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post #21 of 48
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Originally Posted by Papai View Post
I fail to see what's "pretty" about a cut penis. It's scarred, rough looking and dried out, like a dishrag left to dry on the porch.
What a vivid and accurate picture you paint with words, Papai.
post #22 of 48
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Originally Posted by Papai View Post
And I strongly disagree that an uncircumcised penis is "ugly." I fail to see what's "pretty" about a cut penis. It's scarred, rough looking and dried out, like a dishrag left to dry on the porch.
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BamaDude-What a vivid and accurate picture you paint with words, Papai.
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LoveChild421- well said
Actually I disagree. I found that comment very rude, hurtful, and the "dishrag" part quite disgusting. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, some people think circed penises look ugly, some think intact penises are ugly. Personally I feel all genitals (male and female) are not very attractive.

But the point is not what you find attractive, but its about being respectful of other people and their bodies. There is enough disrespect from the pro-circ side on the male body, lets not accept this kind of talk on our side.

I think one of the key principals of this forum should be to respect each others bodies, be they circumcised, intact, or female.
post #23 of 48
I agree with perspective, but I am a guy, so I don't find penises that attractive anyway, lol. But, I can't say either looks ugly. I think that intact looks more natural in the flaccid state, but in the erect state they look pretty much the same. Ok, scar tissue is ugly, but I guess some people may not be thrilled with tissue bunching up at the bottom of the glans. Who cares? Asthetics are not important. In a baby, the circumcised penis looks very weird; and a fresh circ. I guess is not beautiful. But ugly? Seems like a strong word. Everyone has different preferences and it's all completely subjective. In the end, a penis is a penis. Sure, they may work a little differently based on the foreskin or the lack thereof, but they all achieve the same goal. To judge what's better looking is pointless, but yeah, calling things ugly is just going to far and it's a little bit insensitive. It is what it is!

PS: Thanks for the neosporin tips people; it's good to know stuff like that.
post #24 of 48
I don't get why on earth Neosporin, an antibiotic, was recommended/used for a fungal infection! That's the absolute opposite of what should be done! I am glad your problem got sorted though despite bad advice.
post #25 of 48
I'm glad you got it under control. Neosporin down there=icky!

I'm a chick and I get a yeast infection EVERY time I'm on an antibiotic. Its so annoying but I've gotten good at treating them myself. Lots and lots of yogurt and cleaning down there daily with just water (get all the excess yeast off-which I usually bathe daily anyway but I'm extra careful during those times) 95% of the time gets rid of it on its own. If I cant get it to go away after a few days, or at least improve, I will break down and use an over the counter med, but I dont like using it unless I have to.

My intact son has never had an infection of any sort, but his circ'd dad has! It can happen to anyone, male or female, and I'm so glad you didnt go get circ'd because of it. Circing wont get rid of a yeast infection, thats just silly
post #26 of 48
For yeast monistate and never use neosporine on the penis only bacatracin.

Your dr obviously didnt know much about the intact penis.

FYI yeast happens to intact and cut men the same and the cure is the same. Antifungal
post #27 of 48
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Originally Posted by kelltrue View Post
It looks uglier but feels better.
I am very sorry for your recent experience. However, that line cracked me up!! That might be actually be a slogan that could change some minds LOL!
post #28 of 48
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Originally Posted by AntoninBeGonin View Post
And I agree with Nathan1097 about intact looking better. I bought the unedited version of the movie "Young Adam" which has an extremely sexy scene of hottie Ewan McGregor giving a loooooooong full frontal. Mmmm...mmmmm!
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FWIW, I don't think it's uglier. I just think that slogan would work for some women hehe.
post #29 of 48
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Originally Posted by trmpetplaya View Post
Intact looks much better than circumcised, IMO. There's no scar, for one thing! It also just looks totally wrong for the glans to be exposed when flaccid.... or for a baby's glans to be exposed

love and peace.
First of all, I just want to say that I don't think anybody's penis, whether cir'd or not is ugly. I believe in bodily integrity and that includes being sensitive to people and their parts.

That being said, it's interesting to me that now that I'm so used to my son's intact penis, I do feel a tiny bit taken a back when I see the "exposed" penis of a circumcized baby boy. I now feel comfortable with the idea that a penis is meant to be an internal organ, tucked safely in its' foreskin. I have never seen my son's actual penis (forget what's it's called technically). I won't see that until his foreskin retracts on it's own of course. He's not yet a year. So it does feel a little funny for me when I see a baby boy who doesn't have that covering. I feel like the foreskin gives my son a sense of privacy and ensures a sense of bodily integrity by keeping his most intimate part out of sight since it's covered by his foreskin. I feel so blessed that I realized the benefits of leaving him intact.
post #30 of 48
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Originally Posted by catholic74 View Post
First of all, I just want to say that I don't think anybody's penis, whether cir'd or not is ugly. I believe in bodily integrity and that includes being sensitive to people and their parts.

That being said, it's interesting to me that now that I'm so used to my son's intact penis, I do feel a tiny bit taken a back when I see the "exposed" penis of a circumcized baby boy. I now feel comfortable with the idea that a penis is meant to be an internal organ, tucked safely in its' foreskin. I have never seen my son's actual penis (forget what's it's called technically). I won't see that until his foreskin retracts on it's own of course. He's not yet a year. So it does feel a little funny for me when I see a baby boy who doesn't have that covering. I feel like the foreskin gives my son a sense of privacy and ensures a sense of bodily integrity by keeping his most intimate part out of sight since it's covered by his foreskin. I feel so blessed that I realized the benefits of leaving him intact.
Wow, so glad you said that, I was thinking of mentioning that but knew I wouldn't be able to do so with any brevity or eloquence.

I very much agree. I also had a friend refer to an intact child's penis as 'cute' and 'looking like a baby carrot' when someone casually mentioned that she was researching the issue and had no idea what one looked like.

I would never think of referring to an infants penis as ugly, except that a newly circumcised one is wounded- it doesn't look ugly, but just looks, well wounded, injured... words fail me.

Jessica
post #31 of 48
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Originally Posted by jessjgh1 View Post
I would never think of referring to an infants penis as ugly, except that a newly circumcised one is wounded- it doesn't look ugly, but just looks, well wounded, injured... words fail me.
how bout peeled carrot?
post #32 of 48
Like a PP mentioned, yogurt can help. I've used yogurt a few times for myself and once hubby, who's intact, caught it off me - we were TTC so skipping a session wasn't really an option. I slathered yogurt on him a couple of times and it cleared up in two, maybe, three days.

And like others, I certainly wouldn't call an intact penis ugly but would agree that they have their advantages.
post #33 of 48
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Originally Posted by perspective View Post
Actually I disagree. I found that comment very rude, hurtful, and the "dishrag" part quite disgusting. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, some people think circed penises look ugly, some think intact penises are ugly. Personally I feel all genitals (male and female) are not very attractive.

But the point is not what you find attractive, but its about being respectful of other people and their bodies. There is enough disrespect from the pro-circ side on the male body, lets not accept this kind of talk on our side.

I think one of the key principals of this forum should be to respect each others bodies, be they circumcised, intact, or female.
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VERY well said, my friend.
post #34 of 48
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Originally Posted by perspective View Post
Actually I disagree. I found that comment very rude, hurtful, and the "dishrag" part quite disgusting. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, some people think circed penises look ugly, some think intact penises are ugly. Personally I feel all genitals (male and female) are not very attractive.

But the point is not what you find attractive, but its about being respectful of other people and their bodies. There is enough disrespect from the pro-circ side on the male body, lets not accept this kind of talk on our side.

I think one of the key principals of this forum should be to respect each others bodies, be they circumcised, intact, or female.
I used the word dried out dishrag because that's exactly the image that comes to mind when I see pictures like this and this.

I personally don't have much invested in the attractiveness of penises. I'm more attracted to vaginas. But to say that a circ'd penis "looks better" or is "prettier" when it is (in general) scarred and dried out, doesn't really make much sense to me.

I don't call circ'd men's genitals "ugly" but I certainly don't praise them as being "pretty" or "not as ugly as uncircumcised penises," which is what was being said.
post #35 of 48
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Originally Posted by majazama View Post
how bout peeled carrot?
That is a very accurate description* of how my 3 day old nephew's penis looked.

*Description, not value judgment
post #36 of 48
Thank you for taking the time to post here and share your story. I just have one small detail to add...

My first son was circumcised (big mistake I regret every day); and guess what? As a baby, he suffered yeast infections on a regular basis. So circumcision doesn't prevent them either (in case anyone was thinking it might).

Again, thanks for sharing your story....and I wonder if you mightn't become a regular poster here, after all. Even if you just keep us in mind when you decide to become a parent, there's so much to be learned on these boards. The type of thinker you are (or at least from what I've gathered from your post), you'll probably find yourself feeling quite at home here; even if you don't have kids yet. I'll definitely be watching for you.

(PS: Might I suggest doing some research about the infection and possible treatments. Doctor's often jump quickly into a "solution" because it's easier - though, I'm sure you know that. I know I've seen more natural solutions to yeast infections on here; so poke around some. Also, I've never heard of using neosporin, but that doesn't mean anything besides that I haven't heard anything about it)

ETA: I just read through the replies here; and I think "uglier" isn't the proper term for how people feel about un-circ'd penises. It's "unusual"...and people don't like that, because they don't like change. But I second the notion that it feels better...there's no denying that whatsoever.
post #37 of 48
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Originally Posted by Blu Razzberri View Post
to add...

My first son was circumcised (big mistake I regret every day); and guess what? As a baby, he suffered yeast infections on a regular basis. So circumcision doesn't prevent them either (in case anyone was thinking it might).
One of my good friends' son was circumcised and he has had an infection on his penis for close to 6 months now. It simply won't go away. When the first doctor told her that it was possibly a yeast infection my friend was shocked. She thought that only girls got yeast infections!

But, yes...circumcised or intact...both penises are capable of becoming infected.
post #38 of 48
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Originally Posted by Papai View Post
I used the word dried out dishrag because that's exactly the image that comes to mind when I see pictures like this and this.
I will admit that those penises look "dried out", (and quite overly scarred) all I can say about that is I am circumcised, and my genitals look a heck of a lot more moisturized then that, lol. Again, even if it did, thats not the point.

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I personally don't have much invested in the attractiveness of penises. I'm more attracted to vaginas. But to say that a circ'd penis "looks better" or is "prettier" when it is (in general) scarred and dried out, doesn't really make much sense to me.

I don't call circ'd men's genitals "ugly" but I certainly don't praise them as being "pretty" or "not as ugly as uncircumcised penises," which is what was being said.
No one is saying you need to find them pretty, heck if you want you can make a whole thread about how you dont think circed penises look pretty. (There are certainly enough people out there in America saying the same about intact penises)

The point is not your opinion on whats pretty. The point is that you compared circumcised penises to "a dishrag left to dry on the porch."

Maybe you just got a little carried away (we all do some times) but that kind of language is disrespectful and insulting, and if you dont understand that, you need to. Because I personally believe this movement is just as much about respecting the male body as it is about ending RIC.
post #39 of 48
I guess since I am only used to see DS & DH's at this stage if I happen to see a circ'ed one it's on a child. And that just makes me sad to think what happened to them.
post #40 of 48
I haven't read all the replies yet but next time try something like lotrimin. My ds got yeast infections all the time his first year (and he was circ'd btw so I don't see how circing would solve the problem anyways) and lotrimin always cured it right away.

I just don't understand why a doc would recommend circing in the first place. Circ'd guys get yeast infections too. I remember my first lover got a yeast infection from me and he was circ'd.

The more I think about it the more the doc sounds like a total quack. It's common sense to suggest an anti-fungal like nystatin or lotrimin for a yeast infection and it makes no sense to suggest a circ. I'd stay clear of that doc IMO.
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