
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Originally Posted by harleyhalfmoon View Post
I'm not sure I get what your saying. Why would it be obvious that the child needs to clean them at House A?
As I understood it, oblivious child stepped in defecated matter while at House B. Shoes got send back to House A in a baggie. So what are you going to do? Send them BACK to House B? Or have oblivious child take responsibility for her obliviousness by cleaning her own shoes?

Seriously - this isn't such a HUGE deal. The kid stepped in defecated matter. The shoes need to be cleaned. Is this REALLY something to get so worked up over? Make the kid clean her shoes and maybe she'll be more aware of where she's stepping in the future. In other words, neither House A NOR House B should be cleaning the shoes. Oblivious child should be - at one house or the other.
post #24 of 46
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by mtiger View Post
As I understood it, oblivious child stepped in shit while at House B. Shoes got send back to House A in a baggie. So what are you going to do? Send them BACK to House B? Or have oblivious child take responsibility for her obliviousness by cleaning her own shoes?
Ummm... nobody said anything about sending dog poop back to House B! The questions was more along the lines of, shouldn't they have been cleaned off before being sent back to House A? Or at least wiped off in the grass so that there weren't chunks hanging of it? Wouldn't that have been the polite thing to do?

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Originally Posted by mtiger View Post
Seriously - this isn't such a HUGE deal. The kid stepped in dog shit. The shoes need to be cleaned. Is this REALLY something to get so worked up over?
Profanity. :

With all due respect, it sounds like you're pretty worked up about it. I didn't see anyone else getting all worked up and, as the original poster, I wasn't worked up, I was questioning the rightness/wrongness of the situation.
post #25 of 46
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Originally Posted by harleyhalfmoon View Post

Profanity. :
Sorry - I'll clean it up to something less offensive.

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Originally Posted by harleyhalfmoon View Post
With all due respect, it sounds like you're pretty worked up about it. I didn't see anyone else getting all worked up and, as the original poster, I wasn't worked up, I was questioning the rightness/wrongness of the situation.
Nope. I have three dogs, and sometimes dog poopies get stepped in. It happens. Even when no one has dogs. I actually think it's quite amusing that it would be enough of an issue to make a poll of it.

Perhaps the adults at House B expected oblivious child to take responsibility for it. I certainly would have.
post #26 of 46
I just have to say that I am looking out the window at my son's favorite pair of shoes, which are out on the back porch because... yup... he stepped in dog poop. No, not today... not yesterday... I think it was probably at least two weeks ago. Apparently my husband and I are both waiting for the magic poop fairy to come clean them off while we aren't looking.
post #27 of 46
I don't think it really matters. I think dwelling on this kind of stuff just creates tension between House A and House B. Who knows why the poop didn't get cleaned off? Maybe things were really hectic at House B and they never got around to it.
post #28 of 46
Just so you know - I throw sneakers in the washing machine all the time. It may not be great for sneakers, but it does get them clean. Those light-up shoes even continue to work afterwards.
post #29 of 46
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Originally Posted by Teensy View Post
Those light-up shoes even continue to work afterwards.
THat is very good to know!
post #30 of 46
We have dogs and dad doesn't, I would *never* purposely/knowingly send him poopy shoes! Even if he was being um, not the way I wanted - that's what divorce is for, it doesn't give me the right or good karma to be that cruel.
post #31 of 46
I haven't read the replies, and well, eh....I haven't had this happen to me either way, I picked House A should clean the shoes or at least not be offended at having to, but I'm probably changing my mind right now


My kids have had accidents (wet pants) at other people's houses before. Often the person in charge would take the pants and stick them in a plastic baggie, and would be kind enough to loan something else for my child to wear until they got home. I felt that they had no obligation to try to wash the pants and return them to me clean, or back on my child.

And I've been on the other side of that. I don't feel obligated to wash the wet pants (took care of a potty learning toddler earlier this year for example) but sometimes, if I was going to be doing laundry anyways, I did it as a favor/nice guesture to the mom, without expecting anything in return. I'd put something else on the child, and either have clean pants in the diaper bag or dirty/wet pants in a plastic bag.

That said, I'm not sure what I do w/ a pair of : shoes. I would probably feel bad enough for the kid to hose them off under the bathroom sink tap or my shower sprayer or if I had a garden hose outside, that would work (hopefully that poo wouldn't be all dried out and stuck). I'd hopefully be able to dry out the shoes enough (amazing what hair dryers can do in a pinch), but at least wet shoes are better than crappy shoes.

Good question
post #32 of 46
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by Teensy View Post
Just so you know - I throw sneakers in the washing machine all the time. It may not be great for sneakers, but it does get them clean. Those light-up shoes even continue to work afterwards.
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post #33 of 46
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Originally Posted by JesseMomme View Post
My kids have had accidents (wet pants) at other people's houses before. Often the person in charge would take the pants and stick them in a plastic baggie, and would be kind enough to loan something else for my child to wear until they got home. I felt that they had no obligation to try to wash the pants and return them to me clean, or back on my child.

And I've been on the other side of that. I don't feel obligated to wash the wet pants (took care of a potty learning toddler earlier this year for example) but sometimes, if I was going to be doing laundry anyways, I did it as a favor/nice guesture to the mom, without expecting anything in return. I'd put something else on the child, and either have clean pants in the diaper bag or dirty/wet pants in a plastic bag.
In these cases, it wasn't a parent of the child with the pee/poop issue. That's what parents do: Clean pee, poop, and vomit.

They obviously knew the shoes were poopy - they sent them to you in a plastic bag. I would have been annoyed. I don't care how irrational everyone else posting in this thread thinks that is.

But I deal with things of this ilk often. My DSD's mom thinks that I am crazy for not wanting DSD's clothes from our house put in the dryer. For the last year, DF has asked her not to do so. In fact, he has asked her to just not wash them. Most of the time, they come back, baked from the dryer. Last week, DSD's mom returned her clothes unwashed - one of the first times ever. A week after receiving them, despite having three opportunities to give them to DF earlier. And they were, you guessed it, covered in paint. It seemed a little fishy that the one time she doesn't wash something, it allows a stain to set for a week.

They should have washed the shoes. But judging from your other posts, I'm not surprised. Maybe it was a belated Mother's Day gift.
post #34 of 46
Well if your child steps in $hit, I might do a quick rub on the grass but that's about it.
post #35 of 46
Umm I think that poster said that "Oblivious child should wash them", not that it was obvious child should wash them. You used the word oblivious, they were just repeating.

I think House A should have done it, or at least scraped them and returned them for further washing. I'd be annoyed too, but its one of those, be annoyed, rant about it here, but then just let it go because its not worth fighting over for DC's sake.
post #36 of 46
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Originally Posted by Sharlla View Post
Well if your child steps in $hit, I might do a quick rub on the grass but that's about it.
It's not just their child, but her child as well.

I'm guessing you didn't notice what forum you are in.
post #37 of 46
We've never had this exact occurrence, but when both kids were at our house and got their shoes (from the other house) very muddy, we threw them in the washing machine and made sure they were clean before returning them. I can't imagine returning a bag of dog crap and shoes. Of course, maybe that's because we fly back and forth and TSA might notice foul-smelling luggage..
post #38 of 46
Again - no one apparently knows how this all transpired. Maybe oblivious child (and yes, I am using OP's own description of said 7yo) stepped in defecations moments before they were getting into the car to return to House A. Choice - late returning the kid, or tossing the icky shoes in a bag? (Why do I suspect there would be a stink if the child was returned late?)

Perhaps oblivious child become unoblivious to the fact her shoes stank and tossed them in a bag herself - w/o telling the other parent - figuring that it would be assumed other parent was responsible for not cleaning the shoes? (I know, NO child would ever be so underhanded or manipulatory.)

Or, perhaps, other parent meant to clean them and simply forgot. Guess what - it happens.

Did oblivious child come home barefoot? Seems not. So why the big deal? Okay, it's a pain and no one likes to clean defecations off of anything. But it happens. Have a grumble and move on.
post #39 of 46
If I were living in House B, I'd make an effort to clean the shoes without returning them- but I might still have put them in a plastic bag rather than on the child's feet if I wasn't sure my cleaning was good enough for House A's standards.

If I was living in House A, I might grumble a bit about the dirty shoes but I wouldn't make a huge deal about it or let it bother me too much.
post #40 of 46
I agre.

Do people really get worked up over the word shit?
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