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Her answer was that something had to pay for what she'd just been through.
My answer would be: it depends. And the attitude in this sentence would seal the deal for me - no way. I can't even... there are no words.
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post #104 of 110
I think the fact I was sexually abused (in the standard definition even) is one of the reasons I know with out a doubt MGM and FGM are sexual abuse. I think denial/social conditioning and a lack of understanding of the normal male genitalia (and maybe empathy for the infant boys) are the only things keeping logical people from seeing MGM as abuse.
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I think the fact I was sexually abused (in the standard definition even) is one of the reasons I know with out a doubt MGM and FGM are sexual abuse. I think denial/social conditioning and a lack of understanding of the normal male genitalia (and maybe empathy for the infant boys) are the only things keeping logical people from seeing MGM as abuse.
ITA: as a matter of fact, I think that it actually meets the definition of rape in many states, including penetration, restraint and non consent.
post #106 of 110
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omg i just could not be around her.

she made her little boy pay for her ignorance in having a c/s??? just fraking great. omg!!! i think i am going to be sick.
I agree completely. That is horrifying, abusive, and there is no way that I could ever speak to her again. Ever.
post #107 of 110
I don't know that i would end a relationship, but it would probably die, if that makes sense. I am sorry about your sister, Nay. If you do contact her again, keep an eye out for ppd. Sounds like she was really traumatized by her c-section and is just really out of touch with reality if it made sense to her to inflict pain on her newborn.

post #108 of 110
: I can't believe I'm actually daring to post in this thread, and totally off topic as well. Your sister's response about making her little boy pay for what happened to her is really strange. Is there any chance she's suffering from postpartum psychosis or post traumatic stress disorder? If not, than I think I'd do exactly what you did. If she is, than she needs to get some help before she harms her little one even more.

I've never had to make this choice, but I'm in Canada and I think circ is much less common here.

If I did find out that someone had circed I think whether or not I continued the relationship would depend on the circumstances. If I'd tried to educate them and they ignored it, as some previous posters have had happened, I don't think our relationship would survive. If they'd circed out of ignorance, I think I would do my best to educate them, in the hopes that they wouldn't harm their next son in the same way.
post #109 of 110
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Well, to be perfectly honest, my sister is nearly 1,000 miles away, plus 5 years younger, plus we see many things differently (I'm atheist, she's hardcore Christian, for example). We don't talk that often. Her pregnancy was doing it's part to bring us closer together, but it was also letting me see a side of her that I hadn't noticed before. As you can guess, that side wasn't entirely positive.

I doubt I'll have any reason to talk to her before Labor Day, when I'll probably fly home to see my entire family. If she had not circumcised, then perhaps our relationship would have continued to improve. But as things stand now, we are just two very different people.

post #110 of 110
I had a friend, a neighbor, who has two cut boys and she was due three weeks before me. Even before she was pregnant she asked about e and i laid it all out for her and when she found out she was having a boy she and her husband wanted all kinds of info and I thought that i got them on the right track, well when she went into have him i didn't hear from her so I Knew what had happened. She won't change him in front of me and i am glad it makes me so sick. She said that in the end that they had to do it because they didn't want the boys to think they had played favortites and they all went through it and are fine so he should toouke:
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