Originally Posted by Krystal323
i voted 25%, even tho lots of times it's more or less depeding on circmstances.
Ditto. Dh and I both work full time. Plus I am also a grad student. Yet, I do the majority of the household chores: laundry (including washing the diapers), meal prep, sweeping, dusting, cleaning the bathroom, feeding/cleaning up after pets, and getting ds ready for daycare in the morning. DH helps with a few in-door chores, like occasionally washing his dress clothes for work, drying dishes while I wash them, and making 1-2 dinners each week. He will also sweep or clean the litter box (if I ask).
Chores we share half & half are: taking out the trash/recyclables, bathing ds, changing diapers, picking up toys, putting ds to bed.
Outside, we pretty much work as a team, but we have different tasks. He mows in summer and snow-blows in winter. I weed the gardens, manage the compost, pick up branches (we have many old trees around us) and do most of the planting. We both water plants (as needed).
When it comes to home improvement, we always
work together on those projects. In the past year we have: painted all the rooms, refinished the hardwood floor in our bedroom, replace the tub and tiled the bathroom, built two patios, replaced 4 light fixtures, replaced 7 windows, paint a shed, and there is probably more that I am forgetting at the moment.
This doesn't mean that dh doesn't help out at home. He spends a lot of time with ds in the morning and evening while I am doing chores or working on my dissertation. Before ds, we had a good balance dealing with chores. It has taken some slow adjustments after a baby and buying a house, but now we have a pretty good rhythm.
The biggest thing I have learned after 8 years of marriage and a kid is 1) always complement your dh whenever he helps you, no matter how small (this makes him feel appreciated and will be more likely to tell you how much he appreciates what you do), 2) always ask for help when you feel overwhelmed
(men just don't tune into this like women do), 3) realize that he does
appreciate you, even if he forgets to tell you - sometimes you have to point out what you do ("did you notice that I did x today?") to get him to notice.