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post #21 of 60
Good Luck, Wallflowers and honey, of course you can do it again!

Love,

Jen

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Hopefully I can get to it again. It felt so good getting rid of stuff before. Wish me luck
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post #23 of 60
I think I have a good relationship with my things. I know that they are just things, and that if something happens to them I'll be fine. I've had a lot of belongings, and I've had a little. I refuse to have to move to a bigger place just house belongings, or to have to rent a storage unit, etc. Right now I have a LOT of baby equipment, thanks to yard sales and hand me downs, but once I know what baby will like and not like, I'll be fine letting things go. For me, the number of items I have isn't a problem...I more need to think about the following:

Does these object align with my beliefs? As in, did I buy it from a place I respect, is it helping me be more or less environmentally aware, etc.

Did I spend a lot of money on this object and then ended up not using or enjoying it (a big problem with me for a while, but luckily that's been curbed)

Is it one of those "I'll use it one day items"? I was pretty poor for a while and a serious dumpster diver. I could have a tendancy to hoard if I didn't watch myself...oh god what if my (fill in the blank) breaks down and I have no money? I should keep this extra one! No, no, this is bad. At least for me.
post #24 of 60
I love this thread..
I have to ask, though.. 10 toys? How on earth did you manage that?
I saw your list.. do you mean 10 actual toys or say, do dolls count as one, dress up as another?
post #25 of 60
[QUOTE=Danidama;11273416]she'd just throw them around and not really play with anything, and start bouncing around/in/off the big couch cushions instead.

This made me wonder what my dd would do if there were no toys at all in our house! She, too, likes to just jump around on the couch. I suspect that she would just pick up her hands or some silverware or cups or any old object and make them into toys. Thinking along those lines may help us "declutter" a few of her toys tomorrow!

A few months ago I asked my dd if she wanted to give some of her toys to kids who don't have as many toys as she does. She said "yes" and helped me pick some out. Now it is a regular thing that happens at our house - when I start to feel that there are just too many toys piling up in every corner, I ask her "how about if we give this to the kids who don't have so many toys?" Sometimes she says "yes" sometimes "no" and sometimes she suggests a different toy. I am so glad she is into this. It makes it so much easier to get a few toys off to a new home every now and then.

Thanks for the inspiring thread!
post #26 of 60
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Thanks for the inspiring thread!
Absolutely! I did a major declutter this past winter. I think I made four trips to a thrift store with the seats in our Pilot folded down and the vehicle packed. I read this thread yesterday and it inspired me to go through again. I started in my bedroom yesterday and did that, our bathroom, the closet in the baby's room and the boys bathroom. I got two garbage bags full of trash. I have four garbage bags of stuff to donate. I'm busy this weekend, but Monday I will start again. I want to have only what we love and/or has a use in our home. I don't want to keep stuff "in case we need it someday" anymore. Thank you!
post #27 of 60
omg thank you!!! Your story is exactly hat I needed to hear right now
post #28 of 60
This is so inspirational! I just donated a big bag of random stuff :

Old cd's i haven't listened to in forever, some clothes that ds has grown out of and weren't "faves" to save for future offspring, crappy toys that came from my childhood! lol, a cassette tape that i'd held onto for sentimental reasons, a shirt that i hated but kept around just because i might like it someday haha and a bunch of other stuff.

I also swept up downstairs, did 3 loads of laundry, hung ds cloth diapers on the line to dry, sorted through and got rid of some old magazines, organized my home management binder, AND vacuumed the stairs!

I feel like a decluttering, simplifying goddess today ::

ETA:: I also wrote grocery lists for my upcoming week of pre=planned meals!
post #29 of 60
I've got the decluttering part down fairly well but now just need to work on other stuff coming in. Ugh!

Jen
post #30 of 60
I've gotten quite a bit of organizing and purging done lately. I reorganized my entire storage room, which it desperately needed. I purged a carload of stuff, with another carload to go, and I'm working on my clothes now!
post #31 of 60
Subbing so I can come back and read later!! Great thread.
post #32 of 60
Danidama, are you going to post pics of your minimalist abode?
post #33 of 60
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post #34 of 60
I still haven't read this thread in its entirety... been too busy decluttering! I just got rid of 10 bags of clothes, a box of children's books, a box of VHS tapes, and three huge boxes of toys. : <-- If the hearts were actually bits of clutter, that would be me, tossing it away!

My 5 yo was really super at grasping the concept. She is the one who picked out the books that were going (I was like, "Oh, you're getting rid of Sleeping Beauty?" and she said in this incredibly patient voice: "Mom, we have two of them." Ah. And a little child shall lead them...) and helped get rid of toys. And when I told her the guy picked them up (we Freecycled them) to give to his kids, she was really excited. I was so glad that all that stuff was Freecycled, it makes it easier to get rid of it to feel like it's going to be used and enjoyed. Otherwise it felt strangely like abandoning it. If that makes any sense.

And yesterday I told my Dh, "I have a problem." Not in the "what's wrong with me" self-pitying kind of way, but in the proactive, this is not who I want to be. This is not who I AM. This clutter is not healthy. It's not just a quirk, because it interferes in my life on every level. It's not creative, it's not flexible, it's not fun-loving, it's not carefree, a sign of a loving family. For years I've tried to tell myself that that's what mess is, and that clean is sterile, boring, uptight, stifled, a sign of a family where cleaning takes precedence over individuals. The opposite is true. OMG, it's so obvious. My mess isn't a sign of intelligence or freedom or anything of the sort. It's a barrier to creativity, to flexibility, to fun, to freedom, to simple enjoyment of my family. I am stifled by it. I'm bored with it. It makes me uptight. (However, no one would say it's sterile. )

So... there's my breakthrough. A lot still has to go, so so much. I am so into chucking stuff now.
post #35 of 60
* Double post.

I didn't know it posted before! Sorry!
post #36 of 60
Wow Collinsky I'm so impressed. I really needed to ready your post!!!
Thank you!!!

You go girl!!


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And yesterday I told my Dh, "I have a problem." Not in the "what's wrong with me" self-pitying kind of way, but in the proactive, this is not who I want to be. This is not who I AM. This clutter is not healthy. It's not just a quirk, because it interferes in my life on every level. It's not creative, it's not flexible, it's not fun-loving, it's not carefree, a sign of a loving family. For years I've tried to tell myself that that's what mess is, and that clean is sterile, boring, uptight, stifled, a sign of a family where cleaning takes precedence over individuals. The opposite is true. OMG, it's so obvious. My mess isn't a sign of intelligence or freedom or anything of the sort. It's a barrier to creativity, to flexibility, to fun, to freedom, to simple enjoyment of my family. I am stifled by it. I'm bored with it. It makes me uptight. (However, no one would say it's sterile. )

This part is sooooo very true.
post #37 of 60
Thread Starter 
bumpers, 'cause I'm a gooberface. I'm still doing it, hanging in there... the only issue I have now is the barrage of craptacular gifts from relatives, but it's the thought that counts, and other kids can use them more than we can (unless it's something dd is really crazy about). Oh also, it can get a little dreary-looking around here after a clean-up, so I am really looking forward to the non-renting life- buying a house for the first time soon, and being able to paint and decorate it any way we like! THAT will make quite a difference in how our home feels... All I can do now is use plants and such, and that's just not enough for white walls/appliances/everything and beige carpeting. Blah-gers! Now if only I had the first clue about decorating... I do know that I will paint -something- my favorite color, sea green.
post #38 of 60
DH is in the military, and we recently moved overseas in August 2007. I was 8 months pregnant, and I didn't know what kind of house we would be moving in so I did a huge purge. Thank goodness, because we moved into a much smaller house (about 600 square feet less...which may not seem like much, but trust me -- it really is!). This has inspired me to go home next week (we're on vacation) and start purging again!

About the toys thing...we purposely very rarely buy DD any toys. She doesn't have tons, but people do give her a lot, so she is set. I don't think we have bought her anything but two stuffed animals (her favorites ) since she was born. She is just as happy playing with a cup or pots & pans -- and I plan on letting her continue to be that way.
post #39 of 60
Woohoo! Thanks for bumping OP! I'm right in the middle of the journey you wrote about. We've gotten rid of so much, but more keeps showing up. Woke up this morning, tripping over STUFF and started to feel hopeless...Not Anymore! Thank you!
post #40 of 60
So is this like a tribe now??

I am a minimalist with too much stuff. At least now my DH is on board and we are slowly figuring out what we don't need, how to live with less. It is exciting and comforting at the same time. I love not having so much stuff!

When I had more stuff I never felt grateful to have it! I never felt like "Gee, aren't I lucky to have all of these things?"
NO way!

I was tired of picking it all up, not having anyplace to keep it, having to wash/dust/whatever it to keep it nice.

I am grateful for the things I have that I love. And that's why I keep them. But I don't need all of it.. I really appreciate things more when I can find them! lol
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