I haven't said much here but I want to vent and I want to do it somewhere that my normal circle of people won't see it. I also get the impression you ladies will be rather sympathetic and picking your audience is important.
So I'm 39 weeks and 1 day. My due date is next Sunday. Next Sunday is the wedding of one of my husband's best friends from college. It's going to be in a town about two hours south. We've been going back and forth through the pregnancy about whether or not we should try to go at all. He finally confessed that he would really like to go even if I can't--whether that be because I am just not up for it at that stage of pregnancy or whether I have had the baby. I told him that I feel really crappy about being abandoned for this wedding. Especially because the guy getting married hasn't ever made much of an effort to be friendly with me even though I try pretty hard in his direction.
Now today there was another announcement of a bachelor party on Friday. My husband of course wants to go down. His best friend is in town for this wedding and he doesn't see him much and he really wants to go.
On one hand I know it would be pretty reasonable of me to say, "I'm sorry honey, it's just not ok for you to take off on a three hour round trip day long outing when I'm about 40 weeks pregnant" I just can't bring myself to do it. My husband asks me to do very little and he has so little access to his friends that it feels completely unfair to tell him that he can't go see them.
But dude, I'm going to be 40 weeks pregnant. Everything hurts. I'm really not up for walking around all day bird watching and looking at tide pools (I'm telling you--the bachelor party will be wild *snort* freakin geeks.) My feet have finally swollen up to a rather impressive degree. Shoes hurt. I feel like a beached whale. I can't sleep for more than three hours at a stretch because I have to go to the bathroom. Getting up to go to the bathroom hurts. I'm not friends with any of the people there so even if I did want to suck it up and go I would be sitting off by myself the whole time while watching other people have fun. I'm really not up for "putting myself out there" with new people right now.
So I told him that whereas I'm not up for the trip it's fine if he goes. And so I sit here and cry. I feel like I either need to suck it up and be cheerful or I need to tell him to not go and I don't know how to do either right now.
So I'm 39 weeks and 1 day. My due date is next Sunday. Next Sunday is the wedding of one of my husband's best friends from college. It's going to be in a town about two hours south. We've been going back and forth through the pregnancy about whether or not we should try to go at all. He finally confessed that he would really like to go even if I can't--whether that be because I am just not up for it at that stage of pregnancy or whether I have had the baby. I told him that I feel really crappy about being abandoned for this wedding. Especially because the guy getting married hasn't ever made much of an effort to be friendly with me even though I try pretty hard in his direction.
Now today there was another announcement of a bachelor party on Friday. My husband of course wants to go down. His best friend is in town for this wedding and he doesn't see him much and he really wants to go.
On one hand I know it would be pretty reasonable of me to say, "I'm sorry honey, it's just not ok for you to take off on a three hour round trip day long outing when I'm about 40 weeks pregnant" I just can't bring myself to do it. My husband asks me to do very little and he has so little access to his friends that it feels completely unfair to tell him that he can't go see them.
But dude, I'm going to be 40 weeks pregnant. Everything hurts. I'm really not up for walking around all day bird watching and looking at tide pools (I'm telling you--the bachelor party will be wild *snort* freakin geeks.) My feet have finally swollen up to a rather impressive degree. Shoes hurt. I feel like a beached whale. I can't sleep for more than three hours at a stretch because I have to go to the bathroom. Getting up to go to the bathroom hurts. I'm not friends with any of the people there so even if I did want to suck it up and go I would be sitting off by myself the whole time while watching other people have fun. I'm really not up for "putting myself out there" with new people right now.
So I told him that whereas I'm not up for the trip it's fine if he goes. And so I sit here and cry. I feel like I either need to suck it up and be cheerful or I need to tell him to not go and I don't know how to do either right now.
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: and then you might feel bad for him missing out??????
I think this is a difficult situation for us cause we don't know when I will go into labor and he is incredibly supportive 99.999% of the time. I want to be supportive of him seeing his best friend (dude, the guy lives 2500 miles away and they hardly ever see one another) but at the same time...
